alphamale Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 I've only briefly talked to her twice and I should ask for her number already??? i've asked for women's number after a 5 minute conversation. sometimes i got it and sometimes i didn't
samspade Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 I've only briefly talked to her twice and I should ask for her number already??? What Alphamale said. I walked up to a girl in a fast food restaurant once, told her I was in a hurry but thought she was attractive and asked for her number, and I got it. Slept with her within a week and dated her 4-5 months. You don't have to be THAT brief, but I'm just saying, keep it simple. Look, you don't want to get all close right away. Charm her a little and get the number and then leave. You want to save your conversation for when it's just you and her, alone, at a nice quiet/romantic place. And even then, you don't want to reveal too much too soon about yourself...keep it light and flirty and fun. No sharing of feelings, no acting like her friend. Be a little mysterious. But the thing is, about asking her out, you gotta just do it and stop obsessing. It's like diving into the deep end: hold your breath and go. So chat her up a bit, be funny and confident, tell her you want her number, and then leave. Call her in a few days. You'll be fine, dude! She's probably horny and WAITING for you to approach her. If you don't, someone else will.
Author one goal Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 i've asked for women's number after a 5 minute conversation. sometimes i got it and sometimes i didn't So you say next time I talk to her ask her for her number? Should I tell her I think shes cute too, and that I wanna go hangout sometime? Or just ask for her number instead?
Isolde Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 Holy cow. one goal, take a deep breath. You're investing so much into what to say to this girl, you will sabotage yourself. If you are really this nervous, here are some tips for you: 1) Approach some girls you AREN'T attracted to and chat them up. Say anything, just be funny and lighthearted. Hell, if it goes well, ask them for their numbers. You don't ever have to call them. But this will put you in the right mindset. I flirt with girls that I think are ugly all the time, because 1) it's good to be in that mindset 24/7, and 2) they (at least I think) enjoy it. It's good practice anyway. I understand why you would do this, but I'm not sure it's fair to ask a girl for her number if you don't find her attractive. Brief flirting is ok, more than that = leading her on.
samspade Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 So you say next time I talk to her ask her for her number? Should I tell her I think shes cute too, and that I wanna go hangout sometime? Or just ask for her number instead? Did you read anything I told you? For God's sake. Compliment her once, if you must, and make it sincere and not cliche. TELL her you want to take her out sometime, and say "give me your phone number." If she says no, smile and say "just thought I'd ask." Now hurry up and do it or you'll miss your chance. I understand why you would do this, but I'm not sure it's fair to ask a girl for her number if you don't find her attractive. Brief flirting is ok, more than that = leading her on. I'm not leading anybody on. Getting a number is an extremely early step and is not a promise to call. I've also not called girls I DO think are attractive because I got busier than I thought or met someone else. Besides, I've had my share of women give me their numbers and then never call me back - it cuts both ways. If someone is distraught over something so minor, he/she has bigger issues. It's just a phone number, I'm not leaving anybody at the altar.
Green Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 So you say next time I talk to her ask her for her number? Should I tell her I think shes cute too, and that I wanna go hangout sometime? Or just ask for her number instead? You should make the decision for yourself. I think it would be better if you just comment on what your doing after youve done it
Author one goal Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 You should make the decision for yourself. I think it would be better if you just comment on what your doing after youve done it So I should try and get her # the next time i see her? Isn't that moving kinda fast?
alphamale Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 So I should try and get her # the next time i see her? yes... Isn't that moving kinda fast? no..
Green Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 So I should try and get her # the next time i see her? Isn't that moving kinda fast? What do you think and why?
Author one goal Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 What do you think and why? I dunno. Since I only briefly talked to her twice, I thought asking for a number is moving too fast.
Green Posted November 8, 2008 Posted November 8, 2008 I dunno. Since I only briefly talked to her twice, I thought asking for a number is moving too fast. But why didn't you just talk to her more then, and how much do you think you need to talk to her before its a good time to ask for the number? Did some one tell you something or did you read something or have some past experience that tells you when you should ask for the number?
Author one goal Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 But why didn't you just talk to her more then, and how much do you think you need to talk to her before its a good time to ask for the number? Did some one tell you something or did you read something or have some past experience that tells you when you should ask for the number? I didnt really have time to talk to her much or get to know her more since it was before class. I'd have to find a way to ask her out and get to know her better.
Green Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 I didnt really have time to talk to her much or get to know her more since it was before class. I'd have to find a way to ask her out and get to know her better. well then do that
Funkymonkey Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 How to approach a girl you like? By going up to them and talking to them.
samspade Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Asking for a number is not moving too fast. Please stop second-guessing yourself and do it. I can't wait for the thread about the first date...
Author one goal Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 Asking for a number is not moving too fast. Please stop second-guessing yourself and do it. I can't wait for the thread about the first date... SO if I decided to try and ask her to hangout should I ask her for her number, or give her mine? Isn't the goal to get HER number so you can call her?
Green Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 SO if I decided to try and ask her to hangout should I ask her for her number, or give her mine? Isn't the goal to get HER number so you can call her? I'm not going to lie all these questions are only hurting you just go out there and make bold moves, total idiots get the most women... all they have to do is actualy get out there and make moves. So no more questions just do it, uve gotten way to many responses already
jayOG Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 Every person and scenario is different... But I've found that talking to someone before class is very effective. I usually ask if we have any assignments. Then somehow end up talking about the professor. This really allows you to talk about some unrelated topic and sets you up to make a good first impression. Always make eye contact and watch for their eye contact. If they hold good eye contact with you they are generally interested in what you have to say. I end the conversation and go on with my life. Most girls always say hi to me in passing, so you can either bump into them and talk to them... Ask them out or whatever... Or you could facebook or myspace message them... I've had people do that after a brief conversation in class and i then proceed to ask them out from there. I understand that you might be nervous, but why should you care. It's not a big deal. Most people fear rejection, but it's somewhat absurd to fear rejection, just another human insecurity... Who are they that you should value their opinion enough to feel hurt if you are rejected. I would be hurt if my friend rejected me for some reason, but someone I barely know... doesn't really make sense. Don't be too eager to get her number or ask her out... Play it cool... Just make a good impression. I've never hit on a girl in my entire life, I just make good impressions... The rest seems to fall in place.
samspade Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 SO if I decided to try and ask her to hangout should I ask her for her number, or give her mine? Isn't the goal to get HER number so you can call her? I'm starting to think you are a troll. We've already told you, get HER number. Do not give yours. That might work one in ten times. And like I said, try suggesting she give it to you rather than asking. Now, to preemptively answer your follow up question, no, it's not too early to ask for her number. And yes you should get her number. And no it's not to early. And yes you should get it. Ad infinitum. If you haven't attempted to get her number by the end of the week, someone should slap you. Just a little.
Author one goal Posted November 9, 2008 Author Posted November 9, 2008 Every person and scenario is different... But I've found that talking to someone before class is very effective. I usually ask if we have any assignments. Then somehow end up talking about the professor. This really allows you to talk about some unrelated topic and sets you up to make a good first impression. Always make eye contact and watch for their eye contact. If they hold good eye contact with you they are generally interested in what you have to say. I end the conversation and go on with my life. Most girls always say hi to me in passing, so you can either bump into them and talk to them... Ask them out or whatever... Or you could facebook or myspace message them... I've had people do that after a brief conversation in class and i then proceed to ask them out from there. I understand that you might be nervous, but why should you care. It's not a big deal. Most people fear rejection, but it's somewhat absurd to fear rejection, just another human insecurity... Who are they that you should value their opinion enough to feel hurt if you are rejected. I would be hurt if my friend rejected me for some reason, but someone I barely know... doesn't really make sense. Don't be too eager to get her number or ask her out... Play it cool... Just make a good impression. I've never hit on a girl in my entire life, I just make good impressions... The rest seems to fall in place. I'll try and get her number. I dunno how to ask.
Green Posted November 9, 2008 Posted November 9, 2008 I'm starting to think you are a troll. We've already told you, get HER number. Do not give yours. That might work one in ten times. And like I said, try suggesting she give it to you rather than asking. Now, to preemptively answer your follow up question, no, it's not too early to ask for her number. And yes you should get her number. And no it's not to early. And yes you should get it. Ad infinitum. If you haven't attempted to get her number by the end of the week, someone should slap you. Just a little. I don't think this person is a troll just very socialy awkward almost to a handicaped level. I'm just interest too see if he actualy takes my advice and asks her out, after you've asked her to hang out or do something just get her number for logistical reasons... don't worry about the minutia of the detail just do it
Isolde Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 I'll try and get her number. I dunno how to ask. "Hey, can I have your number?"
Isolde Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 I'm not leading anybody on. Getting a number is an extremely early step and is not a promise to call. I've also not called girls I DO think are attractive because I got busier than I thought or met someone else. Besides, I've had my share of women give me their numbers and then never call me back - it cuts both ways. If someone is distraught over something so minor, he/she has bigger issues. It's just a phone number, I'm not leaving anybody at the altar. It's not that I think not calling is HURTFUL, I just don't understand why you'd want the number of someone you didn't find cute. Seems like a waste of energy to me. *shrugs*
samspade Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 It's not that I think not calling is HURTFUL, I just don't understand why you'd want the number of someone you didn't find cute. Seems like a waste of energy to me. *shrugs* Like I said earlier, it's just good practice, sharpening the saw. I don't necessarily want the number, but it's easier to be in the habit of getting it for when someone I actually want to ask out comes along. It's just like shooting free throws or playing guitar, the more you do it, the better you get. And since it's not hurting anyone, it's all good. Since men are the ones expected to do the asking out, it's only fair that we get some reps in!
Green Posted November 10, 2008 Posted November 10, 2008 Like I said earlier, it's just good practice, sharpening the saw. I don't necessarily want the number, but it's easier to be in the habit of getting it for when someone I actually want to ask out comes along. It's just like shooting free throws or playing guitar, the more you do it, the better you get. And since it's not hurting anyone, it's all good. Since men are the ones expected to do the asking out, it's only fair that we get some reps in! If this guy gets a number he better call it, unless he is sharpening his skills with imaginary people...
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