one goal Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Kinda a follow up on the other thread since that girl isn't interested. Anyways there is another even hotter chick in my other class, my business class. She sits infront of the room and I've never talked to her before. Anyways how do I get to know her better? Like today I get to class early as usual and the class before was not out yet, and the girl was sitting on a bench outside of the classroom all by herself. I didnt sit down and talk to her at all cause I didn't really know what to say, and I was kinda upset at the time cause the other girl brushed me off. So if I see her alone again what should I say to her since I never tlaked to her before? Is it ok I tell her like I notice how pretty she is? What should I say to her?
zicke Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Just say Hi..my name is, what do you think of the class? Go from there. Do not mention your obsession with Katherine McPhee and make sure your trapper keeper with her on it is left at home.
Author one goal Posted September 24, 2008 Author Posted September 24, 2008 Just say Hi..my name is, what do you think of the class? Go from there. Do not mention your obsession with Katherine McPhee and make sure your trapper keeper with her on it is left at home. LOL. So what should i say to that other girl I find hot, but never talked to before?
Mahatma Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 Well start by not referring to her as a "chick." Then you just just bring up stuff about what you think about the class and ask her about her opinion and see if anything stems from that. If she is any interested, she will help keep it going.
Green Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 You sound like you need some in person advice, if you have a friend who can give you some pointers with women that might be best. You don't need to tell the girl you thinks she is pretty just chat her up and tease her a little and there ya go your flirting then invite her out to do something and get her number. Come back with some stories of how you tried and failed and you'll be on the right track... your facebook attempt was better then nothing but you need to talk to people in person
Author one goal Posted September 24, 2008 Author Posted September 24, 2008 I wanna talk to this other girl tommorow? How should I go about it?
Author one goal Posted September 24, 2008 Author Posted September 24, 2008 Class is tomorrow. Any suggestions.
Green Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 Yeah just go do it and treat it like a learning experience. Have a good time with it and don't chicken out
Author one goal Posted September 25, 2008 Author Posted September 25, 2008 Yeah just go do it and treat it like a learning experience. Have a good time with it and don't chicken out The timing has to be right though. What should i say.
Green Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 say something about her shirt... maybe it will have stripes.. and you can be like "you look like a candy cane in that shirt" obviously say it nicely and cool. But really it doesn't much matter what you say, just be flirty and fun about it. have a little conversation
Author one goal Posted September 25, 2008 Author Posted September 25, 2008 What about if i tell her shes cute or pretty?
Green Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 What about if i tell her shes cute or pretty? If thats what you feel like saying sure but its hardly conversaition material
Rudeger Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 Ok I may still be a few years shy of legal drinking age in America but I've got some capital advice for you old boy. I don't know how you behave normally, but whatever you do don't show even the slightest hint of desperation! Girls can smell it, and they don't like it. You want a girlfriend really bad, I know the feeling as I've been through it. But telling someone you don't even know that shes cute or pretty is more likely to freak her out than win you points. She will think you are desperate to get with anyone, and that is a real turn off. So yeah, if you show desperation you may as well staple rotting meat to your testicles cause only starving rabid dogs are gonna want to lick you down there.
Konfuzion Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 The key to approaching a woman is to be confident, never hesitate (so if you see a woman your interested in walk right up to her) say whats on your mind don't try to use silly lines. Don't think about what your gonna say "Hi" works. Sure you will get rejected but that just means they weren't right for you pull your sock up and don't let it get you down. I will give you some examples I asked a girl out this week and I was 100% sure she would say yes to me and I got the "I don't like you like that line". The very next day I saw this beautiful Hispanic girl at the grocery store she flashed me a smile and I started up a conversation with her, after a few minutes I was like "You know the reason I came over to talk to you was to ask you if you would like to go out with me some time" anyway we have gone on two dates so far and its been a blast.. Be Confident. One door closes and another door opens. A no wont kill you.
Author one goal Posted September 25, 2008 Author Posted September 25, 2008 The key to approaching a woman is to be confident, never hesitate (so if you see a woman your interested in walk right up to her) say whats on your mind don't try to use silly lines. Don't think about what your gonna say "Hi" works. Sure you will get rejected but that just means they weren't right for you pull your sock up and don't let it get you down. I will give you some examples I asked a girl out this week and I was 100% sure she would say yes to me and I got the "I don't like you like that line". The very next day I saw this beautiful Hispanic girl at the grocery store she flashed me a smile and I started up a conversation with her, after a few minutes I was like "You know the reason I came over to talk to you was to ask you if you would like to go out with me some time" anyway we have gone on two dates so far and its been a blast.. Be Confident. One door closes and another door opens. A no wont kill you. I didn't really have a chance to talk to her, introduce myself today. I should have waited until after class, but I was too nervous, and froze up. Felt like crap. I get very nervous when approaching women. I'm kinda affraid. I'm pretty sure she would have rejected me anyways.
onlyicansee Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 Its a catch 22, because if you act nervous she will reject you, but you are nervous because you are afraid she will reject you... Dont be nervous man, if you are nervous it will definitely show through. Take a shot of liqour or something before you make the move, lol... Anything to ease your nerves. And, dont tell her she is cute, or pretty... If she is at least a 7/10 chances are she gets told that constantly, men probably thow compliments to her like nothing. So, she would probably just say thanks and be done with you. Tell her something negative, but funny and cocky. Approaching her with a nervous smile and a trembly voice telling her she is pretty will get you no where.
Author one goal Posted September 25, 2008 Author Posted September 25, 2008 Its a catch 22, because if you act nervous she will reject you, but you are nervous because you are afraid she will reject you... Dont be nervous man, if you are nervous it will definitely show through. Take a shot of liqour or something before you make the move, lol... Anything to ease your nerves. And, dont tell her she is cute, or pretty... If she is at least a 7/10 chances are she gets told that constantly, men probably thow compliments to her like nothing. So, she would probably just say thanks and be done with you. Tell her something negative, but funny and cocky. Approaching her with a nervous smile and a trembly voice telling her she is pretty will get you no where. So you suggest I drink in the morning before going to school?
Green Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 So you suggest I drink in the morning before going to school? no that would be a really bad idea, drink if you go to a party where people are drinking and obviously only drink enough to get a comfortable buzz going being drunk is worse then being nervouse. And even though you are really nervouse the only way you are going to get over being nervouse is if you step outside your comfort zone and start to talk to people. When I used to talk to people at school its not like they were always standing there doing nothing waiting to get talked to some times you need to interupt or just jump into a conversation other people are having. I think at this point if you got rejected by a few girls it would be a great step in the right direction. Its like that other guy said he got rejected by that girl he thought for sure he was in good with and randomly met some girl who he hit it off with at the supermarket. he probably had to interupt her shoping to talk to her... well go out there man get rejected... heck you'll probably end up getting accepted ... give it a good try stop using the I was just to nervouse excuse... go talk to the girl all shaking and sweating if thats what you have to do it will pass and you'll see its not that bad... its kinda fun then you'll have some interesting stuff to come on here and write about instead of how you keep chickening out and using the excuse no chance to talk to them which is lame and a fake excuse
Konfuzion Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 Get over yourself, there is nothing to be afraid of... Have you ever see someone die or get hurt for that matter because they heard the word "no" ok so exactly, and for all you know she might say yes. Walk up to her with confidence but not cockiness, walk up to her with the attitude of I am a good guy and there is no reason to not go out with me. If you ask two boxers about to fight if they are going to win they will both tell you they are going to kill the guy, and they both believe they will. Having a negative attitude with get you exactly what you already have... nothing. Balls up and say hi to her and then quickly think of something to say, but don't have it be premeditated that never comes off well.
Green Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 Get over yourself, there is nothing to be afraid of... Have you ever see someone die or get hurt for that matter because they heard the word "no" ok so exactly, and for all you know she might say yes. Walk up to her with confidence but not cockiness, walk up to her with the attitude of I am a good guy and there is no reason to not go out with me. If you ask two boxers about to fight if they are going to win they will both tell you they are going to kill the guy, and they both believe they will. Having a negative attitude with get you exactly what you already have... nothing. Balls up and say hi to her and then quickly think of something to say, but don't have it be premeditated that never comes off well. Good advice for the most part though I can relate and know exactly why you are so terrefied. Just go do it force yourself, even if you act like the biggest freak and the worst posible outcome happens at a minimum it should make you less scared to talk to the next girl. truth is it will probably be a neutral encounter where not much will happen and now you'll feel more comfortable aproaching her again. Try to have a conversation about anything or just ask her questions. Try to speak in a clear loud(not yelling) voice
Author one goal Posted September 25, 2008 Author Posted September 25, 2008 Good advice for the most part though I can relate and know exactly why you are so terrefied. Just go do it force yourself, even if you act like the biggest freak and the worst posible outcome happens at a minimum it should make you less scared to talk to the next girl. truth is it will probably be a neutral encounter where not much will happen and now you'll feel more comfortable aproaching her again. Try to have a conversation about anything or just ask her questions. Try to speak in a clear loud(not yelling) voice I just don't know what to say to her.
Konfuzion Posted September 25, 2008 Posted September 25, 2008 I just don't know what to say to her. Thats not whats important, what is important is how you carry yourself CONFIDENCE! And don't just talk to her ask her out. I was wondering if you would like to go out sometime and just have a good time get to know one another and see if there is anything there, would work great
Author one goal Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 Thats not whats important, what is important is how you carry yourself CONFIDENCE! And don't just talk to her ask her out. I was wondering if you would like to go out sometime and just have a good time get to know one another and see if there is anything there, would work great So the first time I talk to her I should ask her to "go out" isnt that kinda creepy?
Konfuzion Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 So the first time I talk to her I should ask her to "go out" isnt that kinda creepy? Not at all that shows confidence and women love it.
Author one goal Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 So if I ever approach her i should introduce myself and ask her if she wants to go out sometime?
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