2nd Chance and i don't know how to take it, i want to make things right ??

[Jay34]

I am in an extremely strange situation and i want to see if anyone has any feedback, i was in an online relationship and we fell in love, then we met in person after we knew if we didn't do something it could never work, we had ruined our sleep schedules by talking so much and i didn't even go see her for nearly 11 months, i had been verbally abusive at times to her made fun of her, which i severely regret, i am doing the best i can now to change that, i also found out that she had kissed another guy in the 11 months i didn't see her, she said it meant nothing and i have decided to forgive her. this is after a big fiasco with her not talking to me for weeks, not calling me back and really disrespecting my feelings for awhile. the fact is even since we began she has gotten very distant, i have a tendency to dive right in and right now she is still distant, not very sexual and is acting more like a friend who says i love you, anyway i will be seeing her in two weeks and i want to do the best in my ability to try to make things better i know i can't control her but i want to do my part, because i want to have a nice time with her, it's even to the point where she doesn't sound like she even appreciates me coming to see her sometimes, another thing i want to know if we are committed to each other or not, right now we are but i want to have a discussion about the future! any advice i want to keep it light until i see her, it seems like when we keep things light everything is better

 

Any Help Appreciated

 

Thanks

[ahhhchooo]

Don't push her so much and try to let things fall into place.. maybe she's not sure and just testing the water, you're trying to say "HEY, FEEL LIKE YOU DID A YEAR AGO!". It doesn't work that way.

 

Make sure you're not setting yourself up for disappointment if things don't go your way or you'll end up making things worse - for the relationship and for yourself.

[EmperorR]

good luck, take things slow

[Jay34]

k i am seeing her for a weekend, would it be too much to give her a belated birthday, her birthday was at the end of august and we weren't talking at that time, i was going to get her a gift and take her out to eat. i basically just don't want to appear needy but i don't want to appear like im too aloof

[Jay34]

i feel like i am constantly making mistakes and even after i talked to her tonight i felt bad because i am still giving her little slights, like she told me she was going to put me as #1 on her myspace and she didn't do it, so i said "you're so flaky" and she got real mad, i know i shouldn't have mentioned it but thats one thing she tells me she will do something and doesn't, another thing is i can't help myself but to be sexual sometimes and a few times she was receptive but i find myself feeling like a fool if she isn't, is there anyway to go about this so i don't make a fool of myself its like i need to write it down or i do stupid things. i guess i just feel underappreciated and it comes out in passive ways.