Author Shygirl15 Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 Maybe because all the 6'+ non-black guys want to date caucasian blondes? Maybe you don't have a preference but maybe your dating pool on E-Harmony does. BTW, I did E-Harmony when I got divorced 3 years ago and I hated it. Well, they should at least let the 6'+ non-black guys see my pictures because I'm sure they would like to re-evaluate their decisions once they do..
rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Eh, like I said - it was $20 for 3 months. If I meet one cool out of it, it will have been worth it. $20 for 3 months? damn! They want to charge me $99 for 3 months. HA! not happening.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Well, they should at least let the 6'+ non-black guys see my pictures because I'm sure they would like to re-evaluate their decisions once they do.. I know I would!... there's something about a Bengal tiger that just makes me purr like a kitten!
Author Shygirl15 Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 This may be Shygirl's problem. DC has an enormous black population. E-Harmony is not a typical black guy kind of thing, really. I bet if there're even half a dozen black guys from my area.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 You can select the race of your matches... That's what I'm saying, the match has to be both ways and if the 6'+ non-black guys are not checking Shygirl's race, then they don't get to see her. That's why she's only getting black guys. (that's my guess anyway)
Jilly Bean Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 And after seeing some the crap that some guys write, I cant see what type of system was used to match us. Most are guys I cant see myself even having a conversation with, as our views and attitudes are so different. I think they match you with whomever they feel like. It sucks.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 E-Harmony is not a typical black guy kind of thing, really. I bet if there're even half a dozen black guys from my area. I don't know, there are a LOT of relationship-minded black guys in the DC metro and many white collar. I know that's the majority here in my office.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 And after seeing some the crap that some guys write, I cant see what type of system was used to match us. Most are guys I cant see myself even having a conversation with, as our views and attitudes are so different. I think they match you with whomever they feel like. It sucks. Do consider that some people are just not good writers. That doesn't mean that they are incompatible with you. In general women tend to make better writers than men (in the overall majority I mean)
Jilly Bean Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Do consider that some people are just not good writers. That doesn't mean that they are incompatible with you. In general women tend to make better writers than men (in the overall majority I mean) True - but most of it is default responses. Some of these guys are total tools. I dunno - maybe if someone was above a 4 in attractiveness, Id overlook some bad prose. lol
rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 True - but most of it is default responses. Some of these guys are total tools. I dunno - maybe if someone was above a 4 in attractiveness, Id overlook some bad prose. lol 4 out of 5 or 4 out of 10?
Jilly Bean Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 4 out of 5 or 4 out of 10? Out of 10! lol
rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Out of 10! lol You're VERY forgiving IMO my dear As for me, I haven't found anyone acceptable on Match, POF or eHarmony. Maybe it's true what someone said to me on another thread, I'm looking for excuses not to date... Maybe I'm too picky, maybe I'm deluded. But I don't think I'm consciously *choosing* to be lonely.
Jilly Bean Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 You're VERY forgiving IMO my dear As for me, I haven't found anyone acceptable on Match, POF or eHarmony. Maybe it's true what someone said to me on another thread, I'm looking for excuses not to date... Maybe I'm too picky, maybe I'm deluded. But I don't think I'm consciously *choosing* to be lonely. No, probably not. You don't come off as too picky. I think it's fair to desire a partner that matches your value. So, the higher up the food chain you go, your pickings get slimmer. I dig myself, and I really am looking for the male of me (Jack Bean). lol. That's not easy to do, as there are many core competencies that are hard for me to bend on. Just makes the search a LOT harder. Sure, maybe some of these guys on eharmony are seriously relationship seeking (I believe they are), but man oh man, its been a total fugly fest. And sorry - beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, but I still need someone who can rev my engine.
westernxer Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 As for me, I haven't found anyone acceptable on Match, POF or eHarmony. At least POF is free.
Jilly Bean Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 At least POF is free. And there's a reason why... OK, now I wish I hadn't of said that eharmony was bottom feeders, as POF REALLY is! lol OMG - the people are the skankiest I have ever encountered. It's like Craigslist with better photos.
westernxer Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 OMG - the people are the skankiest I have ever encountered. It's like Craigslist with better photos. That's why I love browsing it. LOL
rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Sure, maybe some of these guys on eharmony are seriously relationship seeking (I believe they are), but man oh man, its been a total fugly fest. And sorry - beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, but I still need someone who can rev my engine. :lmao: God I love you JB :lmao:
Jilly Bean Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 That's why I love browsing it. LOL Right on.
Jilly Bean Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 :lmao: God I love you JB :lmao: Sigh. Im just not evolved enough to date an ugly dude. Its too bad - perhaps if I knew them IRL first, and they were funny, or had killer personalities, I could overlook the trollish bad looks. But without that benefit, they become one-dimensional, and therefore, eliminated. Im a shallow beeyotch, I know.
fral945 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I'm not too rigid to match up; I have my preferences and dating a plumber does not happen to be one of them. I have matched up quite easily on other dating sites like Match and Yahoo Personal, so if anything is rigid here it's the E-Harmony matching system. I really wonder if their 'matching up' is based on the details we have put in our profiles; I clearly stated my preference height would be a 6'0" plus, but all my matches are waay below that height. I also didn't put any race preferences, but only black guys have been shoved my way.. ? Their matching in not based on physical traits. I tried it and noticed the same thing. They do state that upfront that their belief is physical is not that important for long term relationships. If you want physical as a factor use another site. You want the 6 footer that makes 6 figures. And that's fine, as long as you realize that you better be smokin'. Those guys have their pick of women, obviously those are traits most any woman would like. They are equivalent to the blondes with big boobs who have their choice of men.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Sigh. Im just not evolved enough to date an ugly dude. Its too bad - perhaps if I knew them IRL first, and they were funny, or had killer personalities, I could overlook the trollish bad looks. But without that benefit, they become one-dimensional, and therefore, eliminated. Im a shallow beeyotch, I know. And yet I would totally date you... Unless you were totally fugly that is...
Poncho Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Someone with a white collar job. It's not about money, I'm looking for a certain intellectual level, which a plumber is unlikely to have. I just need someone I can converse with at the same level. I'm still hung up on this. A blue collar worker can be just as intelligent as a white collar worker. I am blue collar by choice, and am not a dumb person. There is no way I can sit in an office for 8-10 hours a day, it would drive me nuts. I enjoy working with my hands and getting dirty in the process.
Jilly Bean Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 And yet I would totally date you... Unless you were totally fugly that is... Well, Im on eharmony - draw your own conclusion...
rod_in_gtown Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Well, Im on eharmony - draw your own conclusion... Who am I kidding, you're awesome. I'd date you even if you WERE fugly (I'm a sucker for those heeled legs though) :love:
Jilly Bean Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Who am I kidding, you're awesome. I'd date you even if you WERE fugly (I'm a sucker for those heeled legs though) :love: Ha ha! I'd be sure to bring them along then...
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