Bells Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Okay, not sure if I posted this already. I'm on this social networking site....I met this girl at a bowling event, she actually initiated the conversation with me.... and I went and posted a message to her saying it was nice meeting her. As a result, she just added me to her friends list...now, I typically don't add someone to my list of friends unless I've gotten to know them a bit or already know them well or I ask their permission. But she's a woman, and I welcome any invitation from a cute girl, right? lol Anyhow, I email her thanking me for the "add". And she does respond this time, and we email back and forth a couple of times...and she says she'd love to stay in touch with me and if any other event comes up, to let her know (she's new to the area). I reply back with some event that's going on downtown, a couple of questions asking about HER personally. No response. I wait a few days, I email her again about another event, and asked if she'd be interested in going. Again no response. I wait about 2 weeks now.....and I email her with, "Hey, I thought you said you wanted to stay in touch?" And she DOES respond this time, and says, "Sorry I hadn't been responsive with my emails...but yes, I'd definately like to keep in touch! Hope all is well with you!" Then I'm thinking, that she just got busy. So I respond to her again....wash , rinse, repeat. The woman ADDS me to her friends list, and then won't talk...what gives? I feel like emailing her with, "So, um....shall I take you off my friends list since you're not staying in touch like you said you would?"
Davey McG Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I think you're putting too much importance on social networking. She knows you therefore has added you. It doesn't mean she wants to go out with you or is interested, its like collecting baseball cards, except with many social networking sites you collect people. I typically don't add someone to my list of friends unless I've gotten to know them a bit or already know them well or I ask their permission. You are probably in a minority on this front. Many female friends of mine have close to 1000 friends. There's no way they can know all of their "friends" that well. You could say this to her: "So, um....shall I take you off my friends list since you're not staying in touch like you said you would?" but you'd come across a bit foolishly, a little moody, uppity and not the sort of person she'd want to know. Adding someone on a social networking site isn't the same as having them give you their number. She's not interested in you that way. Nothing to see here. Move along!
Jersey Shortie Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 The more you push the issue the faster she will run away. I just suggest you cool your heels a little from contacting her and let her breath a little. Sometimes, I really am busy and don't respond to my emails everyday. If a guy gets all insecure and starts sending me more emails, it's a turn off and I want to back away.
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