Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 This was a topic that came up in my other thread, so I thought I'd post about it. Anyway, my boyfriend jumps up and showers after sex. He says it makes him feel gross and sticky. It does kind of kill the intimacy, I will admit, but I never really thought that much of it. I read an interesting article suggesting various reasons for showering after sex. Most of the reasons were cleanliness reasons, and such. My bf is a total neat freak so it's not that big of a surprise that he would want to clean off. Posters talked about the issue a little bit in my other thread, so I'm opening this one up to opinions on the subject. Anyone ever had an ex who did this, or been in this situation? Share experiences.
JamesM Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Truthfully, I had never heard of it until these two threads. I think sex is much better if we shower BEFORE sex, but I have never heard of after sex.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Truthfully, I had never heard of it until these two threads. I think sex is much better if we shower BEFORE sex, but I have never heard of after sex. Yeah, I have never had a boyfriend do that before. Here is the article I read, it's interesting: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20061164/
portcitykitty Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I personally dont see anything wrong with showering after sex...I feel pretty yucky afterwards and would prefer to take a shower. I think it's rather intimate if the 2 of you took a shower together afterwards...kinda like the cuddling, only you're in the shower, cleaning each other up! I've heard of people showering together before sex, and that's nice too...although, I always wondered why people do that when they know they're going to get nasty and sweaty from the sex Oh well, whatever tickles your pickle I guess!
Krajt Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I always go for a shower before and after sex, but I always make sure I take the girl with me. It's rude not to, where's the chivalry these days?
Shygirl15 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I also do not think there's anything wrong with showering after sex; infact I wouldn't think too much of it. But my usual practice has been taking bath/shower together before sex, in preparation for what's coming ahead..
superd Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Its kind of sickening if you ask me. It just shows you are not trusting the cleanliness of your partner.
JamesM Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Its kind of sickening if you ask me. It just shows you are not trusting the cleanliness of your partner. Trust? Cleanliness? Not sure I make the connection.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Its kind of sickening if you ask me. It just shows you are not trusting the cleanliness of your partner. I'm definately NOT clean after sex, that's for sure. My boyfriend gets REAL excited during sex if you catch my drift.
Lishy Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I would not be too happy if my guy jumped outta bed like a hot potato and ran to the shower straight after sex! Not very intimate is it?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 I would not be too happy if my guy jumped outta bed like a hot potato and ran to the shower straight after sex! Not very intimate is it? Yeah. His view on this concept was that once he "releases" (and yes thats the word he used) he just feels gross and sticky and isn't really thinking about intimacy.
Krajt Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Not very intimate is it? No, it isn't! Then again sweating like a pig isn't the perfect ingredient for intimacy. This issue just highlights another difference between men and women.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 No, it isn't! Then again sweating like a pig isn't the perfect ingredient for intimacy. This issue just highlights another difference between men and women. Yeah, sweat and goo doesn't turn him on at all. When I come home from the gym all sweaty, I don't think he is very turned on by that.
Lishy Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I can understand that he does not want to be sticky and gooey - I also like to clean up after sex as i feel the same BUT as a woman I need that cuddle afterwards or else I would feel like he should be leaving money on the side table if you know what I mean! It would not be the end of the world but I know I wouldnt be impressed
Krajt Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Yeah, sweat and goo doesn't turn him on at all. When I come home from the gym all sweaty, I don't think he is very turned on by that. I like it. Lots of strange things turn me, a woman's fragrance (depending on what it is) drives me absolutely wild.
Legend Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Jesus, you are the most insecure person in the world.
Lizzie60 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 This was a topic that came up in my other thread, so I thought I'd post about it. Anyway, my boyfriend jumps up and showers after sex. He says it makes him feel gross and sticky. It does kind of kill the intimacy, I will admit, but I never really thought that much of it. I read an interesting article suggesting various reasons for showering after sex. Most of the reasons were cleanliness reasons, and such. My bf is a total neat freak so it's not that big of a surprise that he would want to clean off. Posters talked about the issue a little bit in my other thread, so I'm opening this one up to opinions on the subject. Anyone ever had an ex who did this, or been in this situation? Share experiences. Of course.. I've seen that before.. nothing new or strange about people being clean.. I personally don't like to cuddle with a sweaty, stinky body on mine.. I don't sweat (never bought a deodorant)... so it's not something odd.. everyone IMO should get a shower after sex.. it's only hygienic..
climbergirl Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 This was a topic that came up in my other thread, so I thought I'd post about it. Anyway, my boyfriend jumps up and showers after sex. He says it makes him feel gross and sticky. It does kind of kill the intimacy, I will admit, but I never really thought that much of it. I read an interesting article suggesting various reasons for showering after sex. Most of the reasons were cleanliness reasons, and such. My bf is a total neat freak so it's not that big of a surprise that he would want to clean off. Posters talked about the issue a little bit in my other thread, so I'm opening this one up to opinions on the subject. Anyone ever had an ex who did this, or been in this situation? Share experiences. Is this immediate or does he wait 15 minutes or so?
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Is this immediate or does he wait 15 minutes or so? Immediate. He always comes back and dries off then comes to lay with me and snuggle. He says he snuggles better when he doesn't feel gross. Like others said though, it does kind of kill the afterglow of sex when he just jets off to the bathroom, but he always comes back.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Jesus, you are the most insecure person in the world. Are you referring to me?
Jilly Bean Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Yeah. His view on this concept was that once he "releases" (and yes thats the word he used) he just feels gross and sticky and isn't really thinking about intimacy. So then by this logic, if he, say, came in your mouth, or inside of you, then would he no longer feel "gross"?
serialgf Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 i thought you had decided not to start threads anymore...
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 i thought you had decided not to start threads anymore... Changed my mind.
Author Lauriebell82 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 So then by this logic, if he, say, came in your mouth, or inside of you, then would he no longer feel "gross"? While he is coming inside me he says he feels good. But after he's done and he's all sticky he says he feels gross and wants to shower.
climbergirl Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Immediate. He always comes back and dries off then comes to lay with me and snuggle. He says he snuggles better when he doesn't feel gross. Like others said though, it does kind of kill the afterglow of sex when he just jets off to the bathroom, but he always comes back. He just sounds like he has a bit of OCD so I would assume it wasn't personal-just how he is. I can understand why it kills the afterglow for you, though. But I would find it way worse and disturbing if he wasn't affectionate afterwards. Sounds like he isn't adverse to being affectionate with you...just adverse to feeling 'sticky'.
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