amandaparker503 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Hi. My posts here are quite frequent lately. I dont really want to go back over it all, but want i was after was any advice or pointing in the direction of how to deal with relationships that are very passionate, but very damaging. From talking to people , one thing keeps croping up and that is that my relationship was very damaging to both of us, we both fell in love from the start , told each other our wildest dreams, what we wanted out of life and we text each other a 100 times a day about how much we love each other and want each other. We both wanted so much for things to be perfect, as we had crap in the past....hope you are getting the picture...BUT..We argued like mad. We would argue and split up, have amazing makes up's promise never to hurt each other and bish bosh..we did it agian!..this went on for two years. Amazing. So now i am begining to see , whislt i love this man so much, i think it is possibly the most unhealthy relationship ever. We are both mental and emotionally drained and that is not good. Is there any advice on this site how to cope with this situation. He broke off with me, and you know what i did the begging crap and text and emails, i havent for nearly 2 weeks now, but i still cry over him , and to be honest i still feel i miss him and i still want him. But i know this would never work , yet it does not change how i feel at the moment, maybe it is early days, maybe i need to learn about obbessive realtionships. Any one been in the same sort of situation In a way i take my hat off to him, he said enough this is not right, and since then he doesnt contact me , i see him at the gym and kickboxing , and he says hello, or blanks me, depends on what he feels like. I am guessing that is his way of dealing with this , i dont known. We saw each other today , and he said hi to my son, chatted to him, and that really please me as my son has been a bit upset that he has gone from our lives, but i almost didnt feel anything for him, but later today i do. Again i dont know, i just want the pain to go away, i cry so much and i would love to know that he is sad to , but i think he is actually happy now, i think he may still fancy me and want me , maybe , maybe not, but we both know that it is over. Hard hard hard!
megapositive Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 How long have you been broken up? Sometimes the most passionate relationships are rather unhealthy, so maybe yours was. Good for you for going NC, that takes strength and it is terribly difficult. Advice? I wish I had something great to say, then I'd be helping myself too by taking it. But continuing NC seems appropriate for you, since you are so emotional right now.
amandaparker503 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 We broke up 4 weeks ago. Early days i guess. The NC works ok via text and email, but i can not control seeing him around. For example i saw him today in the shop, and i walked out the gym and he was downstairs in the weights room, we kinda both looked at each other in the fancy way! , but also shock to see each other. No words passed our lips. You can not miss a person when you see them all the time, we juts keep crossing paths. Small country town for ya! . I know it is over , i am just trying to be reason, understand and heal. thanks x
nickelinadime Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 That was like reading one of my own posts... My advice? Well, I'm a guy, but what helped me was just accepting that it was over and forcing myself to get excited about meeting new girls. In fact, my friend hooked me up with one I'm interested in now! I still have strong feeligns for my ex, even though she's kept the door open for the future, it's over. That's the best way to think. Get excited about new people!
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