BaD_Day Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 I asked her to go eat (2nd time). and this is how she responded. I asked: "I want to go get something good to eat before school start next week, would you like to go with me?" the respond was: "Let me know when you are going and Ill let you know if I can come. I think next week i'll be a little busy , but let me know! as always i'm always up for food! next time we go, we should grab some more people to go with us to try new food, it'll be fun" I think I'm asking the wrong way haha. But if she knows I like her, than the respond would be a NO? It's like 1AM and I can't think straight. I never told her I like her, but I've been flirting... not sure if I should just come straight out and ask her how she feels about the whole thing.
paddington bear Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Sounds to me like she wants to un-date it, by bringing friends along...
Author BaD_Day Posted September 20, 2008 Author Posted September 20, 2008 Sounds to me like she wants to un-date it, by bringing friends along... that's what I'm thinking too, I should just tell her that if she's busy maybe some other time (never) haha. She's asked me to go volunteer with her in a hospital (which I said no because I'm not doing medical stuff). Volunteering to tell me that she lost her necklace (which was a gift from her ex BF), she doesn't know that I know it's a gift from her ex BF, I just happen to know. When I see a picture of her and her ex BF she told me it was old stuff and she meant to delete it.... I've never been lead on so much in my life.
paddington bear Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Hmmm I don't think she's really leading you on that much - her telling you she lost a necklace is not leading you on, she's just talking about normal stuff to you. If you like her, I would still keep flirting with her, but with no expectations about what will happen - maybe she just needs some more time to get to know you. And keep your eyes open for other girls who would jump at the chance to go get some food with you or whatever.
torranceshipman Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 To be fair, from reading the stuff you've written, it sounded like she was just being friendly. It didnt sound like she was leading you on at all...then when she realised you were after a date, she tried to steer the whole thing back in a friendly direction with the suggestion of bringing other people along.
Author BaD_Day Posted September 20, 2008 Author Posted September 20, 2008 Hmmm I don't think she's really leading you on that much - her telling you she lost a necklace is not leading you on, she's just talking about normal stuff to you. If you like her, I would still keep flirting with her, but with no expectations about what will happen - maybe she just needs some more time to get to know you. And keep your eyes open for other girls who would jump at the chance to go get some food with you or whatever. the necklace thing I could understand, but the other stuff was kindda wierd... I don't know, most likely I would just let this go. maybe crack a joke or 2 about the "bringing other people part".
Author BaD_Day Posted September 20, 2008 Author Posted September 20, 2008 To be fair, from reading the stuff you've written, it sounded like she was just being friendly. It didnt sound like she was leading you on at all...then when she realised you were after a date, she tried to steer the whole thing back in a friendly direction with the suggestion of bringing other people along. that could be it, i just find it strange for a girl to ask a guy to go volunteer with her (1st time I said I'll think about it = no, second time I just said no haha). And the picture thing boggles me too, we're not that close of a friend for her to tell me what she wants to do with the picture (I don't know her THAT well).
Author BaD_Day Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 tiny update: I told her "if you're busy maybe some other time, and next time definitely get other people to go with us" = "I know, it's cool" She replied back "still, let me know, can't go eat without me".... Uggg, is she serious? I don't even know what to say after that.
westrock Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Uggg, is she serious? I don't even know what to say after that. You have to be more specific when you ask her out. You are being too general in asking her out. Pick a specific date, time, restaurant. If she says she is busy, then propose an alternate date or ask her when is a good day for her. Something like this: Hey, a few of the guys and I are going to try out that new restaurant at Main St. and Jones Ave. this Thursday at 7pm. You interested in joining me? I can pick you up at 6:30.
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