timmyg123 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 hey guys just my story, looking for advice. rite so im 20 have been with this girl for 3 years untill a week ago. we where amazin andsoin love for 18 months then had a massive argument we didnot talk for 3months other than one night she came round drunk on her bday when i ignored it. we then got back together but we were asecret couple cus of fmaily wouldnot acceot me after the argument. then we where good agian n the summer came n i hardly sawhere, she dint even get me a card for my 20th after 3 years together lol. we have brroken up a number of times and ive always chased. i acted like i was cool with the latest break up, she was suprised then i chased again, but to no avail she left for uni today which is only a hour away and easily workable, but she cant live with all the lies and cant see herself telling her parents. she loves me but needsto be alone. i asked her to not contact me and she agreed. she hastrteated me like crap i guess but i still love her. any one shed any light ? one day she is willing to try through uni the next its never speak again. she siad we dont belong together but then says if my parents knew i would like to betogether lol somessedup
EmperorR Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 No contact best option, the way I met my girl etc I still believe if were meant to be then just relax and yet it be
Author timmyg123 Posted October 27, 2008 Author Posted October 27, 2008 so what its been over a month now! i have been in complete nc! very proudi havent mentioned it toany mutual friends atall and no facebook stalking what so ever this is wierd cus thayts all i did last time. it is strange not having aclue whatsgoing on and imsuprised like that she hasnt made contact.well it wasexspected sheis stubborn. we broke up thesame times aslast year lol but i dont thinkwewillbe gettin back together at crimbo like last year. ihave beenseeing a few girls 1of whom i rele liken hope to moveforwardwith but theres a still littlebit i stilllove my ex n would like to try n hope shewould call cus icant chase her. has it been long enough to her miss me yet, will she be over me cus of uni being fun. what do i do when she is back for crimbo n probly comes to my hang outs? why am i suddenly missing her? i mi9ssed her for first few days then not rele then over a month later bam i find myself fighting to not lookat facebook! why? last time she said she thought about n missed me everyday, though about mewhen she was with the kid she was seeing and no1 hasthe chemistry like we do. i dont know if she willmiss methis time maybe i shouldnt care n move on n think that i will never bewith heragaincus i shouldnt let hermess meabout. also whatare peoples veiws on letting go of first loveto exsperience otherstuff thengetting back together?
NickP Posted October 27, 2008 Posted October 27, 2008 buddy u're sittin there wondering if she missed u n all that.. whilst at this very moment, she cld be sitting down with another guy moving on and doing everything she can to try and forget u. u need to try and move on. tis relationship sounds destructive with all the breakups and everything. find something which will give u less heartache and more stability. are u happy more than u are sad when u are with her? cos it seems tat u guys have so many issues already. u're still young so take life easy and move on. who knows, yes u MAY get back together again but at this point of time, she isnt contacting u and u have NO IDEA what she is up to. it's best u choose the healthy option and move on. do what's best for yourself!
MichiganMan222 Posted October 28, 2008 Posted October 28, 2008 timmy, either you need a new keyboard or perhaps should see about getting the swelling in your fingers down a smidge. I was involved in a hidden relationship (due to work issues) and while its somewhat exciting at first, it really sucks later. It prevents the relationship from progressing and you hit a wall, which adds a lot of stress.
Author timmyg123 Posted October 28, 2008 Author Posted October 28, 2008 thanksfor the replies and yes i need a new keyboard. im not just sat here wasteing my life i have a much better social life now we have split, and for her seeing newguys i have been seeing new girls even one already that been seeing for a while who wants to start a official relationship. iam just not hiding the fact i still love andcare formy ex.
Author timmyg123 Posted October 31, 2008 Author Posted October 31, 2008 guys i have been doin no contact for 6 7 weeks now. it was easy at first but now im finding temptations to txt her. i do miss her. but how am i supposed to move on 100% when its possible she can contact me and wana get back togther again like she did before?
Author timmyg123 Posted November 5, 2008 Author Posted November 5, 2008 i was stood rite next to her dad tonight at the bar nothing said as dont gwet along. but it makes me sssoooooooooooooooo want to text her after this no contact but i knowi shouldnt dam it i still want tobewith her and thinkshe is the one but not right now heeeeeeeeeeelp
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