scold2886 Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 Please help me on this one. Well i been going thru this crazy break-up for 3 month's now. This girl that i still love with all my heart keeps playing game's with me and i just dont get it anymore. Well for the last 3 month's we been talking here and there till i annoyed her and she change her number on me. So we went no contact for like 2 week's. Last week i sent her an email asking how she was and if we could hang out sometime and see how we both felt befor i made a big life choice. She emailed me back that same night and also called me. So we got to talking better then it's been in awhile. So we talked for about a week and a half and she was telling me she was confused and she diden't have a new boyfriend which i knew was a lie. So when she finnaly told me it diden't bother me that much . I guess she was mad at him and the only reason she was acting nice towards me or something i dont know. So she told me on a text message she was confused and i need to let her be. I really haven't let her be but anytime she talk's to me when she not around him it's not that bad it's always good, but when she around him she act's different. Which bring's me to tonight because at this point i'm so confused. I called her and wanted to know if what she said was true about working thing's out. She acted like i diden't know what i was talking about and kept telling me to stop calling her that she just want's to be left alone. so i asked her when she called and talk to me all those time's last week if what she said was true.Her response to me was i haven't called or spoke to you sense i kicked you out and im like WTF. So at this point i'm more confused then anything. What should i do should i believe her and what she said or what.I'm thinking about trying no contact with her again but it's so hard. I just dont get how she calls me one day wanting to come see her and spend time with her and a week later she act's like this again. I want to be with her so bad or am i trying to hard. This loser she with now has nothing to offer her and isent doing anything for her. He has no job car and is just staying with her for a place to live i just don't know what to think all i know is she is struggling bad ever sense i left and going nowhere with him. So how can i win her back and should i try no contact again or what..
zicke Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 Let her have the loser for awhile and you go and work on yourself. You sound kinda young, so, really, she will not be the last woman on the planet you will ever have feelings for. Also, next time she contacts you, just IGNORE her, she dumped you. You have no obligation to her whatsoever. Let her stew in her decision to cut ties. You being there for here whenever she calls you is going to net you nothing. Be smart. Give her what she wanted in the first place. Don't cave.
ahhhchooo Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 She has changed her number, she lied to you and given you the "give me some space!" line. She is also trying to keep you on a string as a last resort and using you as emotional support while she is going out with this guy. You need to distance yourself from this girl and stop letting her screw with your head. Broken up for 3 months and still getting screwed around is not a healthy situation for YOU. You are not going to win her back by being her b*tch. All you're doing is supporting her while she's with this guy and probably allowing their relationship to last longer than if you weren't there at all. NC won't necessarily win her back either, but if she's going to see that she wants and needs you, give her the space she asked for. She'll get sick of this loser faster if she doesn't have the emotional support you're giving her.
Daranhatu Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 From what I'm hearing dude, she's playing you - you're falling for it and she's not worth it. The first thing to think about in this is if this loser is living with her, that should be a complete dealbreaker for you. Women like this, who would prefer a loser like that over someone who actually cares for them, isn't worth your time, mind or feelings. I know it is hard to let go of someone you care about, maybe even love - but true love is a two-way street, my friend. This looks more of a one-way to me, and it's all coming from you. I recently went through a breakup that gnawed at me for a few months, mine isn't the same as yours, but I know what you're feeling. Here's a suggestion: Start working out, get some new clothes that makes you feel and look smashing, and COMPLETELY ignore her. No calls, no responses, nada. Do things that you enjoy to take your mind off of her, keep yourself busy. I'm not going to say forget her and move on, cause with feelings that's not very easy to do - but for now live for yourself and ONLY you - make yourself number one. Things could change faster than you think, either with her - or you find someone new, who is more deserving of you than she is. Let her stew in her mess until, or if she ever does, get out on her own.
EmperorR Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 From what I'm hearing dude, she's playing you - you're falling for it and she's not worth it. The first thing to think about in this is if this loser is living with her, that should be a complete dealbreaker for you. Women like this, who would prefer a loser like that over someone who actually cares for them, isn't worth your time, mind or feelings. I know it is hard to let go of someone you care about, maybe even love - but true love is a two-way street, my friend. This looks more of a one-way to me, and it's all coming from you. I recently went through a breakup that gnawed at me for a few months, mine isn't the same as yours, but I know what you're feeling. Here's a suggestion: Start working out, get some new clothes that makes you feel and look smashing, and COMPLETELY ignore her. No calls, no responses, nada. Do things that you enjoy to take your mind off of her, keep yourself busy. I'm not going to say forget her and move on, cause with feelings that's not very easy to do - but for now live for yourself and ONLY you - make yourself number one. Things could change faster than you think, either with her - or you find someone new, who is more deserving of you than she is. Let her stew in her mess until, or if she ever does, get out on her own. Listen to this man, NC
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