Ruby Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I gave my ex another chance after we broke up for 6 weeks and he said all the right things. He said he wanted to change for himself and he knew how much I meant to him and that he was silly to ever mess me around. The problem I had with him was that he was unreliable and did not follow through with plans he made with me Things have been great for the last week and then yesterday he left my house and said he will be a few hours as I was doing dinner and he was supposed to be helping me remove a cupboard from my wall and he did not call or text or come around! I know he will now say that he fell asleep early and woke up in the morning, I know this because he has said it 100 times before Why did I bother?
Treasa Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 That sucks. If he calls, be unreliable yourself. Don't take his calls. Give it a few days before you even let him know you're still alive. That will give both of you a chance to think.
Author Ruby Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 I dont think I will play games. I need to just end it. Has anyone else ever been with a man who is this unreliable?
Treasa Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Yep, and my advice wasn't about playing a game, it was about giving yourself time to think. Of course, if you already know your decision, then I think you should end it ASAP.
BCCA Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I dont think I will play games. I need to just end it. Has anyone else ever been with a man who is this unreliable? Dont reward bad behavior. Sounds simple enough, but a lot of people just dont see what theyre doing. If he's not worth the effort anymore, sure, boot him to the curb. But if you want to see if something can be worked out, I would advise telling him calmly and straightforward that this bothers you a LOT and is unacceptable. If he wants to continue to be in your life, this has to stop NOW. People tend to push the envelope as far as we let them. Again, if you feel like youve done enough and are over this, end it.
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