porto26 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I have been dating my current gf for the last year and a half. She is the love of my life, but in the last few days I feel as we have been departing away. In the past few weeks communicating with her has been very difficult. This weekend I was suppose to see her, but she blew me off. She spent her days with family and friends. We had arranged to be with each other on friday night. I drove like usual to her house which is quite far, but she was not home. She was still with her "Family". I text and called her when I arrived but she she responded only once. Her text said " go back home we will see each other later". I was disappointed, stressed out, I felt disrespected. I talked to her today and I could tell she barely wants to talk about our relationship. Although we decided to meet tomorrow and talk, I got to ask a few questions that I needed to get out of my chest. She tells me she loves me still, but she is unhappy, she wants more. We do not live together. She works, I recently just graduated, job searching, while waiting to gain admission to dental school. I feel that she knows I cannot provide her with what she wants, "marriage". Although I love her to death I cannot get myself any more serious at the moment, I have to figure out my life first. Even though I don't know if I am going to be in my state in the next year I have discussed how I felt about our relationship to her. I would do everything to keep her in my life. I feel that she is being very selfish, I give her all the attention and love but I am getting very little back. I feel that she wants to break up more than resolve our problems. It seems as if she wants me to make the final decision so she doesnt feel bad about the breakup. I am already heartbroken. Although I have a good idea why this happening I really do not know what is going on with her. I asked her today if there is anyone else in her life, she answered no. She is so confusing. I know that in this situations the best way to deal with them is to use your brain and not your heart. I cannot let her walk all over me like this. I feel like I have to end this tomorrow. This feeling is killing me.
steve9417 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 i'd be careful about ending it just yet ...... you could be about to start a painful journey if you do - of course i could be misreading the situation but if she's the love of your life then you're likely to be doing your heart a diservice by ignoring it you've both got fears ... discuss them openly and carefully - I'm sure the relationship deserves that - if and only if you end up at a stalemate then perhaps its time to move apart
JamesM Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Explain please. In May of this year, you supposedly ended a relationship with a GF who you dated for a year and a half. Did you two get back together again? Is she regretting it again? If this is the same GF and she is "waffling" again, then you may need to break it off for good. Otherwise, you will be on a roller coaster relationship with her. And if you have four years of dental school ahead, then you need to focus. If she is the right one, then she will love YOU more than marriage.
Author porto26 Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 Explain please. In May of this year, you supposedly ended a relationship with a GF who you dated for a year and a half. Did you two get back together again? Is she regretting it again? If this is the same GF and she is "waffling" again, then you may need to break it off for good. Otherwise, you will be on a roller coaster relationship with her. And if you have four years of dental school ahead, then you need to focus. If she is the right one, then she will love YOU more than marriage. Yes this is the same girl, we broke up for 2 months and we started dating again. She is basically acting the same way she acted back in may, before we broke up. Although I am disappointed and heartbroken I just don't want to be walked all over. I can see that she wants me to break us up so she doesn't feel as bad about the breakup. I am tired of all the drama, I cannot wait for my stress level to drop down.
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