When I do well at the NC thing and she isnt.

[MrEELB]

So some of you may see in another thread that my ex is now with a new fella and very happily posting profile pictures on face book of them both.

 

So why the need to text me to keep asking how I am and where I am staying and she is only contacting me to ensure I am ok.

 

I am cool its not a wanting to get back together thing, so what in the world is it all about?

 

I did state in a polite way that she really shouldn't be texting me, as how would this be making her new fella feel.

To which she replied I can text who I want, any hows he understands and is cool that she still was in touch with me when needed.

[bubblegum]

How does it make you feel when she texts you?

[Crimzoclo]

She is using you as a fall back if it doesn't work with the new fella.

[CaliGuy]

It shouldn't matter if she maintains NC or not.

 

As long as you are not responding to her in any way, shape or form she will get the message. She is contacting you to get a reaction from you (ala: "I can text anyone I want!").

 

The best way to handle this is to move on happily with your life and not pay any attention to her. She is in the past. Let her stay there by simply ignoring her.

[superd]

She wants to make a fool out of you in the guise of feeling bad for you. Its a trap! She is not happy with you, with her new guy, or with herself. She has nothing to give anybody really and take that to heart.

[Steelrain21]

I think in a way she could maybe be trying to figure out if her life is better than yours since your breakup. If that's the case it's pretty immature. I say don't give her what she wants and don't even bothering answering in the future. If she's doing it because she has feelings for you still then sooner or later she'll come after you harder if you stop responding.