Jilly Bean Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 While he is coming inside me he says he feels good. But after he's done and he's all sticky he says he feels gross and wants to shower. He has some sexual hangups, LB. Is he Catholic? Not a joke. A lot of the Italian Catholics I grew up with were taught that sexual pleasure is a bad and dirty thing, and were conditioned with these beliefs. It sounds like he wants to wash away the "dirtiness" of sex. I mean, sweaty sex is good sex, but once you cool down, then everyone is nice and dry again. lol Personally, if a guy ever did that to me, he would only do it once, as he would never again be in my bed. I would feel insulted.
serialgf Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Changed my mind. oh what a relief because reading your threads is definitely one of my favorite parts of LS - very amusing!
Tomcat33 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 your boyfriend sounds like a bit of a pain in the azz, is he a Virgo?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 He has some sexual hangups, LB. Is he Catholic? Not a joke. A lot of the Italian Catholics I grew up with were taught that sexual pleasure is a bad and dirty thing, and were conditioned with these beliefs. It sounds like he wants to wash away the "dirtiness" of sex. I mean, sweaty sex is good sex, but once you cool down, then everyone is nice and dry again. lol Personally, if a guy ever did that to me, he would only do it once, as he would never again be in my bed. I would feel insulted. He's not Catholic, I actually am though. I don't think it's so much the sweat that makes him want to shower, he is a body builder so he weight lifts a lot. I think his aversion is more towards his bodily fluids. Like I said we don't use condoms, so it does get kind of messy.
Shygirl15 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 is he a Virgo? ! Don't remind me of Virgos please lol.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 your boyfriend sounds like a bit of a pain in the azz, is he a Virgo? nope, Pisces.
Legend Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 yeah, you worry way too much, i've never seen a psychologist with such low self esteem.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 yeah, you worry way too much, i've never seen a psychologist with such low self esteem. I'm not a psychologist. But you are right that I worry too much. And overanalyze. The combo of the two is a pain in the butt.
bayouboi Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 your boyfriend sounds like a bit of a pain in the azz, is he a Virgo? Hey! I'm a Virgo and all I need is a towel lol
Jilly Bean Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 He's not Catholic, I actually am though. I don't think it's so much the sweat that makes him want to shower, he is a body builder so he weight lifts a lot. I think his aversion is more towards his bodily fluids. Like I said we don't use condoms, so it does get kind of messy. Well, this I still don't get. If he cums inside of you, then how is he *grossed out* by any mess? And LB, what do you make of someone's aversion to their own bodily fluids? That's not a challenge, but a sincere question...
BannaBee57 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 He has some sexual hangups, LB. Is he Catholic? Not a joke. A lot of the Italian Catholics I grew up with were taught that sexual pleasure is a bad and dirty thing, and were conditioned with these beliefs. It sounds like he wants to wash away the "dirtiness" of sex. Haha, wasn't that in a Sex and the City episode too? I was raised Catholic and I prefer laying around in bed after sex and if it weren't for the fear of a UTI I'd lay there as long as I could. I don't mind being sticky with someone I just did the deed with and I might feel a bit offended if they had to jump up and wash me off of them before they could be comfortable again.
djhall Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Okay, for those who are really bothered by this, does it still bother you if it isn't a shower, he just goes and wipes off with a warm washcloth and towels dry before coming back to bed? Is it the notion of wanting to clean up a little that bothers you or the notion of a full "shower" that implies he is trying to wash away all traces of her?
Lizzie60 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I wonder about something.. for those who say they don't shower after.. and they stay in their sweat and cum.. so you clean your sheets every time?
manugeorge Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I wonder about something.. for those who say they don't shower after.. and they stay in their sweat and cum.. so you clean your sheets every time? I don't, I mean why, when we're going to do the nasty a few hours later anyway?
Lizzie60 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I don't, I mean why, when we're going to do the nasty a few hours later anyway? yeah right.. they all say that..
whichwayisup Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Don't try to figure it out, accept it. He has OCD and some of this thought patterns aren't rational and there's no point in trying to change him. Fact is, he showers and THEN he comes back to bed to cuddle. If you can handle that and are OK with that, then there really is no problem.
whichwayisup Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I swallow my own cum. It prevents mess! You shoot and swallow? Or shall I ask, shoot and lick out.. PS sex is messy. Keep a box of tissue closeby.
Krajt Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 You shoot and swallow? Or shall I ask, shoot and lick out.. PS sex is messy. Keep a box of tissue closeby. I really don't want to delve into what kinky stuff I do with my girlfriend, but I am accustomed to what my cum tastes like. Tissues? Why? When you can just take the mess and the girl/man into a shower?
fral945 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Your boyfriend is a neat freak. You know, you said it yourself. Sex is dirty. If you do it right, you should be covered in sweat and other various bodily fluids at the end. That's what makes it so good (to me at least). Your boyfriend reminds me of the people that go to the beach but don't want to get wet or get any sand on them or people who want to workout without sweating.
Kamille Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I'm a fan of sex during shower and sex after shower. I once dated a guy (the son of a doctor), who would wash his hand scrub style after sex and thought that was a bit of a turn off. But you know what makes you two a match? You understand and accept his behaviour. So why question it now?
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