allanDR Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 6'1" and 180 lbs isn't really fat at all. That's kind of a normal weight.
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Well I said I'd pay half and he said he wouldn't let me because he said he ordered the more expensive wine. He also paid for the tip so it ended up with him paying for close to $60 while I paid $30. Still, normally a guy (even guys who are not that into me) will pay in full for the first day. Only a woman on a date could define $30 as "half" of $90. Princess math?
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 I don't regret offering because it's just part of being polite. . You offered but didn't want to be taken up on the offer. Sounds pretty darn insincere to me.
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 He's cheap. I think he lied when he said " This is the first time I have gone dutch on a date " He could have said :" Wow this is first , but no , I have the bill taken care of :" But he didn't , he accepted your payment. Awkward : Its an excuse . Him being awkward still the turn off is he wanted you to pay half. I can see after the first date if things were developing how you could cook him dinner but nooooo..... Strike out , yuck. He's clever. He realised she was not gonna have sex with him ever, so when she offered to pay half (in reality, 1/3), he thought "SCORE! I save $30, take it!".
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Ok I'm sorry if you all think I"m superficial, but according to my Chinese culture what this guy did was cheap. If you all don't agree with my cultural traditions then fine, but no need to bash alright. Is he Chinese? Was this date in China? No. The guy was American, the date was in America. You don't agree with his "cultural tradition" of actually meaning the things you say...yet you bashed him for taking words at face value. Double standard, no?
mental_traveller Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 So in traditional Chinese culture, 2 people go out on an internet date, the female posts on a website asking others if he might be fat, and then decides to go out with him, even though she is not over her ex. Then they go out and eat for a $100 on a blind date. When it is time to pay, the traditional Chinese female does a "fake pay" movement, while verbally offering to pay? Very funny and very true.
Author gummybear Posted September 27, 2008 Author Posted September 27, 2008 Maybe he's not cheap. That's relative anyway. BUT, he's definitely NOT generous! and this is in comparison to ALL OTHER guys I've dated in the past who refused to let me pay. My last 3 bfs all refused to let me pay on our first dates because THEY all said it's the chivalrous way of doing things. This is NOT about being cheap or whatever, it's the chivalry. I'd rather date most other guys who more chivalrous over him.
Lucky_One Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 You don't even know him; how can you say whether or not he is generous? And if you think that, why would you ever ever want to pursue a friendship with him? Or is it really just about the free tickets and the clubs he can get you into?
vonerik012 Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 Ladies ladies... Do you think men really want to pay? Many men more or less view it as an obligation. Similar to paying taxes, rent, bills, or a mortgage. They derive NO pleasure from it. They just play the game to get laid. A guy that works for me came to work telling me about a date, and he was complaining about how much money he spent. Obviously he puts on a show to her, like money is no big deal, but he just does this out of necessity to get some. He then tells his coworkers/buddies about how much money he wasted. Some of you women watch too many movies..
refurb Posted September 27, 2008 Posted September 27, 2008 So in traditional Chinese culture, 2 people go out on an internet date, the female posts on a website asking others if he might be fat, and then decides to go out with him, even though she is not over her ex. Then they go out and eat for a $100 on a blind date. When it is time to pay, the traditional Chinese female does a "fake pay" movement, while verbally offering to pay? Ouch!!!:lmao: RF
Walk Posted September 28, 2008 Posted September 28, 2008 Only a woman on a date could define $30 as "half" of $90. Princess math? Baw-HAhaha. Freakin' hillarious. I busted out laughing... I'm pulling this one on my H next time he complains about me being cheap. hahhaa
Author gummybear Posted September 29, 2008 Author Posted September 29, 2008 My last 3 bfs were all Caucasian -- born and grew up in America -- and they ALL insisted on paying for the first date. It's not that what this guy did was bad...in fact it's nice that he paid 2/3...but in comparison to others, it's just a bit lacking. I'm not saying he's a bad person, a bad date, nor is he really cheap...but he did not impress me. Plus we just didn't hit it off. This whole paying for dinner thing just added to it.
Mary3 Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 Ladies ladies... Do you think men really want to pay? Many men more or less view it as an obligation. Similar to paying taxes, rent, bills, or a mortgage. They derive NO pleasure from it. They just play the game to get laid. A guy that works for me came to work telling me about a date, and he was complaining about how much money he spent. Obviously he puts on a show to her, like money is no big deal, but he just does this out of necessity to get some. He then tells his coworkers/buddies about how much money he wasted. Some of you women watch too many movies.. Guys ! You can get away with a $ 20 for a movie. Don't drop the big cash on a first date. Tell your friend he doesn't need to dump his wallet on a first date. There are some women who might really take advantage of your friend and rack up a big bill....It does not gaurantee getting laid. Not all women are like this though...
Mary3 Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 He's clever. He realised she was not gonna have sex with him ever, so when she offered to pay half (in reality, 1/3), he thought "SCORE! I save $30, take it!". And with this Economy....he needs to save where he can...
KismetGirl Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 Not only was he not fat, he was slender and good-looking, plus he had alot of connections to cool places in the new city I'm in. He's not my type plus he made me pay for part of the bill (this is the first time a guy made me pay for dinner on the first date) so I probably won't want him as my bf, but I think he'd make a good friend for a newbie like me in town. He's got free passes to museums and this cool club and wants me to go with him. He said he's gonna email me tomorrow so we shall see. Hopefully this other guy I got from eharmony will be better bf material. Um.....180 on a guy who is 6'1" is very normal, your perception of weight is obviously somewhat skewed..... he sounds like an idiot. Museums are free in most cities or work on donations. What a loser.
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