Konfuzion Posted October 7, 2008 Posted October 7, 2008 So tomorrow i have class. Any suggestions? A class before mine uses the same classroom on tue so we have to wait until it gets out before we can go and sit down so it means i might get a chance to talk to her before class while we are waiting. Hahaha what advice would you like.... Maybe advise yourself, because you have been give tons of good advice and your still asking for more. And your also not following the advice that is give. IE "I messaged the one girl again on facebook she didnt reply." You would be super lucky to get a reply on face book because approaching a woman that way shows 0 confidence.
likestolaugh Posted October 19, 2008 Posted October 19, 2008 ....and nothing happened probably...? any update... did you finally get the nerve up to talk to anyone?
Author one goal Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 I finally talked to a hot girl today! Not the hot brunette I talked about before in class, but another blonde whos just as hot. She was sitting on the bench outside the classroom waiting for the class before to get out. She didn't look too happy, and looked kinda sad, not in the best of moods. So I went and sat down also since class had not got out yet. I just told her she looked sad, and if she was ok, and she said "yea I'm fine" Anyways I asked her what her name is and I told her my name. She said "nice to meet you xxx" I didn't tell her she was cute, pretty ect, left it at that since she didnt look too happy, and probably not in the mood to talk, but at least I got my name out there, and made the intitial contact with her which shows I was interested cause I noticed she didn't look too happy. So next time in a few days when I see her before or after class again how should I talk to her since I already introduced myself? Should I ask her if she wants to go get something to eat after class, or go hangout sometime? I dunno if she has a bf though. I did earlier see a guy talking with her for a bit, and she text alot. I mean it doesnt hurt to show interest, right? I mean I made the initial contact which is a good start, right?
Green Posted November 4, 2008 Posted November 4, 2008 Just keep talking to her and other girls and making bold confident moves... Gain the confidence to not care so much and be yourself! Remember your most likely going to get rejected when it comes to one specific girl so make sure your talking to and asking out many girls. Good job trying something and atleast talking, but next time try to flirt in other words make her laugh and make it obvious you might be interested
Author one goal Posted November 4, 2008 Author Posted November 4, 2008 Since I know her name now what should I do next?
Green Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Make her laugh by telling some jokes and being funny, then ask her out and act confident and like you don't care if she says yes. Then take her to do something and kiss her and there you go. Oh yeah and do this with other girls too because you might find you don't like this girl orrrrrrrrrrr she might reject you.... Oh and do it soon like this week
Author one goal Posted November 5, 2008 Author Posted November 5, 2008 Make her laugh by telling some jokes and being funny, then ask her out and act confident and like you don't care if she says yes. Then take her to do something and kiss her and there you go. Oh yeah and do this with other girls too because you might find you don't like this girl orrrrrrrrrrr she might reject you.... Oh and do it soon like this week So if I get a chance to talk to her again on Thur what shoudl I say to her?
Green Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Don't go in with anything preplanned just have a spontanious interesting fun conversation that ends with you asking her out (No one can tell you what to effectivly say)
alphamale Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 So if I see her alone again what should I say to her since I never tlaked to her before? chat her up about class and the professor and assignments....you both have that in common Is it ok I tell her like I notice how pretty she is? if she's pretty then i wouldn't comment about that at all. she probably hears that all the time. comment on her necklace or her smile or how smart she is or even her shoes What should I say to her? see above...
Author one goal Posted November 5, 2008 Author Posted November 5, 2008 Don't go in with anything preplanned just have a spontanious interesting fun conversation that ends with you asking her out (No one can tell you what to effectivly say) So what should I say if i ask her out? where should i ask her out to?
Lizzie60 Posted November 5, 2008 Posted November 5, 2008 Hey.. class was on the 25th of Sept.. What happened? Did you talk to her? Wow.. how old are you? You don't know how to ask her out.. you don't know where to take her.. Do you need someone to hold your hand while you're out with her?
Author one goal Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 Hey.. class was on the 25th of Sept.. What happened? Did you talk to her? Wow.. how old are you? You don't know how to ask her out.. you don't know where to take her.. Do you need someone to hold your hand while you're out with her? LOL. That was a different girl. I never talked to her though,too nervous but the other hot girl in the same class I was able to get enough courage to talk to her just a little bit.
Green Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 LOL. That was a different girl. I never talked to her though,too nervous but the other hot girl in the same class I was able to get enough courage to talk to her just a little bit. I think Lizzies point is just go ahead and do some things and don't be affraid to mess up. You could take her any where, take her to a museum, to a bookstore, out to eat, a movie... for a walk on the beach... I mean just make it up as you go. Seriously you can't ask for advice as if you were a step by step manual. Just go do it already
Author one goal Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 I think Lizzies point is just go ahead and do some things and don't be affraid to mess up. You could take her any where, take her to a museum, to a bookstore, out to eat, a movie... for a walk on the beach... I mean just make it up as you go. Seriously you can't ask for advice as if you were a step by step manual. Just go do it already So you say I should ask her out when I only talked to her once before?
Green Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 So you say I should ask her out when I only talked to her once before? Yeah sounds good to me! But if you have a better idea I'm all ears
Author one goal Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 Yeah sounds good to me! But if you have a better idea I'm all ears How should I say it? just like ask her if she wants to hangout sometime?
Green Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 How should I say it? just like ask her if she wants to hangout sometime? I don't know man you seriously need to find a lifeskills coach if you can't think of a way to say it. I've already given you advice on how to go about it a few posts back its seriously imposible for me to get any more specific than this. Just ask a male friend how you should say it and every minutia of it because it can't be done in this msg board -Peace out good luck, just do it
Author one goal Posted November 6, 2008 Author Posted November 6, 2008 I didn't really get a chance to talk to her much today cause I didnt see her much before class, and I was talking to someone about classwork before class. I did get a chance though and I told her "Hi xxx how are you" I mean I didnt have a chance to talk to her, but noticing her and saying hi to her does it show I at least pay attention to her, and acknowledge her?
Isolde Posted November 6, 2008 Posted November 6, 2008 Dude, don't you realize that the more tied up in knots you get over this, the more likely she'll be to think you're a loser? I hate to be so blunt, but... geez. Yes, saying hi is a good first step. You can probably answer all of your own questions. Just think about what you want and try to get what you want and don't care about her reaction, just move on if she rejects you.
Author one goal Posted November 7, 2008 Author Posted November 7, 2008 Dude, don't you realize that the more tied up in knots you get over this, the more likely she'll be to think you're a loser? I hate to be so blunt, but... geez. Yes, saying hi is a good first step. You can probably answer all of your own questions. Just think about what you want and try to get what you want and don't care about her reaction, just move on if she rejects you. So what do you recommend I do then? How far should I go with her? Next time i talk to her should i just ask her if she wants to go to lunch sometime?
alphamale Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Next time i talk to her should i just ask her if she wants to go to lunch sometime? actually, ask her out to dinner and make sure its a real date. don't get into the friends zone
samspade Posted November 7, 2008 Posted November 7, 2008 Holy cow. one goal, take a deep breath. You're investing so much into what to say to this girl, you will sabotage yourself. If you are really this nervous, here are some tips for you: 1) Approach some girls you AREN'T attracted to and chat them up. Say anything, just be funny and lighthearted. Hell, if it goes well, ask them for their numbers. You don't ever have to call them. But this will put you in the right mindset. I flirt with girls that I think are ugly all the time, because 1) it's good to be in that mindset 24/7, and 2) they (at least I think) enjoy it. It's good practice anyway. 2) Realize that this girl may be hot, but she is just a girl, nothing more. She's probably as nervous as you are and a little insecure. Remember what they said in Swingers - she's a harmless bunny rabbit and you're a big bad wolf. (If you haven't watched Swingers, please do so.) 3) I know it's easy to say "just say whatever comes to mind," then you try and your mind goes blank. So here is what I will tell you...have a couple of lines prepared, but make them sound unrehearsed and make them funny. Is she reading a book? Say, "I hope you're not reading that awful book The Da Vinci Code. That book sucked." Wearing a nice dress? Say, "I like your dress. Where'd you get it, Kmart?" Have a line about class, homework, Gossip Girl, anything. Tell her you caught her checking you out in class and wanted to introduce yourself. I'm telling you this because it's important that you tease her a little (but not in a mean-spirited way). You want to make her laugh and take her down a peg. Why? She gets compliments and attention all the time, and you have to stand out by being a little different. She'll know you think she's hot without you saying so, but she'll appreciate that you're secure in yourself and willing to joke around. If you do this right, she may even smile and call you a "jerk" - this is code for "you're kinda cute." (Unless she says it in a serious way, then she means you're a jerk.) After a few minutes of repartee, tell her (don't ask her) "Give me your number, let's get a drink sometime." If she says yes, get the number and leave. If she declines, don't take it personally, just say, "well, thought I'd try. I'll see you next class." And don't worry about it - an initial rejection isn't the end of the world (she may come around, or you can date one of the other girls you've been flirting with). PS: I'd avoid dinner or lunch on a first date or even the first three or four dates. Keep it simple and fun - drinks, bowling, mini golf, etc.
Author one goal Posted November 8, 2008 Author Posted November 8, 2008 Holy cow. one goal, take a deep breath. You're investing so much into what to say to this girl, you will sabotage yourself. If you are really this nervous, here are some tips for you: 1) Approach some girls you AREN'T attracted to and chat them up. Say anything, just be funny and lighthearted. Hell, if it goes well, ask them for their numbers. You don't ever have to call them. But this will put you in the right mindset. I flirt with girls that I think are ugly all the time, because 1) it's good to be in that mindset 24/7, and 2) they (at least I think) enjoy it. It's good practice anyway. 2) Realize that this girl may be hot, but she is just a girl, nothing more. She's probably as nervous as you are and a little insecure. Remember what they said in Swingers - she's a harmless bunny rabbit and you're a big bad wolf. (If you haven't watched Swingers, please do so.) 3) I know it's easy to say "just say whatever comes to mind," then you try and your mind goes blank. So here is what I will tell you...have a couple of lines prepared, but make them sound unrehearsed and make them funny. Is she reading a book? Say, "I hope you're not reading that awful book The Da Vinci Code. That book sucked." Wearing a nice dress? Say, "I like your dress. Where'd you get it, Kmart?" Have a line about class, homework, Gossip Girl, anything. Tell her you caught her checking you out in class and wanted to introduce yourself. I'm telling you this because it's important that you tease her a little (but not in a mean-spirited way). You want to make her laugh and take her down a peg. Why? She gets compliments and attention all the time, and you have to stand out by being a little different. She'll know you think she's hot without you saying so, but she'll appreciate that you're secure in yourself and willing to joke around. If you do this right, she may even smile and call you a "jerk" - this is code for "you're kinda cute." (Unless she says it in a serious way, then she means you're a jerk.) After a few minutes of repartee, tell her (don't ask her) "Give me your number, let's get a drink sometime." If she says yes, get the number and leave. If she declines, don't take it personally, just say, "well, thought I'd try. I'll see you next class." And don't worry about it - an initial rejection isn't the end of the world (she may come around, or you can date one of the other girls you've been flirting with). PS: I'd avoid dinner or lunch on a first date or even the first three or four dates. Keep it simple and fun - drinks, bowling, mini golf, etc. I've only briefly talked to her twice and I should ask for her number already???
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