Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 What is the correct response to someone's statement regarding their income? I feel uncomfortable, so I'm just like "oh". What do they want you to say? Wow, that's a lot of money? Gee, I thought you made more?
Author LoveLace Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 That is a good wage... he is working two jobs.. maybe he was bragging more about the fact he works two jobs then the money he makes.. Some guys are just hung up on stuff like that.. do you think he is a braggert ? ( to borrow Johans term ) Also in my last post...I"ve never thought of him as a "braggert" before, but definitely as a confident guy. The impressive part, to me, was the fact that both jobs are things he's very, very good at and that he loves very much. It's just not the same thing as "working 2 jobs to make ends meet"- you know, like 1 job at the office and a 2nd job waiting tables. That combined with the monetary result, kind of fascinates me...what he does for a living, fascinates me...
Balthazar Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Not to rub it in folks, but I'm really glad I'm paid in Euros.... On the other hand, everything costs twice as much in Europe! Drats!!
johan Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 In my last post...$90k/year, supposedly... Well, that's respectable. I'd be more impressed if he made that much from a single employer.
Author LoveLace Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 Well, that's respectable. I'd be more impressed if he made that much from a single employer. I was actually more impressed by the fact that he's such a hard working guy. None of it is hard labor or anything, but I'm impressed by the whole ambition thing and dedicating self to what you love.
tallyho Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Just curious..cuz a guy I'm interested in, told me how much he makes per year, without me even asking...and it was certainly a nice figure... its just that most people tend to keep this info to themselves, unless it's asked of them, or comes up in conversation..but it was as though he just kind of slipped it in there... If you just come out and say, "I make ____ a year..."....what's the point? To impress, or perhaps to see if someone is only after you for dough?Of course they do.
rod_in_gtown Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Well, that's respectable. I'd be more impressed if he made that much from a single employer. It also depends on where he makes it. 90K is VERY different in NYC from Des Moines
Author LoveLace Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 It also depends on where he makes it. 90K is VERY different in NYC from Des Moines Very true and where I am, this is definitely an impressive amount of $, especially to make all by yourself vs. a 2-income household. Funny thing is, he only logs on to MS while he's at work. So I figured this must be the only time he has access to internet. At 1st I wondered how you couldn't afford internet with that much $, but again he doesn't come across as a materialistic type, at all...I can't say I've ever seen him use a cell phone! Not even sure if he has one! Hmm..perhaps he's one of those people who just doesn't see the need for either things in his life..
norajane Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Until my wife and I filed our taxes for the first time this last year she didn't know how much my income was.. I think she had an idea but I never told her.. She still doesn't know how much my paycheck each month is.. Being married I really would like to tell her though..I don't make that much..I just don't talk about the actual dollars that much..so I just keep it quiet.. Honestly.. I don't know if that is good or bad.. just a fact of my life... Wow, Art, I wouldn't have expected that. You're so practical on so many levels - I can't imagine that you wouldn't have sat down with your wife first thing and both of you shared each and every financial detail of your lives straight away. You're a team now, partners. You both need to share that kind of information fully and discuss your financial situation frequently. You shouldn't keep each other in the dark about your financial affairs.
Art_Critic Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Wow, Art, I wouldn't have expected that. You're so practical on so many levels - I can't imagine that you wouldn't have sat down with your wife first thing and both of you shared each and every financial detail of your lives straight away. You're a team now, partners. You both need to share that kind of information fully and discuss your financial situation frequently. You shouldn't keep each other in the dark about your financial affairs. NJ.. it is a little embarrassing.. but it isn't really about keeping each other in the dark... all of the statements are open and in 3 ring binders laying on my desk.. ( practical ) There isn't anything hidden.. When we first got married I did have her meet my financial consultant and show her the snapshot of how it sits but those types of things sometime go in one ear and out the other.. I think she is a bit like " you take care of it " even though I would not like it to be like that... Something that we need to work on I guess.. and something that I'm trying to work on.. it is hard sometimes with my new baby and all... Thanks for posting that NJ...
ed-205 Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 Very true and where I am, this is definitely an impressive amount of $, especially to make all by yourself vs. a 2-income household. Funny thing is, he only logs on to MS while he's at work. So I figured this must be the only time he has access to internet. At 1st I wondered how you couldn't afford internet with that much $, but again he doesn't come across as a materialistic type, at all...I can't say I've ever seen him use a cell phone! Not even sure if he has one! Hmm..perhaps he's one of those people who just doesn't see the need for either things in his life.. Not to sound paranoid, but this one has my Spidey Sense tingling! He probably *does* have internet at home, and certainly a phone of some kind. The first question that pops into my mind after reading your post is, does he also have a S.O. who can access the home computer logs and phone bills? Not that you have anything to worry about, but I used both these tricks to find out who my Ex was running around with, and a smart person will be careful NOT to leave a trail...
Jersey Shortie Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I dont trust guys that give their income details away like that.
Author LoveLace Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 Not to sound paranoid, but this one has my Spidey Sense tingling! He probably *does* have internet at home, and certainly a phone of some kind. The first question that pops into my mind after reading your post is, does he also have a S.O. who can access the home computer logs and phone bills? Not that you have anything to worry about, but I used both these tricks to find out who my Ex was running around with, and a smart person will be careful NOT to leave a trail... Nah, he made it clear he's single when we 1st ran into each other several weeks ago. And I've known him long enough to say he wouldn't lie about that. I'm sure he probably has a home phone, and he COULD have a cell phone, I just can honestly say in all the years I've known the guy, I've never once seen him calling, answering, or texting. Maybe he always leaves it in the car to avoid interruption, some people are not attached to their cell phones (like I am) and only own them because it IS practical, but just another thing to bug them. And he's somewhat "high profile" in this city so maybe he only uses a cell for VERY important people/reasons. The the only time I see him log on to MS, it says "at work" every time, though he'll change the mood status on there. He doesn't log in everyday, and he doesn't work there 5 days/week, that's how I drew a conclusion that maybe there's no internet acces at home. I did that for a while, I figured, all I do is check my email (and go to LS) so I"d go months without internet at home to save money; I was content like that for a while. And maybe its not even money, he could be one of those who just doesn't see cell phones or computers as "necessity" in his life. We just email here and there, I can't say there's much "interest" going on between us now otherwise. But if I see him again, I should slip my pathetic income in there somewhere, and see how HE reacts ha ha ha...
Art_Critic Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Ya gotta give a guy a break.. sometimes they do it because of the reaction it gets from women
Isolde Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I am like the most easygoing person in the world... THAT would be a deal breaker for me. I know in some parts of the world it's not bad to talk about $$$, but this is just tacky.
Lizzie60 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 Just curious..cuz a guy I'm interested in, told me how much he makes per year, without me even asking...and it was certainly a nice figure... its just that most people tend to keep this info to themselves, unless it's asked of them, or comes up in conversation..but it was as though he just kind of slipped it in there... If you just come out and say, "I make ____ a year..."....what's the point? To impress, or perhaps to see if someone is only after you for dough? That would be the end of the date.. I can't stand people like that.. huge turn-off.. no class.. a bit 'trailer park' style..
Prodigal Princess Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 That would be the end of the date.. I can't stand people like that.. huge turn-off.. no class.. a bit 'trailer park' style.. I agree. This reminds me of the time I was chatting to this guy at a bar. We were talking and flirting for about 2 hours, all going well... Then he asked me what I did for a living. I said, "I'm a lawyer, what do you do?" He balked and said, "I'm a builder - but I bet I earn heaps more money than you." I just got up and walked away. I'm sure in his mind it was because he said he was a builder.
Author LoveLace Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 Ya gotta give a guy a break.. sometimes they do it because of the reaction it gets from women What reaction? Gold digging?
Flowerpower7 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 I've had a few guys do that to me too. One guy went so far to tell me about all his materialistic possessions he has too. Then I stopped him and told him how difficult it is for me to get by in a very expensive city being a girl in a male dominated indusrty. Where I live the rental market is 0.1 vacancy and rents 3x higher than they should be, for lack of housing. I explained to him that it was very rude of him to brag in front of someone who is struggling to pay rent. And gave him examples of things that he'd never have to live with. Some guys are just oblivious.
Author LoveLace Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 I agree. This reminds me of the time I was chatting to this guy at a bar. We were talking and flirting for about 2 hours, all going well... Then he asked me what I did for a living. I said, "I'm a lawyer, what do you do?" He balked and said, "I'm a builder - but I bet I earn heaps more money than you." I just got up and walked away. I'm sure in his mind it was because he said he was a builder. Well that's out right insulting! It's one thing to mention your income, but to actually compare it to the person's you are with, that's getting out of hand... I think some men have been intimidated by the fact that I'm a nursing student. It's a big part of my life, so I talk about it a lot, but it doesn't mean I think I'm smarter or anything. Guess I could come off as a braggert without knowing it, but I certainly don't do anything that says "I'm better than most people because I'm a nurse" I can't say I've heard this guy brag about any possessions before. Again, never even seen him with a cell phone. That's why it surprises me if he feels the need to throw his income out there. In fact, I would expect him to keep it on the down-low, I think of him as the type to get paranoid that people like him for money. Guess I was wrong! Unless it was some kind of test...even more annoying.
Shygirl15 Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 It's a sign of insecurity, if anything.
Author LoveLace Posted September 23, 2008 Author Posted September 23, 2008 It's a sign of insecurity, if anything. I know - if anything I've always thought of this person as extremely secure
awesomeness43 Posted September 24, 2008 Posted September 24, 2008 I think that guys that reveal their income out of the blue are always lying unless its with just friends. On dates, it shouldn't be told because that can cause a situation where you seem stupid/liar or she can be falsely led on and become a gold digger. I personally don't really reveal info like that on dates. They either know or don't. They usually get the idea when they see my car or when they see that you keep wads of benjamins. Usually people can just tell when someone has money. Usually by the things they say or their attitude and how they feel they are entitled to the world. screw it, im a douche =(
Author LoveLace Posted September 25, 2008 Author Posted September 25, 2008 I think that guys that reveal their income out of the blue are always lying unless its with just friends. On dates, it shouldn't be told because that can cause a situation where you seem stupid/liar or she can be falsely led on and become a gold digger. I personally don't really reveal info like that on dates. They either know or don't. They usually get the idea when they see my car or when they see that you keep wads of benjamins. Usually people can just tell when someone has money. Usually by the things they say or their attitude and how they feel they are entitled to the world. screw it, im a douche =( All agreed however it wasn't a date, just a conversation between friends, so I doubt he had any intentions behind it, I'd just still think a good-looking guy who makes good money would be careful who he said it around...
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