sultry33 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 well its been a whooping 17days nc for me;) since i told him goodbye an goodluck, im done with complications:laugh: ie him.. no reply from him after that and no reply from me either, yes i still think of him most of the time and deep down i miss him but life goes on.. i have lost 4pound in weight this week that a total of 2 stone since we split... i have new wardrobe of clothes.. lots of hot guys pursuing me lol.. one guy Ben is hot ass.. from my gym that i only went to once.. im thinking he wants me to go back.. but im out on a date with him this week;) Im 37 he is 26 but hey its just a number he also has a better car than my ex. more money definatly more style and more muscle.. so just depends on how we hit it off... he kissed me and it felt good. he said i make him laugh.. falling of the treadmill helped i think. I just hope that this post will help others realize that life does go on and even if you feel its stopped are heart broken you can move on even if its slow.. My ex will always be in my heart but he choose to leave me.. so im choosing to live my life to the full and not waste any more tears on him. I go out every weekend an party and now i walk 4-8 miles every other day plus take care of me.. confidence is my middle name.. i have new friends too who are in there early20s ...one thought i was 22... happy days:laugh: im now smiling again and not due to my ex.. hugs to all x
SadShamrock Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 This was very encouraging to read! Good for you.
Rafa Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 ...he also has a better car than my ex. more money definatly more style and more muscle.. Are you sure you don't live in LA? Good luck sultry, I hope you find happiness! Well done on 17 days nc, I'm back to zero
0hpenelope Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I am happy for you overall, but I have to admit I zoomed in on one thing and one thing alone. You have a new wardrobe! YES! Forget diamonds: shopping is a girl's best friend.
Lishy Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Well I knew it! You were too good for him! Good on you!!
RogueAC Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 Great update! It is so good to read about positive progress and confidence coming from within. Keep having fun Sultry!!
Author sultry33 Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 Are you sure you don't live in LA? Good luck sultry, I hope you find happiness! Well done on 17 days nc, I'm back to zero hi it does get better.. lost track how long now and tbh im not really thinking about him that much.. his new replacement is very welcome:laugh: i dont live in LA but hey one day i will visit... fancy a cuppa? hope you are coping well x
Author sultry33 Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 I am happy for you overall, but I have to admit I zoomed in on one thing and one thing alone. You have a new wardrobe! YES! Forget diamonds: shopping is a girl's best friend. damn right and im loosing weight..he is still the same;) plus im selling me old clothes out with the old to fund the new:laugh: x
Author sultry33 Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 Well I knew it! You were too good for him! Good on you!! Thanks Lishy you dont know how good that makes me feel:bunny: For a long time i tried to get him back put all my rules out only to be crushed but crushing is what i needed to finally let go.. i dont think he cares loves me or feels anything and that is for sure his loss.. i gave it my all and all is done.. i have no regrets except that i failed to see the real a hole he is.. on a better note Ben was hot turned into a week of nortyness then i called it off:love: he is a great guy but not right for me longterm. I have been talking to a guy who is very much right for me.. he has called me alot an we chat on here most nights.. meeting up sunday so who knows:p i keep you all posted x hope things are good with you x
Author sultry33 Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 Great update! It is so good to read about positive progress and confidence coming from within. Keep having fun Sultry!! fun is my middle name atm im enjoying the new found me.. x
Author sultry33 Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 This was very encouraging to read! Good for you. thank you, i wanted to show that hitting the bottom can mean picking yourself up dusting off and saying well i gave it my all its done.. im still living cannot express the pain i felt that early morning in march but its that pain that is the constant reminder to me to not ever go back there.. he lied to me in the week before i found out he had someone and he planned to be with her so deep down i lost respect for him.. i think he cheated on her with me which will bring karma on him im a firm believer in that. sometimes i feel like saying thanks to him as without someone else posting pics up of him with her id never have known and he would have continued to have his cake an eat it too... but now i see him for his true self and id never want someone like that.. 4 years and i didnt know him :laugh: i told him if he was ever with anyone or cheated on me i would never be with him again.. my love would die and in one moment it did. staying strong and moved on here.. x
Rafa Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 hi it does get better.. lost track how long now and tbh im not really thinking about him that much.. his new replacement is very welcome:laugh: i dont live in LA but hey one day i will visit... fancy a cuppa? hope you are coping well x Thanks Sultry. Yes lets get a cuppa, I could do with an NC buddy!
Lishy Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 Sultry, I am so over the moon that you are over that big fat creep! Soon he will just be a jacket potato in your past hahhaha (just joking babe) I am so pleased you are virtually over him, you are a strong woman with lots to offer and we MUST meet up one day and go for a coffee (laced with Brandy) I just know we would get on so well
Author sultry33 Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 Sultry, I am so over the moon that you are over that big fat creep! Soon he will just be a jacket potato in your past hahhaha (just joking babe) I am so pleased you are virtually over him, you are a strong woman with lots to offer and we MUST meet up one day and go for a coffee (laced with Brandy) I just know we would get on so well Lol you are right he is just that.. he is now hopefully reminded of us as he is holidying in our holiday place. havin a beer on the beach we was going get married on and christened if you get me.. norty sultry:laugh: Im feeling very good atm and although i miss what life we had planned i know there is only one of me and he has trully lost the one person who loved his fat ass.. the good the bad the ugly.. the zzzzzzz jokes.. the me lifestyle... yea all him;) was just happy to make him happy .. sad but very true. HEY we will def meet up will have to party the night away... once got me mum drunk on coffee with baileys yum.. you must try that:laugh: hugs to you x
foxh1234 Posted October 2, 2008 Posted October 2, 2008 Hi Sultry I am so happy that you are doing well. I am very proud of you and I knew you would find yourself and move forward. Congrats my friend.
Author sultry33 Posted October 2, 2008 Author Posted October 2, 2008 Hi Sultry I am so happy that you are doing well. I am very proud of you and I knew you would find yourself and move forward. Congrats my friend. hey fox, thank you:D you always inspire me personal fan of yours here x
Author sultry33 Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 31 days NC ... Had a really good date yesterday, went to london to history museum, science museum.. Hamleys Inital 1st moment thought was mmm unsure lol cannot say he was like wow you nice or possibly even my type.. but i bit the bullet.. yes i sound bad, but thats me i guess normally id have been pleasant but tried to put him off somehow.. but i thought there is more to him and talking online we have a good time.. i glad i did:) He was a true gent.. hell i had to make the moves:laugh: which was weird but good and strange too... Cannot say if there is CHEMISTRY as didnt get as far as a kiss.. was a moment when there could have been as i grabbed hold of his hand whilst walking.. he seemed comfortable to do this , mind you didnt really give him much chance not too lol He is really interesting has alot of interests and most im into aswell , he remembers what i like, wizzed me off to see feriari shop and lambo showroom! we talk for hrs most nights and online he has tons of chemisty is norty confident and funny. I thought tbh at end of date.. some 7 hrs later that he was not that keen.. he was talkative and all that but seemed shy and not as confident..he did ask if i was what he expected? i said yes.. i just felt i was too much fo him to take in.. quiet school boy type versus party queen .. although i had bad hair day due to rain from hell and force 7 winds anyone seen BRIDGET JONES.. mini break bit:laugh: i felt alittle sad as i do like him.. but id never chase so thought id just see if he said anything.. was expecting a reply like .. you really nice, but we are from different worlds.. i could handle that as its true:p but he texted me about 10mins after i left..said he had a great time and im really nice, be good to meet again soon, unsure when but wants too. so last night we talked again til the early morn lol So i took a risk.. went against my usual prob unacceptable attitude.. and im glad i did.. dont know if we will get together or have a future together but i will give it a go.. he makes me feel good and he told me he likes me an awful lot:D just wondered was i right to dismiss 1st moment thoughts? positive side... not thought about my ex as much except he is hoildaying in cornwall and hopefully its freezing. his new chick is welcome to holiday from hell:laugh: been there done that! stay strong and hugs to all x:bunny:
Lishy Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Wow well done you!!!!!!!!! Where did you meet him babe?
Author sultry33 Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 Wow well done you!!!!!!!!! Where did you meet him babe? thanks;) do you mean for date? LONDON.. yea im brave went on my own on tube aswell..down scary moving steep stairs. im scared of heights! Oherwise POF.. THE FISH ONE lol so i know he wants a rs.. i know i go out alot but guys i meet at club although tick the hot box.. and yeah could keep up with crazy me..they dont tick all the boxes if you get me..
Lishy Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Hahhaha you nut, of course you went to london you went to hamleys lol I meant where did you meet him? Online? Dating site?
Author sultry33 Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 Hahhaha you nut, of course you went to london you went to hamleys lol I meant where did you meet him? Online? Dating site? lol im a literal thinker plenty of fish.com its cool..
carrie3107 Posted October 6, 2008 Posted October 6, 2008 Hi hon, glad to hear everything is going great for you x My update is mum is out of hospital and is doing ok, getting her sea legs back. Dad took bad on Wednesday with a heavy cold so he went to bed for 3 days so was nursemaiding both of them till yesturday. Last time i spoke to the ex he said hed be there for me if i needed to talk. So i spoke to him a week ago last friday and he was the usual all about me talk. So i just said ive got to go ive got to go to the hospital he said oh how is your mum. She's fine got to go!!!! He said hed ring me over the weekend but hasnt bothered. But Im glad cause Im a better person without him. Just took a while to wake up!!!!
Author sultry33 Posted October 6, 2008 Author Posted October 6, 2008 aww carrie you are worth so much more. im glad your mum is doing well and hope you dad gets better soon.. may take a while to wake up but believe me its worth it.. i was the worst one for 2nd chances.. false hope.. booty call but now im so much better glad you are here too sometimes takes a while to see them for there true colours;) im just out for 8 mile walk.. will have the fittest bum in kent soon i walk the road way.. see lots of flash cars and fit guys.. lots of beeps damn that feels good hugs to you x
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