StartFresh Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I don't get it, maybe you can shed some light? So I'm at a bar a little while ago and meet a girl. We chat for a while, but the place is crowded and inevitably get split up before we exchange any information. Oh well. The next day I get a friend request on fbook from someone. I look, and its her. Now, I don't ever recall giving her my full name. I'm pretty sure it was just first name, obviously we both live in the same city, and the topic of birthdays came up so we discussed both of ours. Anyway, so I accept and get a message from her a little while later saying that she was sorry we got seperated, had a good time meeting me, and that we should all hang out again sometime. Everything was cool, I liked her, so I agreed and we exchanged phone numbers. I decide to call her and she doesnt pick up so I leave a message along the lines of "Hey, wanted to see if you'd like to finish that conversation we were having over some dinner. Give me a call if you are free this week." No response. I mean, I'm a pretty good looking guy so I've been told, have a stable job in finance (a bit of an oxy-moron these days I know), and I have a pretty decent personality, but for some reason every chick I run into in this city is so stand-offish. Now why, in her case, would you go through the trouble of tracking me down via the internet and exchanging numbers only to not respond? I dont get it?
LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 How long has it been since you left her that message? Give her some time, maybe she's nervous about talking on the phone v. adding you on FB which is just a click over the internet. Or maybe she believes in the ___ day rule, you know, not to call someone back until a number of days as she may have realized her tracking you down might have appeared a bit aggressive. Who knows, but give it some time. If after a couple of days she doesn't call, then move on!
lovelorcet Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Why didn't you just chit chat a bit over FaceBook and set something up like that? I think for some people it is an acceptable form of communication epically seeing that she found you on it...
Author StartFresh Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Why didn't you just chit chat a bit over FaceBook and set something up like that? I think for some people it is an acceptable form of communication epically seeing that she found you on it... I guess I'm old school. I figure if you're going to ask someone out you should call. As for how long its been, its been a few days since I called (we met not this past weekend but the one before it), I guess I can wait a little longer, but I assumed the grace period has passed.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I guess I'm old school. I figure if you're going to ask someone out you should call. As for how long its been, its been a few days since I called, I guess I can wait a little longer, but I assumed the grace period has passed. Yeah, give it a FEW more days and then I would let it go! As for calling to ask her out on a date instead of doing it over FB, kudos for that! It's just tacky to ask a girl out on a FIRST date via FB or online or text...only exception is if it's online dating I guess, which this is not. Good luck! Keep us posted! If she doesn't call back, her lost, remember that!
Flowerpower7 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 You know it really irritates me when I chat with guys (not because they are good looking or because they have a decent job) that they think I am interested in them. I'm just chatting, nothing more. Guys immediatly assume that the girl thinks they are hot and want more, so the guy persists. There are some key signs to watch for if she is just merely chatting with you. There are also a lot of people of FB who "collect" people just to have that large number of people they know. This may not be the case. But just go slow, chat more with her, dont automatically assume she wants to date you.
lovelorcet Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Exactly, which is why I suggested getting into some chit chat over FB just to see if she was willing to do that. Maybe calling was a bit premature...
marinemom5740 Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 I don't get it, maybe you can shed some light? So I'm at a bar a little while ago and meet a girl. We chat for a while, but the place is crowded and inevitably get split up before we exchange any information. Oh well. The next day I get a friend request on fbook from someone. I look, and its her. Now, I don't ever recall giving her my full name. I'm pretty sure it was just first name, obviously we both live in the same city, and the topic of birthdays came up so we discussed both of ours. Anyway, so I accept and get a message from her a little while later saying that she was sorry we got seperated, had a good time meeting me, and that we should all hang out again sometime. Everything was cool, I liked her, so I agreed and we exchanged phone numbers. I decide to call her and she doesnt pick up so I leave a message along the lines of "Hey, wanted to see if you'd like to finish that conversation we were having over some dinner. Give me a call if you are free this week." No response. I mean, I'm a pretty good looking guy so I've been told, have a stable job in finance (a bit of an oxy-moron these days I know), and I have a pretty decent personality, but for some reason every chick I run into in this city is so stand-offish. Now why, in her case, would you go through the trouble of tracking me down via the internet and exchanging numbers only to not respond? I dont get it? if she has not gotten back to you over a fair amount of time, move on. how old are you?? I think she is playing games if I met you in a bar and looked u up on face book and you left me a message if I was interested I would return your call. I can't stand when u call people and they don't return your call thats rude. move on and be on the alert next time that happens remember it is the same spirit but, a different person. blessings
Author StartFresh Posted September 24, 2008 Author Posted September 24, 2008 You know it really irritates me when I chat with guys (not because they are good looking or because they have a decent job) that they think I am interested in them. I'm just chatting, nothing more. Guys immediatly assume that the girl thinks they are hot and want more, so the guy persists. There are some key signs to watch for if she is just merely chatting with you. There are also a lot of people of FB who "collect" people just to have that large number of people they know. This may not be the case. But just go slow, chat more with her, dont automatically assume she wants to date you. Jesus christ sorry I'm human. I mean if someone go to such lengths to seek someone out then they deserve the misunderstanding.
Isolde Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 Either a) she REALLY likes you and is trying to take things slow so as not to seem to eager, or b) this kind of info-collecting is routine for her and she met a couple other guys that weekend.
ianandris Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 You know it really irritates me when I chat with guys (not because they are good looking or because they have a decent job) that they think I am interested in them. I'm just chatting, nothing more. Guys immediatly assume that the girl thinks they are hot and want more, so the guy persists. There are some key signs to watch for if she is just merely chatting with you. There are also a lot of people of FB who "collect" people just to have that large number of people they know. This may not be the case. But just go slow, chat more with her, dont automatically assume she wants to date you. Ah, but that's so important for the guy. Sometimes that extra little bit of swagger helps when you're dealing with rejection as often as most guys do. You have to keep your head above water somehow. Always assume the sale, right? Plus, she clearly expressed interest by saying "I'm really sad we got separated" and the fact that she looked him up so soon after meeting is telling. And they met at a bar. I mean, seriously, why wouldn't he assume the sale in this instance?
Recommended Posts