LoveLace Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Just curious..cuz a guy I'm interested in, told me how much he makes per year, without me even asking...and it was certainly a nice figure... its just that most people tend to keep this info to themselves, unless it's asked of them, or comes up in conversation..but it was as though he just kind of slipped it in there... If you just come out and say, "I make ____ a year..."....what's the point? To impress, or perhaps to see if someone is only after you for dough?
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Not classy. I was taught never to talk about how much money I make.
D-Lish Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 To impress....to brag... Was this a first date?
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Yes, they are trying to impress you. I am not impressed when someone reveals to me how much money they make. In fact, I am turned off.
Tony T Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 If you just come out and say, "I make ____ a year..."....what's the point? To impress, or perhaps to see if someone is only after you for dough? It's very low class and the sign of a person who doesn't have much money, much self esteem, much maturity, much common sense...or little of any of those. It's a pitiful site for me just to imagine the two of you together and him giving you this information. Also, if he felt a need to tell you how much money he made a year, I seriously doubt the information he gave you was correct. Tell him you have to see his tax returns for verification...hahaha!!!
torranceshipman Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Be careful he's not trying to pull out the big guns early in the hope of getting you into bed...he sounds like a very unclassy guy!
ed-205 Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Yes, guys do that to impress girls, because as brash and tactless as it is, it *works*. It works just as well in reverse, too! I used to get phone calls from telemarketers for local Dating Services at least once a week. Trying to tell them I wasn't interested only motivated them to keep calling and sell harder. I finally started answering their first question with "I make $15,000 a year." Most of them would flat-out hang up on me, and the calls stopped altogether within a month!
Author LoveLace Posted September 20, 2008 Author Posted September 20, 2008 Yes, guys do that to impress girls, because as brash and tactless as it is, it *works*. It works just as well in reverse, too! I used to get phone calls from telemarketers for local Dating Services at least once a week. Trying to tell them I wasn't interested only motivated them to keep calling and sell harder. I finally started answering their first question with "I make $15,000 a year." Most of them would flat-out hang up on me, and the calls stopped altogether within a month! Holy cow! That amazes me... No it wasn't date D-lish, just a guy I know that I saw out. We WERE on the subject of our jobs and how he has 2 of them, and how he rarely gets time off blah blah blah but I think his point might have been that the figures are well worth the hard work...but oh yes the number was big enough to make my eyeballs pop out. Not like Dr's salary or anything, but a lot more than I expected for what he does...I've known the guy for a long time on an acquaintence level, but still, I found that to be quite a personal thing to say...torrance he's never tried anything with me so I don't think thats the case but who knows. I only see him out sometimes, so it doesn't matter that much. I just wondered because, well, it's not everyday somebody reveals that kind of info...maybe he just felt that he actually knew me well enough to feel comfortable with it..whatever!
Gold Pile Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 A school of thought says that women are attracted to a good provider. If a guy thinks it will help...he will invent a nice income to talk about. I've been known to say things ( " My stupid broker in Europe executes my trades too slowly...costing me thousands") that give an impression of wealth.
westernxer Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 I tell women how much I make just to disappoint them. LOL
2sunny Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 I tell women how much I make just to disappoint them. LOL :lmao: to tell income level is totally inappropriate. off topic just for a moment... Hey Westy! long time no see! woo hoo
Author LoveLace Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 A school of thought says that women are attracted to a good provider. If a guy thinks it will help...he will invent a nice income to talk about. I've been known to say things ( " My stupid broker in Europe executes my trades too slowly...costing me thousands") that give an impression of wealth. that's hilarious...
Balthazar Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Actually, it is a bit vulgar to talk about how much you make. The discerning, interested woman will ask many relevant questions concerning financial status over the course of a few dates. Plus, money is like a cough; it can't be easily hidden. So there is really no reason for a guy to say how much he makes.
SarahRose Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Yeah brag about their income or the things they have. or they like to spoil the girl with monetary things. It kinda takes the wind out of their sails when they realize you make more than they do
Balthazar Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 It kinda takes the wind out of their sails when they realize you make more than they do I , for one, would be glad to find a wealthy woman who can provide me with the comfortable lifestyle I am accustomed to and so richly deserve. Better start asking chicks how much they make!
rod_in_gtown Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 I have no problem talking about my income... I was raised to think that people who were secretive about their income are generally ashamed or have something to hide. I'm transparent. My income is actually a matter of public record so anyone who knows my name, can look me up and find out exactly how much I make. It doesn't bother me at all.
Ocean-Blue Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 I find it very unattractive when someone mentions their income. Unless it's relevant to the conversation and provides some kind of context, it's inappropriate. What's worse is a guy who asks how much a woman makes. I set my friend up with this guy I know and he ended up quizzing her on this stuff and it totally left her unimpressed. I've since realized he has a lot of self-esteem issues (based on other things he's said).
the_blur Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 Not discussing incom levels is an antiquated notion. If I'm a programmer (I am) and I'm making 40,000 a year (I am, at great job with great perks, but it is only 40,000 a year ... which sucks, I took a pretty significant pay cut (13k/year) to "buy" something I loved to do...). If another programmer is making 60,000 a year doing the same thing with similar benefits I'd like to know, if my date is a museum tour guide making 55k a year, just as a conversation detail, it would be nice to know. Not disclosing how much you make only makes it easier for employers to short-change you, which is ****ty. In the age where we have to change careers at least once in our lives and perhaps reinvent ourselves as corporate entities 4-5 times in a lifetime your income is simply a number. I woudn't volunteer the information out of the blue, but wouldn't withhold it in conversation either.
Author LoveLace Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 Yes I wouldn't say it really "out of the blue", like I said I think he was trying to make a point about his 2 jobs, because with one of them, there is no such thing as benefits or vacation time, yet it draws in very good money; he got the 2nd job for the benefits, etc, and he makes commision there. Job 1 is his life and something he loves and he will always be doing it. Anyhow, after all that, came this, "...but I make $90k/year between both jobs"....I think I changed the subject, because I just wasn't sure how to respond... As for bragging, he's been an acquaintence of mine for a long time like I said...and can't say I've ever heard him brag about his house (though I know he has one) or anything materialistic. However, he will brag about some of his talents from time to time, and rightfully so honestly. It's never been done enough for me to even think of him as "cocky". But I also don't know him extremely well, so maybe I've just been missing the stuck-up thing all this time, I don't really know. He is definitely the type to enjoy a good intelligent conversation though. I'd consider him fairly open-minded, so perhaps thats why sharing income with a friend doesn't seem like a big deal! Idk! But no matter what - if you make a figure like that one, wouldn't you try to be at least cautious (if not silent) about how you threw it around?! Especially around women?
Art_Critic Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 A school of thought says that women are attracted to a good provider. If a guy thinks it will help...he will invent a nice income to talk about. I've been known to say things ( " My stupid broker in Europe executes my trades too slowly...costing me thousands") that give an impression of wealth. I'm with GP.. Yes a guy mentions his income to impress.. Until my wife and I filed our taxes for the first time this last year she didn't know how much my income was.. I think she had an idea but I never told her.. She still doesn't know how much my paycheck each month is.. Being married I really would like to tell her though..I don't make that much..I just don't talk about the actual dollars that much..so I just keep it quiet.. Honestly.. I don't know if that is good or bad.. just a fact of my life... I tell women how much I make just to disappoint them. LOL hahahaha.. Hi Westernxer
Author LoveLace Posted September 21, 2008 Author Posted September 21, 2008 I'm still curious what the guy makes. In my last post...$90k/year, supposedly...
Art_Critic Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 I'm still curious what the guy makes. She did say he made ____, Can you not read ?
Art_Critic Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 In my last post...$90k/year, supposedly... That is a good wage... he is working two jobs.. maybe he was bragging more about the fact he works two jobs then the money he makes.. Some guys are just hung up on stuff like that.. do you think he is a braggert ? ( to borrow Johans term )
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