I'm 28, I have the hots for a 20 year old! Will he ask me out?

[Clueless28]

I'm 28 years old and I have the hots for a 20 year old. He's extremely attractive and yeah he's young, but when we talk it doesn't seem that I'm speaking to someone 8 years younger. I met him at work, we are in a training class of 17 other people for 8 weeks. I just met him 1 week ago, but it seems like longer. We go to lunch together and take breaks together as a group of 6. He always sits by me, comes by my seat to talk. I catch him looking at me constantly and he doesn't hide it. Each time I catch him looking, he greets me with a huge grin. Last week gave me some compliments telling me he thought I was "hot" and had pretty eyes. Today he was just as attentive.

My issue? I know we both feel the attraction, but its only been 1 week and I already want to ask him out. I really prefer for him to ask me out but I'm not sure if he thinks I would turn him down, because I have made fun of our age difference. I think he knows I'm kidding. So my question is: Does it sound like he will ask me out? and am I being too impatient?

[LoveDeluxe78]

Well, I'm 29 years old, and about 2 months ago I went out on several dates with a guy I found out to be only 20 years old! Our conversations initially were so much fun, we connected, had so many common interests. Didn't know he was only 20 until the issue of going to a bar came up and he told me, "I'm not allowed to drink." So I said, "Oh, sweetie, you're recovering, I'm so sorry for bringing up the bar idea" and he said, "Oh no, I'm 20, are you alright with that?" Thinking I was only wanting us to get to know each other, I said, "No, makes no difference to me." Our connection was amazing, steamy, hazy, dream like, intoxicating (and no we never had sex), but in the end, he got freaked out by the fact that I was older, more established, had a career, and I think he was suspicious of me all along, always questioning why I was dating a 20 year old retail store boy! And the way he ended it was atrocious - he simply stopped calling me! Then he called again weeks later, I responded, he stopped calling AGAIN! Without the closure and the immature way in which he handled everything, it took me so long to get over it, and now that I've moved on, he's coming around acting like an immature little kid talking about his class schedules with me, but it's too late. Now I realize that age gap is a bit difficult to develop or sustain a relationship, but it would've have worked if it was just a sexual fling, but that was not what I was looking for.

 

I say go for it, but to be honest, and I hate to say this since I almost ONLY date guys younger than myself (it's because they're the only guys who approach me since I do look really young for my age), it would be better to stick to someone at least 24 or 25. Looking back, I don't know what I was thinking, but it would never have worked out. I say give it a go - who cares what anyone has to say, and I'm just sharing my experience and maybe yours will turn out differently, but you have to keep in mind that 20 year olds are still figuring out the dating process, how to express their feelings, how to communicate with others, how to process other people's feelings...they aren't at that level where you probably are at, being 28 years old. So my only advice is to just accept him for who he is and don't expect a 20 year old to act like a 28 year old. I'd see if he asks you out - that way he won't be too scared or nervous if you ask him out and he feels like he didn't make the initial move. Let him know you're interested though! The guy I dated flirted with me for a whole month at his job where I'm a customer until he asked me out! And still then he freaked out in the end, so...