wopbamboom Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I confess to not being very familiar was internet forums, so treat a newbie gently! Right now I am a total and utter crying mess. My boyfriend and I have broke up, or at least it would appear that way to me, however we have not had an 'official' line drawn under our relationship. We've been together two years, and I consider him my first true love. The last six months or so have been rocky to say the least, and I guess his behaviour recently has been the straw that broke the camels back. My family and my best friend have been telling me for months to end the relationship (a direct result of my now-ex's disrespectful and rude actions) for my own good, so I guess it's not really surprising. Which doesn't mean I don't feel the worst I've never felt before. Right now, I want to meet up with my ex so I can give him back some of his things (vice versa) and we can officially end things, so I can start to get my life back on track. However, he's being incredibly difficult (turning his phone off, being incredibly argumentative, hanging up, etc). This is an aspect of his personality, however, he's always been incredibly volatile and quite hot-headed. He's got a self-destructive nature, which always worried me (and obviously still does). So, is meeting up at the end of the week (we split up yesterday) the wisest idea? I feel like it really would be the only way I can move on. If so, how should I act around him? And any other tips on getting over a serious and important relationship would be greatly appreciated! Much love and hugs, Nicole
2sunny Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I confess to not being very familiar was internet forums, so treat a newbie gently! Right now I am a total and utter crying mess. My boyfriend and I have broke up, or at least it would appear that way to me, however we have not had an 'official' line drawn under our relationship. We've been together two years, and I consider him my first true love. The last six months or so have been rocky to say the least, and I guess his behaviour recently has been the straw that broke the camels back. My family and my best friend have been telling me for months to end the relationship (a direct result of my now-ex's disrespectful and rude actions) for my own good, so I guess it's not really surprising. Which doesn't mean I don't feel the worst I've never felt before. Right now, I want to meet up with my ex so I can give him back some of his things (vice versa) and we can officially end things, so I can start to get my life back on track. However, he's being incredibly difficult (turning his phone off, being incredibly argumentative, hanging up, etc). This is an aspect of his personality, however, he's always been incredibly volatile and quite hot-headed. He's got a self-destructive nature, which always worried me (and obviously still does). So, is meeting up at the end of the week (we split up yesterday) the wisest idea? I feel like it really would be the only way I can move on. If so, how should I act around him? And any other tips on getting over a serious and important relationship would be greatly appreciated! Much love and hugs, Nicole no it's not a wise idea to meet up. he's got some volatile tendencies and your placing yourself in front of him for what reason? just pack his stuff (and have him pack yours) and have someone drop it off - or mail it to him and he can do the same.
Author wopbamboom Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 Thanks, and I totally get what your saying. I suppose inside I know that seeing him again will do more harm than good. I must clear one thing up though- he's volatile, but has never been violent at all. Just for future responses. Thanks!
2sunny Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 that is why i used the word volatile instead of violent... either way - volatile in the wrong setting can lead to violence given some prompting.
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