rsm Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 Some of you might remember me. The story isn't important, same old song... I am a good husband/father that lost focus of his wife. Wife forms male friends, may have physically cheated but definitely emotionally. Need to find herself, loves me not in love...... Anyways, she has filled out paperwork and is ready to file. I'm have come to grips with it. I'm not happy about it but she isn't willing to put any work into it, even though our issues are workable. I am being easy going and letting her do what she will. I am not helping but i'm not fighting it. Here's the questions. She can't ask me for a divorce. She can say she'll file the papers. She can say we need to separate but can't say "I want a divorce". I have asked her why, she doesn't know. I would just like that closure to say we are done. She claims she'll be crushed when I start dating again and says she knows she'll regret this. She says she doesn't want to be divorced and is afraid she'll be alone forever. I should mention we still live in the same house, sleep in the same bed and are still intimate. Why? I am not making things tough. She knows i am going to help set her up with a place and the money will come from both of us (we have 2 kids). She has been looking for a place but the timing is bad right now, busy with work. I'm sure she'll have a place soon though. I'm sure most will say i'm a safety net and she is saying what I want to hear. Which is probably true, but is there more? She said she thought she saw a glimmer of hope yesterday, but this is after I opened my big mouth and said some stupid things. We still get along fine, very little arguing but she has put up a wall so I can't be affectionate unless she wants it. Am I clutching at straws or is there a long shot there? I'm not looking "time will heal" stuff. I just really would like to keep the family together and I still do really love her. I am ready to try with all I have if she was willing. I am as ready as am going to be for the divorce but need to know that this is what she wants. I told her that her head really wants this but her heart doesn't seem so sure. Any insight would be appreciated.
TrustInYourself Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 Sounds like you're taking all the right steps to keep your family together if your wife is questioning her actions. I prescribe more of the same?
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