light2 Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Hi, I'm new to the forum, I hope this is the correct place to post. Anyways, so I'm into this girl and we've been spending a bit of time together. Especially the past few days we have texted and seen each other. However, her english isn't that good and I cannot understand her language. The other day I found out she has a boyfriend and they were having trouble so I told her that they would be fine (long distance). I spend the rest of day with her and later that night, she texts me telling me they are broken up. At that point I didn't know why she would text and tell me. Maybe its because I'm the only one she can really tell in this country? She is an international student. Anyways, she keeps hinting how it is a shame I can't understand her language but we talk a lot still and i understand her fine. So today she had a movie on her computer so I was like, do you want to watch it with me but she then tells me that she will give to me and told me watch it myself, to practice her language. This girl is confusing me pretty bad. I'm starting to think that the only reason she is spending time and talking to me this much is because she has no one really to talk to. And is it too soon for her to be in a relationship? She doesn't seem too down from the break up.. i cannot read her well... what you guys think?
paddington bear Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 she texts me telling me they are broken up. Anyways, she keeps hinting how it is a shame I can't understand her language but we talk a lot still and i understand her fine. So today she had a movie on her computer so I was like, do you want to watch it with me but she then tells me that she will give to me and told me watch it myself, to practice her language. And is it too soon for her to be in a relationship? She doesn't seem too down from the break up.. i cannot read her well... what you guys think? She told you because she wanted you to know she was free and available You understand her fine, but she wants you to learn a little to show some interest. Learn a few phrases and try to say them and watch how she smiles. She doesn't seem too down from the breakup? Because she already has you lined up as her next boyfriend. Go for it!!
Author light2 Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 Thanks for the encouragement but a little bit of me still thinks she is just new to the country thus I am the only one she can talk to. Also she is just broken up, and I don't know if she is just needy right now and will regret it later. I guess i'll just wait it out a bit and see how she will react or act in the next few days before I make a move again..
paddington bear Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 It all depends. Is she only there for a few months before returning to her own country? Maybe she wants a nice interlude with you before she goes back home, in which case, why not? And maybe you are the only one she can talk to, it's hard when you're in a new country and know no one, however, the fact that she specifically told you that she'd broken up with her boyfriend seems to indicate that she's looking for something more than friendship from you. If it was me, and if I no longer had a boyfriend, but wasn't interested in you, I probably wouldn't mention it at all.
Author light2 Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 She should be here for next 4-5years, returning home during vacation probably. But I do agree with you that her telling me might be a hint.. bah i don't know... maybe i should also mention that she is also my roommate and that is how we met..
paddington bear Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Go for it. What have you got to lose...well except for a terribly awkward situation in your household if things don't work out. The question you have to ask yourself is if you like her in that way. If you do, just take a chance. As they say, we always regret what we haven't done, not what we have done.
D-Lish Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 What language is it? Some languages are harder to learn than others... But I think she wants you to understand more about her and where she comes from- certainly a good sign.
Author light2 Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 yea i do like her but yea, it could be awkward for a while.. we are both chinese, but she speaks mandarin which i cannot understand...
Vertex Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Dude. Okay I'm not even Chinese and even I know Mandarin. Open up a website and learn some darn Mandarin. I assume you speak Cantonese. It should be even easier for you then. Seriously if you need help with the language, let me know and I can help fill you in. I've found that being able to speak a girl's native language tends to be a huge plus
Author light2 Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 cool, yah i'm cantonese but i am not good at that either.. anyways, if you can give me some help then i appreciate it. Thanks
rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 She's in a coutry thousands of miles away from home, she just broke up with her bf, she's lonely and sad. Go for it, it seems like she likes you and she's confiding in you. On the other hand, what do you think will happen with the roomate situation if she doesn't want to have anything with you? can you move to another house? Things to consider.
Author light2 Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 She's in a coutry thousands of miles away from home, she just broke up with her bf, she's lonely and sad. Go for it, it seems like she likes you and she's confiding in you. On the other hand, what do you think will happen with the roomate situation if she doesn't want to have anything with you? can you move to another house? Things to consider. well last night we talked all night long, i don't even remember about what... then when she went back to her room she called me and wouldn't let me hang up. She kept asking ""why are you so kind to me", so at that point i asked her back why do you think.. i didn't answer her directly.. do you think i should? like she literally broke up 3 days ago.... that is only thing that worries me..
Author light2 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 mmm probably no1 cares but... it worked out ---- verryyyverryyy well... thanks guys for advice
Author light2 Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 mmm I cannot go into detail, can only say she spend the night~~~ thanks all again...
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