Star Gazer Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Keep in mind the Original Post... I'm not talking about head over heels or relationships. I'm talking about meeting someone in a random situation (party, club, mall, amusement park) and then you find out they live very far from you. My thought process is not "she's not worth the drive". My thought process is, "I want to be able to devote myself to a relationship with this person, not a commute". I won't live more than 10 miles away from work, and I HAVE to go there every day during rush hour. I guess I'm being more practical than anything. When I met my ex-wife she lived almost 1000 miles away (Miami). That didn't stop me from proposing a couple of weeks into our relationship... I'm talking about DATING... Do you see how hypocritical you're being? Secondly, you can't end up in a relationship without first DATING. If you're not willing to DATE someone who's 20 miles away, you're not willing to be a in a relationship with someone who's 20 miles away.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 Do you see how hypocritical you're being? Secondly, you can't end up in a relationship without first DATING. If you're not willing to DATE someone who's 20 miles away, you're not willing to be a in a relationship with someone who's 20 miles away. Point well taken.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Do you see how hypocritical you're being? Secondly, you can't end up in a relationship without first DATING. If you're not willing to DATE someone who's 20 miles away, you're not willing to be a in a relationship with someone who's 20 miles away. I was thinking the exact same thing. You say you don't "fall head over heels" for someone right away so the thought of them being far away makes you not want to consider dating them, but then you say you proposed to your ex-wife who lived really far away a few weeks later? You must have dated her at some point, right? I mean, how else would you get to the proposal part? Secondly, it sounds like you do fall head over heels for someone if you can propose to a person weeks into a relationship.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 I was thinking the exact same thing. You say you don't "fall head over heels" for someone right away so the thought of them being far away makes you not want to consider dating them, but then you say you proposed to your ex-wife who lived really far away a few weeks later? You must have dated her at some point, right? I mean, how else would you get to the proposal part? Secondly, it sounds like you do fall head over heels for someone if you can propose to a person weeks into a relationship. I think if I ever meet someone and feel what I felt with my ex the way I did when I met her, it won't matter whether she lives 2 miles away or 2000. I guess the two girls I met at the party Saturday were not it.
D-Lish Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 So I met a couple of girls tonight. Both very nice and cute, single and seemingly attracted to me. I was a little interested until I found out they both lived in the suburbs, WAY out in the suburbs, about 20-30 miles out from the city (They're in fairfax for those of you who are local to the DC area). This turned me off about them and didn't get either of their numbers. It reminds me of when I used to live out in Woodbridge/Dumfries (30+ miles outside DC) and how I felt that this had a negative effect in my dating but wasn't really sure until now. Any of you ever CHOSEN not to date a perfectly normal person because of their location? I'm talking about within the same metropolitan area, NOT something that would be considered a long distance relationship. Yep... I routinely turn down dates from guys that live in Toronto, because I am 30 minutes away. Too much hassle. Also- many guys from Toronto don't wish to date outside Toronto. My parents just moved to DC last year. Close to Georgetown (I believe).
LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I think if I ever meet someone and feel what I felt with my ex the way I did when I met her, it won't matter whether she lives 2 miles away or 2000. I guess the two girls I met at the party Saturday were not it. Yeah, someone posted that - said that you just weren't really THAT interested in getting to know them because if you did, it probably wouldn't have mattered how far away they lived! (And you responded by saying you don't fall head over heels for people right away). The way I see it, while you can't know a person right off the bat, and not know whether anything will come out of it, if I feel enough of an initial "connection" and am actually intrigued enough to find out more, I really don't care how far away they live! It's hard finding that type of connection. So you probably weren't intrigued enough to find out more about any of those two women so no big deal!
almost famous Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 i hope you're loaded if you want these ladies because Fairfax women are looking for only the loaded men, less than $500,000 a year need not apply.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 i hope you're loaded if you want these ladies because Fairfax women are looking for only the loaded men, less than $500,000 a year need not apply. I don't think we're talking about the same Fairfax.
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Yep... I routinely turn down dates from guys that live in Toronto, because I am 30 minutes away. Too much hassle. Also- many guys from Toronto don't wish to date outside Toronto. My parents just moved to DC last year. Close to Georgetown (I believe). Well we should do lunch the next time you come to visit them
Author rod_in_gtown Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Yeah, someone posted that - said that you just weren't really THAT interested in getting to know them because if you did, it probably wouldn't have mattered how far away they lived! (And you responded by saying you don't fall head over heels for people right away). The way I see it, while you can't know a person right off the bat, and not know whether anything will come out of it, if I feel enough of an initial "connection" and am actually intrigued enough to find out more, I really don't care how far away they live! It's hard finding that type of connection. So you probably weren't intrigued enough to find out more about any of those two women so no big deal! Very true, I guess I'm questioning myself for doing things that I hadn't done before.
almost famous Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Fairfax, VA? Oh yea. Tons of rich men in that area and tons of golddigging women.
Lucky_One Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Ah....almost rich as well as almost famous?
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