stampdaddy Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Francesca: Robert, please. You don't understand, no-one does. When a woman makes the choice to marry, to have children; in one way her life begins but in another way it stops. You build a life of details. You become a mother, a wife and you stop and stay steady so that your children can move. And when they leave they take your life of details with them. And then you're expected move again only you don't remember what moves you because no-one has asked in so long. Not even yourself. You never in your life think that love like this can happen to you. Robert Kincaid: But now that you have it... Francesca: I want to keep it forever. I want to love you the way I do now the rest of my life. Don't you understand... we'll lose it if we leave. I can't make an entire life disappear to start a new one. All I can do is try to hold onto to both. Help me. Help me not lose loving you
Lucky_One Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 It was true for that one character. It certainly is not true for every woman - or every man. (((((daddy)))))
Owl Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 SD...you're trying to peer into the mind of that inscrutable yellow dog...the WS! You'd be better served by finding someone who can do the Vulcan Mind-Meld on her... because right now, the original person has been beamed up to the mother ship, and an alien has taken over her body! OK, humor aside...what are you hoping to gain by continuing to try to understand what she's doing? If you've "moved on"...that means you're AVOIDING that kind of thing. This is just keeping your mind focused right back into the maelstrom...and you're gonna get sucked right back in if you keep this up. Look FORWARD...not back.
Author stampdaddy Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 SD...you're trying to peer into the mind of that inscrutable yellow dog...the WS! You'd be better served by finding someone who can do the Vulcan Mind-Meld on her... because right now, the original person has been beamed up to the mother ship, and an alien has taken over her body! OK, humor aside...what are you hoping to gain by continuing to try to understand what she's doing? If you've "moved on"...that means you're AVOIDING that kind of thing. This is just keeping your mind focused right back into the maelstrom...and you're gonna get sucked right back in if you keep this up. Look FORWARD...not back. Just in the moment last night I guess.. Over in the "Movie Quote" thread on Watercooler... Just made me wonder. I am sure I will have many more "moments", as I am trying my best to heal.. It's SO hard. And you are correct, I do NOT know this person anymore, and I know that SHE doesnt know that person anymore. I feel sad about that and also partly responsible about that. I hope she is OK...
Owl Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 If she is or isn't...that's not your worry at this point, my friend. Now, its time to worry if Stampdaddy is ok. What did you do this past weekend, friend? I had a great time...went to a book release party on Friday night with my wife and youngest. Spent Saturday with all three of my boys and their friends...my wife made up an awesome lunch, and all of us sat around and played bones until my wife and I had to leave for something her and I had planned. Went skating with my boys Sat night (I'm just getting good enough that they're trying to teach an old dog new tricks now). And spent Sunday with my wife on the "honeydew" list.
Owl Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Just got to thinking...I posted my favorite movie quote on that same thread this morning...but now that I think about it, I think its one that you might take to heart, my friend. "Remember...no matter where you go, there you are." That's why you gotta take the time to take care of you.
Author stampdaddy Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 If she is or isn't...that's not your worry at this point, my friend. Now, its time to worry if Stampdaddy is ok. What did you do this past weekend, friend? I had a great time...went to a book release party on Friday night with my wife and youngest. Spent Saturday with all three of my boys and their friends...my wife made up an awesome lunch, and all of us sat around and played bones until my wife and I had to leave for something her and I had planned. Went skating with my boys Sat night (I'm just getting good enough that they're trying to teach an old dog new tricks now). And spent Sunday with my wife on the "honeydew" list. Well, since you ask, me and my EX Wife went to a Trivia night for our sons football team/league.. Saturday, I did some house and yard work. Then on Saturday night ironically, I went to another Trivia Night (I hate those things) for a fundraiser at a church... Sunday morning, I had to coach my sons football team to victory. Sunday afternoon kinda layed low, watched a little football and chatted with neighbors, and then Sunday night I watched my beloved Cowboys kick the crap out of Green Bay! Oh, and YES, fought off anxiety and panic the whole time. how is that?
Lookingforward Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 You love the cowboys - it can't be all bad
Owl Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Great...except for the panic and anxiety attacks!!! ROFLMBO! I'm curious...have you tried working out to help with those? I don't know what you like, but running, working a heavy bag, hitting weights...anything that I can put full energy into and wear myself out has always helped me deal with depression/anxiety when it comes up. And it helps a ton when it comes to sleep as well. Just a thought, my friend.
Author stampdaddy Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Great...except for the panic and anxiety attacks!!! ROFLMBO! I'm curious...have you tried working out to help with those? I don't know what you like, but running, working a heavy bag, hitting weights...anything that I can put full energy into and wear myself out has always helped me deal with depression/anxiety when it comes up. And it helps a ton when it comes to sleep as well. Just a thought, my friend. I tried hitting the weights, but it hurt my hands...
Lucky_One Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 LOLOL!! You are doing good, btw, and keeping busy. Those days after an Ending hurt badly, but looking back, they fade quickly, too. (((((stampdaddy)))))
Lookingforward Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I tried hitting the weights, but it hurt my hands... Try LIFTING them....then it will be other parts that hurt
Owl Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 <sigh> You know...I can only do so much for you, my friend. I can offer advice, make suggestions, etc... But I'm at a loss... It seems to me that you're better off listening to LF's advice.... Try lifting the darned things already!!!
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