sparks85 Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Ok, so I had gone now contact for about seven weeks!!! I was finding it hard as I still care very much about my ex but I made the decision that I had to move on!!! He contacted me last Sunday for the first time since he told me that he didn't think things were going to work between us (on the 11th August)...he also told me we needed time apart and thats the way he felt at that moment in time. In my mind, things were over for good, however, he did contact me last Sunday except that he called me and text me at 4.30am (drunk I presume) telling me that he missed me so much and that he wanted to hear my voice. I didn't respond because I've been through the drunk calls with him before. Anyways, I have been very confused as we had booked a trip away together and this week I have to change the flights. I started to wonder if he had meant what he said and started to have doubts! I actually broke my no-contact on Wednesday evening and simply text him asking him why he called me on the Sunday!!! He didn't respond!!! The weird thing was the very next day - less than 24 hours after I text him and had no reply - I met up with a male friend for coffee. As we were drinking our coffee, my ex and his work collegue pulled up outside the coffee shop. I am pretty certain he saw me as he went to get out of the car and then closed the door when he seemed to notice me. I left the coffee shop with my friend and as I didn't want any conflict/akward situations. I haven't heard from him but I text him again this moring at 10am explaining the situation with the flights and the trip (I was fortunate enough to win the trip from a competition so I don't actually owe him any money or anything). It's now 3.45pm and once again, I've heard nothing from him!!! Is it safe to assume (and probably extremely silly of me to ask at this point) that he is not at all interested and I should get back on the NC wagon ASAP!!!?
9Lives Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Ok, so I had gone now contact for about seven weeks!!! I was finding it hard as I still care very much about my ex but I made the decision that I had to move on!!! He contacted me last Sunday for the first time since he told me that he didn't think things were going to work between us (on the 11th August)...he also told me we needed time apart and thats the way he felt at that moment in time. In my mind, things were over for good, however, he did contact me last Sunday except that he called me and text me at 4.30am (drunk I presume) telling me that he missed me so much and that he wanted to hear my voice. I didn't respond because I've been through the drunk calls with him before. Sparks...he misses you. That's it. he said he doesnt think it will work. I would continue to guard my heart and not deal with him until I am much much stronger and not affected by his silly a/ss. Anyways, I have been very confused as we had booked a trip away together and this week I have to change the flights. I started to wonder if he had meant what he said and started to have doubts! I actually broke my no-contact on Wednesday evening and simply text him asking him why he called me on the Sunday!!! He didn't respond!!! Texting is overrated in my book. It is for friends and lovers. When the relationship is on the rocks, I perfer a call or email...really a call leaving a voicemail. I think guys hide behind a text since Im a woman I point to the guy. my experience has shown me that it is too easy and requires little effort. I would not text him anymore. he is being strong, why cant you. The weird thing was the very next day - less than 24 hours after I text him and had no reply - I met up with a male friend for coffee. As we were drinking our coffee, my ex and his work collegue pulled up outside the coffee shop. I am pretty certain he saw me as he went to get out of the car and then closed the door when he seemed to notice me. I left the coffee shop with my friend and as I didn't want any conflict/akward situations. I haven't heard from him but I text him again this moring at 10am explaining the situation with the flights and the trip (I was fortunate enough to win the trip from a competition so I don't actually owe him any money or anything). It's now 3.45pm and once again, I've heard nothing from him!!! Is it safe to assume (and probably extremely silly of me to ask at this point) that he is not at all interested and I should get back on the NC wagon ASAP!!!? Try your best to get your mind off of him. He is not in any rush to talk to you right now or whatever. Be your own best friend and do whatever makes you feel good right now. Love on yourself. Stay here with us on LS and fight thru it. You can do It!!! Dont feel bad....learn from your mistakes
Author sparks85 Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 You are right 9Lives!!! I have been so strong up until this point but I guess I kinda panicked about everything on Wednesday!!! I will resort straight back to no-contact and just continue taking care of myself as I have done up until this point!!! Thanks for your reply - sometimes you just need to hear it from someone else - battling it out with the voices in your head doesn't always get you very far!!!
9Lives Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 You are right 9Lives!!! I have been so strong up until this point but I guess I kinda panicked about everything on Wednesday!!! I will resort straight back to no-contact and just continue taking care of myself as I have done up until this point!!! Thanks for your reply - sometimes you just need to hear it from someone else - battling it out with the voices in your head doesn't always get you very far!!! hey I understand. My man just broke up with me this friday and I cried alot about it. I wont be calling, texting, emailing or nothing. I rather stay at home and talk to my friends in my head(LS)...Everyone and everthing else frustrates me. This makes me feel stronger, better, and wiser. I am tired of his s/hit even though I love him. I dont care what he is doing, I am not trying to find out. I just want to be happy again and I dont want his drama. He is a ass/hole and I just have to quit being so stupid over him. It is not worth it
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