Ohio14inter Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Hey all, First issue.... My girlfriend and I are Juniors in college and have been together for 2.5 years, and for the longest time she hasn't been a big partier. I've never been into it too much either but i do do it sometimes with her. Last year we would get some food and watch movies or just chill on the weekends in addition to partying with her roommates, and now it's like she wants to party at her place non stop and I don't know how to feel about it. When I go over to her place on the weekends, shes jumping around partying, and I'm sitting hardly having fun. I really want to let loose but I don't know how... Second issue.... This kind of goes along with the first thing. She always wants to be at her place and not mine. I have a best friend back at mine that isn't into drinking too much. Therefore, it's hard to do both. We've been very happy together this year thus far, but this issue has finally presented itself and we don't know what to do about it.... I understand that she wants to be with her best friend (her roommate), but I just feel like I can't invite her over anymore because she doesn't really want to be there. Bottom Line:: I don't know how to adjust to her wanting to party a lot and her not wanting to come to my place. I like her roommates/friends. We hung out with them all of last year, but I like my best friend too back at my place. I also just feel like I'm having trouble opening up and having fun like she is. I really need some help because it's putting a serious strain on our relationship, and we're at a loss. Thank you
nab0610 Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 you've been dating 2.5 years man...just talk to her and figure something out like a compromise of sorts
AriaIncognito Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Does your definition of party mean doing drugs/alcohol, or do you just mean she wants to hang out with groups of people no one on one time with you?
Author Ohio14inter Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 Does your definition of party mean doing drugs/alcohol, or do you just mean she wants to hang out with groups of people no one on one time with you? She likes to hang out with a group that weve been hanging out with over the last year and drink. She says she wants me with her, she just likes to "let loose" and party, and she's never really been like that until now. I used to love to go drink with them and stuff, but now I'm not really into it as much and I really wish I was so we could go back to normal.
nab0610 Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 well i hate to put it this way man but your at a crossroad right now you can a. choose to continue partying with her and be unhappy (inevitably leading to the two of you breaking up or you spending your life whipped) b. stop going to the partys with her saying you don't want to be there and see what happens c. bring it up and talk to her and figure out where your both going with your life currently in my opinion you can't just sit there and fold because you like the girl...because no matter how much you like/love you have to be happy when your with them relationships are about sacrifices talk it through with her and figure it out
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