tinad5 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Enlighten me... Why do men make the effort to ask a woman out only to blow them off? Is it a power trip to see if they can keep getting females to agree to another date? Are they interested somewhat but not interested enough to make the real effort? Obviously, once the female stops making any communication, it is over and done but still. The whole act of asking someone out and then bailing numerous times just seems exhausting so what is the motivation? Any insight is appreciated...lol.
Lucky_One Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I don't know. I have never had a man ask me out and then blow me off before. I have had a guy ask me out, and we went on a date. Afterwards he didn't call me, but I assumed it was bc he wasn't attracted to me or he didn't feel compatible with me. It wasn't a big deal to me, though. But other than that, I don't really understand your post.
Author tinad5 Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 Lucky, I am just wondering why men go out with women...contact them after for another date but then blow them off with an excuse. Then if the female gives in and gives them another shot, they do it again. What's the point of contacting a person they are not truly interested in? I guess I am wondering if it's about ego or just being indecisive. Sorry if I did not make myself clear.
Lucky_One Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I don't know why. But I think that girls may do this equally - it isn't just one sex. Read here at LS, and you see a whole lot of game playing taking place. People might ask someone out and then legitimately have to cancel once. If they have to cancel twice, then I would say that there is game-playing and that would be my last chance for them.
shockandawed Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Lucky is right, questions like this are definitely not gender related. The OP should understand that this is strictly a character flaw found equally in both genders. To answer the original question..like I said, it is a character flaw. My guess is he is somewhat interested in you and several others. You are his back up if nothing works out. I think it is a horrible trait and you should ignore any contact from him. This is not the type of guy you want to wait for.
Author tinad5 Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 True...I agree it's not limited to one sex...just asking in regards to a situation I am going through with a guy I went on a date with. Just confused about the whole thing but I am done...don't need the games and back & forth...lol. Thanks for the insight.
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