selena_cat Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I discovered it months ago ,so for those of you who are struggling on staying away as I call it on NC, here is this really good thread you can read to help. This helped me alot also Its very positive,infornmative,so if anyone read this let me know what you think,or agree,and all hope for the best! http://www.freewebs.com/feelnfree/thenocontactrule.htm
CherishG Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Seems like a very good article and I'm sure it does help, but in my situation, where there is a baby involved and not married, is it fair of me to go NC on him when he wants to see his child? I'm going crazy because it kills me that I just can't completely get him out of my system, as much as I try to avoid the temptation of calling him, he ends up contacting me wanting to see our daughter. I can't be selfish with my daughter by diseappearing from his life so that I can get over him. That is her father, and she is his daughter, and for me to disregard the pain I'm feeling over this break up, how can I just disappear? I don't know if I'm even making sense, I havent slept in 3wks. I'm going crazy. How am I ever going to get over him?
Author selena_cat Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 hi Cherish, I read another post,i'm such an NC queesn i actually reseacrh everything abou tit,so in your sitution. when he comes and picks up your daughter, Be cordial, but impersonal,only discuss things pertaining to yoru child thats it. Dont let him see how much you're hurting,set a time wehn he can visit his daughter,and leave him alone w/her,no need to stick around so you can be sad. Also make sure you look good,happy,confident,like they say fake it till you make it. worst thing is let a man see that youre lost w/out him. My case is easy since we dont live in the same state. Dont let him see you with tears in your eyes,i'd talk to him like you're talking to the Cable or phone guy,or Milkman,friendly and impersonal/ Hope this helps and yorue reading this, i'm suprise i didnt get much replies, i'm going to post this in other websites i know, people will love to read this!
miss_28 Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 selena, i loved this article... it's spot on... and it works... take care of yourself
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