LoveLace Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 in front of someone you have a crush on...consider gender and the differences...what do you do to make yourself feel "cool" in front of that person? Hands in pockets? Twirling your hair? Acting bitchy? What works and what doesn't? Fess up! I hugged a guy I liked a few weeks ago, then bumped into a gal behind me, my crush laughed in an amusing kind of way, but still, I went from cool to klutzy. So it makes me wonder what little things can make such a huge difference in how another person perceives us...
Star Gazer Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 While I strongly advise against being anything other than your true authentic self - even if that includes being a klutz like I am!!! - I have noticed that those who appear "cool" are those who really appear indifferent to you. However, those aren't the people you're drawn to, so it actually works against your favor.
Trialbyfire Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 One way to avoid having to act, is not to act at all. If you have a crush on him, let him see your interest, with friendly green-light smiles, eye contact and body language. Flirt damn it, flirt!
D-Lish Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 in front of someone you have a crush on...consider gender and the differences...what do you do to make yourself feel "cool" in front of that person? Hands in pockets? Twirling your hair? Acting bitchy? What works and what doesn't? Fess up! I hugged a guy I liked a few weeks ago, then bumped into a gal behind me, my crush laughed in an amusing kind of way, but still, I went from cool to klutzy. So it makes me wonder what little things can make such a huge difference in how another person perceives us... You didn't actually, when things like that happen laugh at yourself. I laugh everything off. I slipped on some ice walking to my car with a date I had just had a great evening with... I laughed my butt off... and so did he. He said later "I like you because nothing phases you". Don't be anything but yourself. It doesn't make you look cooler to be a b**ch... it only makes people look at you and think "wow, what a b**ch". Lots of eye contact and always appear to be having fun.... even if it's laughing at something silly you do. When you are enthusiastically happy and appear like you are having fun...it's contagious. Both men and women are drawn to people like that.
Author LoveLace Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 While I strongly advise against being anything other than your true authentic self - even if that includes being a klutz like I am!!! - I have noticed that those who appear "cool" are those who really appear indifferent to you. However, those aren't the people you're drawn to, so it actually works against your favor. All true. But we all want to impress the person somehow, which usually involves going a little extra mile..not necessarily anything dorky like slicking your hair back he he
Author LoveLace Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 You didn't actually, when things like that happen laugh at yourself. I laugh everything off. I slipped on some ice walking to my car with a date I had just had a great evening with... I laughed my butt off... and so did he. He said later "I like you because nothing phases you". No biggy, I recovered well, laughed along with him, then smiled and said bye (as I was on my way out the door), it didn't phase me really. It's so me. lol
Author LoveLace Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Maybe's no one is willing to give up any secrets lol
Craiggy Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 When I try to act cool, my usual M.O. is to mumble, then look down at my feet, mumble some more, laugh awkwardly, then run away and hide for a couple hours until I'm sure she's gone away.
djhall Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 See, the problem with trying to appear cooler than you are, is you miss out on attracting the people who would like you for who you really are. As proof, I offer the following scene from Scrubs, which hopefully you have seen: Patient's Room Elliot rushes in. Carla is already at the bedside of the patient, Sean Kelly. Elliot: Sorry to keep you, Mr. Kelly, I was just, uh.... The first time she sees him, she's floored -- he's young, he's hot, and he's eating a fruit cup. Yum. Elliot: [twitterpated] So, what are you, uh...sick or something? Sean: My--my heartbeat, it's like, uh, it's irregular. [to Carla] What's the medical word for it? Carla: "Irregular." Sean: Yeah! That's it, it's irregular. Elliot: Ah! Of course! The heart...the old ticker! She pats her chest. Sean: Wow...you're my doctor. I have something for you in my pants. Elliot looks at him. Sean: No. No, no, no, no, no. Not--not--I'm not wearing any pants...right now. My pants are over there, and there's a note...from my--my G.P. in, um, in the pocket. Elliot sighs. Sean: If you guys need me, I'll be under here. He ducks his head under his blankets. Cut to Hall Carla and Elliot are leaving Sean's room. Elliot: This might sound weird, but I'm in love with that guy. And if I don't sleep with him, I'm gonna kill myself! Now, see, how would these two know they were perfect for each other if either or both of them had tried to act cool? Bottom line, be yourself, and when the right one comes along they will be cool with it.
Green Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 People just think I'm cool, I don't really have to think about it. I just do what I have to do and women fall hard for me
CommitmentPhobe Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 People just think I'm cool, I don't really have to think about it. I just do what I have to do and women fall hard for me :lmao: I like your style :lmao:
JohnnyBlaze Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Easy; I pull up on the bike. Leather jacket, sunglasses, ape hanger handlebars and a v-twin rumbling underneath. Not only does it look good, but because I'm at home on the bike, there's that element of confidence. I'm cooler than James freakin' Dean. ...and then I open my mouth.
Author LoveLace Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Thats great djhall. I feel like Elliot a lot! he he. The bike is a good example.
tanbark813 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 There are certain songs I listen to beforehand if I want to look more cool or more confident. Marilyn Manson's cover of "Tainted Love" is one of them. It's hard not to feel like a pimp after listening to that one.
Author LoveLace Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 There are certain songs I listen to beforehand if I want to look more cool or more confident. Marilyn Manson's cover of "Tainted Love" is one of them. It's hard not to feel like a pimp after listening to that one. Amen! On my way to every outing, I blare the radio in my car. Pumps me up!
Taramere Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 If I want to catch a man's eye and there happens to be a horse around, I climb onto it. Years back when I used to do eventing, there were always lots of groups of young guys hanging around the showground. There's a reason for that. Women on horses are sexy. You yanks have the advantage in this area, I'll concede. Western style riding is far cooler.
Author LoveLace Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 If I want to catch a man's eye and there happens to be a horse around, I climb onto it. Years back when I used to do eventing, there were always lots of groups of young guys hanging around the showground. There's a reason for that. Women on horses are sexy. You yanks have the advantage in this area, I'll concede. Western style riding is far cooler. Quite a rare opportunity around here, but I'll remember that just in case...
djhall Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Quite a rare opportunity around here, but I'll remember that just in case... Motorcycles work too, I think.
westernxer Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 The best way to look cooler is to lie your ass off. So I've heard.
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