ohhmyandrea Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Last night I was talking to my boyfriend, telling him that unfortunately I didnt think I'd be able to fly out next weekend to see him. He is supposed to get a school break around the end of October so I thought that maybe we would just wait until then to see eachother. Well, he called me later on telling me that for his birthday his parents had sent him two plane tickets. He volunteered to give me one of the tickets, saying that he really wants me to fly out as his birthday present. Im very hesitant to accept the ticket. His parents are wholly against me distracting him from school and I know that if they found out that the ticket was given to me that they would flip. I do want to see him, really really bad but do any of you think that I should accept such a kind gift? and should we worry a whole alot about the parents? Any feedback would be nice. Thanks in advance.
Krajt Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Accept it? Who cares what his parents think? You shouldn't let anyone else control and dictate your relationship. If you want to see him, then accept the invitation.
Ronni_W Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 I agree with the others -- the tickets were gifted to him, so he now has full control of what he does with one or both of them. If he wants to "re-gift", as it were, that's up to him. Yes, his parents may get all freaked out, but that would be due to their own wrong thinking and wanting to keep control over something that they already gave away. Enjoy the birthday celebrations!
TMichaels Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 He is supposed to get a school break around the end of October so I thought that maybe we would just wait until then to see each other. Well, he called me later on telling me that for his birthday his parents had sent him two plane tickets. He volunteered to give me one of the tickets, saying that he really wants me to fly out as his birthday present. Im very hesitant to accept the ticket. His parents are wholly against me distracting him from school and I know that if they found out that the ticket was given to me that they would flip. I do want to see him, really really bad but do any of you think that I should accept such a kind gift? and should we worry a whole alot about the parents? ohhmyandrea, I guess I'd be curious about why his parents sent him two plane tickets for his birthday? What did they intend him to do with the tickets? If the tickets were given to him so that he would be able to fly home from school, perhaps for something like Thanksgiving or Christmas to be with the family, then I would imagine his parents *will* be very upset that he used them for another purpose -- and you're right, they will be angry with both of you. If the tickets were given without restriction, then he should be able to use them as he sees fit. It sounds like he needs to stand up a bit more to his parents and let them know his studies *and you* are both important to his life. I know that may be difficult, especially if they are paying his way through school, but paying attention to his studies *and you* doesn't mean one or other will suffer, but one or the other *will suffer* if he's not allowed to mind both. Having said all that, I do have another suggestion for you that would make it possible for you both to "afford" the plane fare to see one another, eliminating the whole issue of using parental gifts. Google Microsoft Live Search Club and you'll see that it is possible to earn points that can be converted into frequent flyer miles (aka free plane tickets on several airlines). It does take some time, but it's also possible that both of you could participate and have your points deposited in one FF account which would help you earn points twice as quickly. Just be sure to do your homework -- pick an airline that serves your two areas and requires the lowest number of miles for the kind of ticket you'd need. Then, sign up for a free FF account with that carrier, sign up for Microsoft Live Search Club, and get busy! But, for heaven's sake, be careful the two of you don't spend too much time amassing points instead of studying! No sense giving his parents a reason to worry, or use your presence in his life as an excuse. Hope this helps... Best, TMichaels
Author ohhmyandrea Posted September 20, 2008 Author Posted September 20, 2008 I know you guys are right. I've been saying for a while that they shouldn't dictate us and that I know I'm not a distraction. Somehow I guess I fell in line with the "fear the parents" thing. I certainly don't want him to lose any of the benefits he's enjoying now. Having said all that, I do have another suggestion for you that would make it possible for you both to "afford" the plane fare to see one another, eliminating the whole issue of using parental gifts. Google Microsoft Live Search Club and you'll see that it is possible to earn points that can be converted into frequent flyer miles (aka free plane tickets on several airlines). It does take some time, but it's also possible that both of you could participate and have your points deposited in one FF account which would help you earn points twice as quickly. Just be sure to do your homework -- pick an airline that serves your two areas and requires the lowest number of miles for the kind of ticket you'd need. Then, sign up for a free FF account with that carrier, sign up for Microsoft Live Search Club, and get busy! But, for heaven's sake, be careful the two of you don't spend too much time amassing points instead of studying! No sense giving his parents a reason to worry, or use your presence in his life as an excuse. Hope this helps... Best, TMichaels Thank you for this suggestion. Its something I'll look into. Thanks for the help!
Krajt Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 If anything you being with him should equate to being the most worthy of benefits.
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