SadHatter Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Original thread can be found here... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=162259 Well, after a few weeks of nothing...last night I get ANOTHER phone call from the ex-girlfriend's mate. The call is a withheld number, I answer the phone and get, "Are you a paedophile?"...I recognise the person as the girl who was pranking me before, so I say, "Oh go away" and hang up the phone. A paedophile??? No idea why she is calling me that, but I am sooooo angry, it's not nice to be called that is it?!?!?! Probably nothing personal against me, just another of their stupid little sayings, but I'm not tolerating it. I immediately text the ex-girlfriend, who I haven't spoken to since the last time I posted in this thread, and said, "Tell your stupid mates NOT to call me again"...straight away I get a phone call from the ex-girlfriend, "What are you talking about? I don't know what you mean....I'm in a restaurant. My mates are with me, but they're outside..." I say, "And you're telling me you knew nothing about them calling me???". She says, "No..." and I say, "Well you better make sure it doesn't happen again" and she says, "OK" and I put the phone down. Didn't happen again that night. Can't believe my ex has turned out this way. I don't think I believe her to be honest, I think she is putting her mate(s) up to this, but if she isn't, she's still an idiot for allowing her friends to do it?????? If one of my friends did that to her I'd say, "What are you doing???? I went out with the girl for 2.5 years", have a right moan at my friends and call her up an apologise. She just lets them do it! That's if she isn't behind it all anyway. The girl was never ever ever like this before, of course if she was, I wouldn't have dated her for so long. She's got a new boyfriend now too, been together over 2 months, so why on earth is she doing this? Does anyone understand this and why she'd act like it? Even my family are shocked, we even all spent Christmas just gone at her family's house. I'm so angry, but I'd also be lying if I didn't say it doesn't hurt me that she is acting this way. It's so pathetic, they're on a night out and prank call me????
WiseOne1 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Original thread can be found here... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=162259 Well, after a few weeks of nothing...last night I get ANOTHER phone call from the ex-girlfriend's mate. The call is a withheld number, I answer the phone and get, "Are you a paedophile?"...I recognise the person as the girl who was pranking me before, so I say, "Oh go away" and hang up the phone. A paedophile??? No idea why she is calling me that, but I am sooooo angry, it's not nice to be called that is it?!?!?! Probably nothing personal against me, just another of their stupid little sayings, but I'm not tolerating it. I immediately text the ex-girlfriend, who I haven't spoken to since the last time I posted in this thread, and said, "Tell your stupid mates NOT to call me again"...straight away I get a phone call from the ex-girlfriend, "What are you talking about? I don't know what you mean....I'm in a restaurant. My mates are with me, but they're outside..." I say, "And you're telling me you knew nothing about them calling me???". She says, "No..." and I say, "Well you better make sure it doesn't happen again" and she says, "OK" and I put the phone down. Didn't happen again that night. Can't believe my ex has turned out this way. I don't think I believe her to be honest, I think she is putting her mate(s) up to this, but if she isn't, she's still an idiot for allowing her friends to do it?????? If one of my friends did that to her I'd say, "What are you doing???? I went out with the girl for 2.5 years", have a right moan at my friends and call her up an apologise. She just lets them do it! That's if she isn't behind it all anyway. The girl was never ever ever like this before, of course if she was, I wouldn't have dated her for so long. She's got a new boyfriend now too, been together over 2 months, so why on earth is she doing this? Does anyone understand this and why she'd act like it? Even my family are shocked, we even all spent Christmas just gone at her family's house. I'm so angry, but I'd also be lying if I didn't say it doesn't hurt me that she is acting this way. It's so pathetic, they're on a night out and prank call me???? Dude your ex and her friends are sooo pathetic. Think about it.....prank calling?? She knows about it or is putting her friends up to it. Its really pathetic and the new BF must not be treating her well or such, instead of having the guts to call you and talk to you like a mature adult she has to use prank calling. Even her bf would find her prank calling a ex to be embarrasing, instead of this pissing you off take it as a compliment. I would just change my number, because in 2 years your going to still be receiving prank calls.
Author SadHatter Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 Do you definitely think she is in on this then even though she always denies she is and says it is nothing to do with her? She always seems to be there when it happens, but always denies it is her putting her friend up to. One time she said she wasn't even there, another time she was there but she can't stop her friend doing it, then last night that she was inside and they were outside and she was unaware of the call. What's the point though??? I did notice on MySpace last week when I logged in, it tells you people's status and her status was, "Feels broken :(" and her mood was "discontent :(" Not saying that it is anything to do with me (and would I care anyway?), just maybe your theory is right that she isn't as happy as she made out...having said that, I'd be very surprised if she actually does want to talk to me like you think - we broke up at the end of January, tried being mates until April time and then she met this new guy and I didn't exist anymore...so I just let it go and we stopped talking at all
wayfaerer1 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Sounds to me like she isn't happy with her current relationship with that guy. It's either one of two things: either she is the one orchestrating the prank calls, or it's simply her friends or her bf. In any case, she's involved, if not directly then certainly indirectly, and that still counts because she has the power to tell her friends to stop, if it is them. Listen to Wiseone's comment - take this as a compliment - it shows how low she/her friends are stooping and how you are ten times more mature than that. You're the stronger person, the better man, you have a soul. Keep telling yourself that - don't waste your time thinking about what she's doing. It's the same with me and my ex, we stopped talking a couple weeks ago and I'd like to keep it that way. She cheated on me, completely betraying my trust, and that hurts like hell, but like I said, I know I'm the better person. I was (and still am) incredibly loyal and I always pride myself on that, she wasn't, she was weak, immature, whatever.
Author SadHatter Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 Thanks mate, really good reply that and I really appreciate you taking the time to write it. Sorry to hear about your situation with your ex - it all makes you better in the long run though, you learn from it and move forwards. For me - I'm not sure if you agree - but all it does to me is make me think that my ex-girlfriend is obviously thinking about me. She'd deny it until she is blue in the face, and would say it is nothing to do with her and is down to her friends. Whatever. The point is - she's allowing this to happen which makes her look like she is not over me - or her friends are making her seem that way. Either way, she's too immature to realise that her friends' actions are just making her look desperate. That's what I think anyway. I don't think her ex-boyfriend would have anything to do with it, I'd assume he'd be annoyed about it - if you met someone new, would you want her calling her ex, even if it was prank calls? You'd say, "Just leave him alone - who cares?" Very weird, all of it, and in my 26 years and numerous relationships I've had, I've never experienced anyone act like this. She basically initiated no contact, then when I totally stay away, I get prank calls? Very, very weird....
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