Adonis7 Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Let me first say that this post is being made while I just got home from the bars piss drunk, so I may regret what I have to say now but I think honesty this is how I really feel Well, for the past, I don't know 6 months or so, I have been actively trying to meet women. This includes both online dating and going out to social ventures in real life. I have, quite litterally, every single weekend for the past 6 months been hitting up bars and clubs with a huge amount of people and have been around a lot of girls. I am the life of the party type of guy and I am very popular in my circle and friends and people always want to be around me. I always get invited to parties and get togethers, and if I even try to stay home my phone is blowing up all night with people trying to get me to come out. So no, I am not shy and always have access to random women. Yet, I have been 100% single for a year and have had absolutely zero success with women. Yes, despite my success in social ventures, I have not had a single woman be interested (romantically/sexually) with me. Let me first state that I am in no way a loser. I live on my own in a very nice apartment, I made a lot of money, have a nice job, am educated, and am fit and good looking, have a great personality. For what it's worth, I have had lots of compliments by a lot of my friend's girlfriends/wifes saying that I am a very desirable man, and they themselves don't understand why women aren't all over me. I don't really get it either, which brings me to my next point. Up until this point, I never believed in silly things like destiny. I have always thought that each person made their own life and people are always in control of what happens in their lifes. Well, it could be just the alcohol talking right now or the fustration I have had over the past year (been single for a year but have been actively pursuing the past 6 months), but I truely think that at this point I am no longer in control of my love life. I really do think that the reason why no women have been interested in me is destiny. I am either meant to be alone for the rest of my life or I am meant to only be with a specific person that I haven't met yet. I really am done trying to pursue women and I am really not bothering anymore. I'm not going out to bars/clubs/parties anymore. I don't know how in the hell I am going to meet women without going to these types of social gathers but whatever I don't care anymore, I believe if its meant to happen, its going to happen. So just a warning to you guys in my type of situation. Please dont fall into the trap of endlessing trying to persue women. I think sometimes things are meant to happen a certain way and there is really nothing you can do to change it. I believe thats exactly what I am going through in my life right now.
GPFan Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 I agree with you. Once you relax, your life will begin to flow in this area. Concentrate on having fun and enjoying your life!
Walk Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 endlessing trying to persue women There's a theme in your post where you're attempting to convince yourself that you're not a loser. That you're a really great guy and that it can't possibly be anything you're doing that prevents you from finding a good woman. At the same time, you fill every hour with other people. You've spent the past 6 months seriously attempting to meet a new gf. You drink a lot (said you go to bars a great deal). You seem unhappy with yourself, and you seem to want to fill that void with someone else. As though you'll be complete if someone else loves you. You also stated that you've given up. You feel you have no control over this. I think you're desperation is coming across to women. I think it makes others shy away from you. In addition, I know from experience that finding love in a bar with a bunch of drunk people is really not a sucessful place to find it. If you want a ONS, then sure... go to the bar. But meeting someone you'll click with is hard to do in that type of environment. I think "giving up" is probably a smart thing for you to do. Only because I think you need to center more time around determining what you want out of life, and what will make you happy with you. Once you're happy with who you are and the life you have, then women will flock to you in droves. Always happens like that. Real confidence is sexy. You seem very popular, but not very confident in yourself... nor very happy in your own skin. Just my opinion.
Legend Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Very well constructed sentences / almost no spelling mistakes / good grammar.... you sure you were 'piss drunk' ?
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