friendly guy Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 hi, so me and this girl have been friends for while now (keep in mind shes my best friends sister). i always wanted more than friendship with her because shes such a great girl. we have common interests and all, but ive never been good with girls in the case of dating because im more of a shy person. this past summer though, we really hung out alot and eventually we hooked up(not meaning sex). we started to a more intimate and kinda started dating. everything was going great. we went out on dates and seemed like we were basically boyfriend/girlfriend. then it suddenly stopped. we both had other things coming up for school and such. we still talked somewhat but it seemed like it was back to being friends. i knew when we were together she enjoyed being with me. we were both home for a weekend and got together. we hung out, but it was at public events with other people. after that night we hugged and that was it. i was just wondering what other people thought of this situation. i know i Should talk to her about this but i just cant get the courage to do this, or if it would complicate our friendship. i do want more than friendship, but i dont want to lose that. i want to talk to her, even just over IM, but i have no clue what to say at this point. i dont want to sound like just a friend but not too overanxious to talk to her. any thoughts?
Legend Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 short answer: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/X_chromosome
Green Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 dude why didn't you try to kissing her instead of just huging? Your the man don't expect her to be agressive... whats complicated about that
FormerNiceGuy Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 It's not a problem with women. But rather it's because you don't have the courage to move it to the next step. You need to draw the line and stop being one of her friends, and become a lover. And the first step is to take charge. Be decisive. Be strong. Be brave. Be courageous. Don't run away from confrontation. And be sexual. Do not hide your masculinity. Do not hide your desires in your effort to seem "nice". Just go for what you want. Because if you don't, you'll wish you did. And you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Who cares if you will jeapordize the friendship. It is better to be rejected then to waste your time. To be strung along as a slave, constantly fooled..only to have her go with another guy. Rejection is better than regret. "Never try to become a "friend" when you first meet a girl. You must show her that you are attracted to her and would like to pursue a romantic relationship right away, because once you’re dropped into the "friends" category, it's next to impossible to get out." Just go for it, man. If she turns you down or comes up with some bullsh*t excuse, smile and walk away and never turn back. And go for the girl who actually will care about you. Amp it up. Make it impossible for her to see you as "just a friend".
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