jimmymat87 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I dont know if this is normal or not... or if it happens to other people because this was my first serious relationship... Do you sometimes feel really really really bad about your break up... but then even the same day you might actually feel good and be glad its over.. This morning and afternoon i was so miserable thinking how **** life is and that i would do anything to go back to the way things were... Then tonite i feel like i actually never want to see my ex again like i cant stand her.. Whats up with that??
EmperorR Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 that's me part of the day I miss her so much wonder how I'm going to live then I watch football for however long I want. Don't have go pit up with her constant crying and crankiness, then I miss her again.
wayfaerer1 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Yeah man, that's how it goes. For me, feelings come in waves - about half of the day I think about how much this really sucks, and that she's probably off finding a dude who is more attractive or more entertaining than I am. Then the other half of the day, I think, "Screw her, I'm better off without someone who doesn't know what they want, there are plenty of gorgeous women with good personalities out there." That's really what keeps me going...and it should for you too. It sounds lame, but look in the mirror at yourself, smile, just know that there is someone better for you out there - it's only a matter of time. I'm finally starting to see why no contact is the best thing to do - it's really helping me. It makes me sad that I can no longer talk to her, but what would that accomplish? It would only bring back more pain. Lean on your friends, your mates, your buddies - also, and it's probably too soon to think about dating, but just hanging around people of the opposite sex does wonders. Even if it's othing more than a friendly conversation, believe me, it helps distract you. Do as much as you can to distract yourself from the pain - eventually you'll just get sick of feeling crappy.
EmperorR Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I agree and hell it could be worse, I could have married this girl have kids then she changes her Mind. All I know this experien e made me a better person.
wayfaerer1 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 That's what I keep telling myself - I could have married this girl, and things would have really been FUBAR then. I'm actually starting to feel happier, although I know the pain isn't gone yet, but I've been in pretty good spirits recently. But I know I still have some days ahead of me where it'll all hit me again and I'll feel like crap.
Sysyphus28 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I am going through that. and I'm sure it is normal. It is natural to be torn........and well, broken. You miss them, and then you feel free, and then you miss them, and then you feel free again.
Author jimmymat87 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 I agree and hell it could be worse, I could have married this girl have kids then she changes her Mind. All I know this experien e made me a better person. Makes you realise how careful you have to be when you actually do get married.. if you have any doubts what so ever then it may be a bad idea.. If these realtionships have lasted hawever long they have 1 year in my case and i couldnt survive that... a marriage is meant to last for life, 50-60+ years
jolie78 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 doesn't that happen even when you're not focused on a breakup? many things could piss you off in a day, and the same number could make your day
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