ohwhyme Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 i agree with BCAA. Nice guys are all gone because got hurt and now understand that being nice leads to being taken advantage. I was nice once...
watermeloncandy Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 i want nice and boring then. no more drama for me. my ex was my first and last true 'bad boy'. never again.
WiseOne1 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 i want nice and boring then. no more drama for me. my ex was my first and last true 'bad boy'. never again. Yea I would much rather have a nice and boring GF than a exciting one. Atlest I know I wouldnt have to hear "Im not in love with you anymore" or "I wanna see other people". But not all nice guys are boring, some of them are in the middle, I use to be drama and nice but I lost the mixture so now Im just a nice guy. And thats what alot of people like someone thats in between.
orangehose Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 It's also not unusual to date someone who is on their best "nice guy" behaviour for a couple months, then turn into a jerk when he has you. Many people will stay with this person because they are still holding on to the person we first met- the Nice Guy that treated us well and pursued us heavily... made us feel wanted. This is SO true. The Prince Charmings who turn back into frogs after a couple months. I remember being told by multiple people that my ex would have stayed nicer and wanted me longer had I continued to play 'hard to get'. But there's only so long you can do that in a serious relationship. Holding off on sex, playing 'unavailable', not answering calls may work in the first few months. But not in the long run. And secondly, you WANT to know how the guy treats you AFTER he's securely wooed and won you, and those initial giddy 'falling in love' feelings have faded. That's the true test of a guy's character. Honestly, OP, I think you may just have had a string of bad luck. Hang in there... Keep your expectations realistic (i.e. don't even begin to consider it a relationship until you hit the two month mark), and keep rolling the dice. Your day will come.
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