xpaperxcutx Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Anyone ever feel that (almost) every date is going to end up a ONS? Ever had that foreboding feeling?
paddington bear Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Nope. Wear your oldest underwear, grey, full of holes, stained, don't shave your legs and under your arms and it is a great incentive for things not to go down that route... Mind you, sometimes things have led to ONS and then the guy realises he's ended up with a horrible hairy woman in granny knickers and said hairy woman is mortified.
nowhereman82 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 *shrug* what's it matter? You either sleep with them on the first night because you just want to be freaky....or your hold out because your want to date them. Personally I went into a mutual ONS the other night and now I am completely sprung on them. Which I find odd because I've never had that happen before. But you never know, your ONS might turn into something else? My ONS has contacted me for 2nds (I can't wait) so never know what might come of things!
djhall Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Anyone ever feel that (almost) every date is going to end up a ONS? Ever had that foreboding feeling? No... so please, tell me your secret!
Star Gazer Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 I have, but only when he's freakishly hot and sexy. I'm rarely THAT tempted. Best-date-ever was like that though. So tempting! Luckily, I was a good girl and it ended only with some makin' out. Things got heavy on the 2nd date, and I'm worried that I'll let it happen on the 3rd. I can't decide if that would be a bad thing or not. He's so hot I'd eff his brains out just for the hell of it, but at the same time I'm worried that I'll catch feelings and I do *like* him in "that way." I know I'd want more, but at the same time I can't tell if he's relationship-material yet. Best way to avoid it is to make sure you're (1) on your period during the first date, and (2) haven't shaved your legs or groomed your hooha as you normally do. It's the only thing that guarantees me a night in my own bed ALONE.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Best way to avoid it is to make sure you're (1) on your period during the first date, and (2) haven't shaved your legs or groomed your hooha as you normally do. It's the only thing that guarantees me a night in my own bed ALONE. Yup, that's the classic dilemma. If he's f'in hot and that's it, probably happens, but if there's an inkling that you can like him in "that" way, but have no idea where the "relationship" is going, then it's soooo hard!!!! I usually wear ugly underwear, not shave my legs (but since I have almost no body hair, that doesn't help since it's not noticeable anyway), and the period timing thing is a bit hard to do! lol
Star Gazer Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 If he's f'in hot and that's it, probably happens, but if there's an inkling that you can like him in "that" way, but have no idea where the "relationship" is going, then it's soooo hard!!!! Exactly! That's the classic dilemma!!!
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 No, most dates don't end up in ONSs or even feel that way. If you're capable of compartmentalizing, go for it. If not, steer clear.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 I have, but only when he's freakishly hot and sexy. I'm rarely THAT tempted. Best-date-ever was like that though. So tempting! Luckily, I was a good girl and it ended only with some makin' out. Things got heavy on the 2nd date, and I'm worried that I'll let it happen on the 3rd. I can't decide if that would be a bad thing or not. He's so hot I'd eff his brains out just for the hell of it, but at the same time I'm worried that I'll catch feelings and I do *like* him in "that way." I know I'd want more, but at the same time I can't tell if he's relationship-material yet. Best way to avoid it is to make sure you're (1) on your period during the first date, and (2) haven't shaved your legs or groomed your hooha as you normally do. It's the only thing that guarantees me a night in my own bed ALONE. So that's what i have to do? Darn those Victoria Secret underwears then.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 No, most dates don't end up in ONSs or even feel that way. If you're capable of compartmentalizing, go for it. If not, steer clear. Not most, but some do...then you sorta think, "Hmmm...he's hot, no future for anything, don't wanna leave empty handed..." lol And then it depends on the dating demographics and where you meet the guys, lots of factors, but dates can end feeling like, "I wanna escape now", a ONS, potential for another date or two, or you're already thinking, "OMG, this is probably too good to be true!" Just depends, plus everyone is different!
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Not most, but some do...then you sorta think, "Hmmm...he's hot, no future for anything, don't wanna leave empty handed..." lol And then it depends on the dating demographics and where you meet the guys, lots of factors, but dates can end feeling like, "I wanna escape now", a ONS, potential for another date or two, or you're already thinking, "OMG, this is probably too good to be true!" Just depends, plus everyone is different! Yes, everyone is different. I should have said in my first sentence that it doesn't feel that way for me, as opposed to feeling that way for everyone else. I've still never had a ONS.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 Yes, everyone is different. I should have said in my first sentence that it doesn't feel that way for me, as opposed to feeling that way for everyone else. I've still never had a ONS. But TBF, haven't you ever felt like a date was never going to be anything more than a ONS? You never ever got that feeling, like a real relationship wasn't ever going to materialize except drunken hot sex?
Star Gazer Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Xpaper, TBF has only slept with two people, if I'm not mistaken. She's not one to be ruled by her loins, like you and I.
LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 You never ever got that feeling, like a real relationship wasn't ever going to materialize except drunken hot sex? At the same time, feels like ONS ALL THE TIME? Boy, are you just not meeting guys with even ANY potential for a second or third date? lol Not saying having sex on first date is necessarily wrong, but ONS implies never even wanting to see them again!
Trialbyfire Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 xpaper, it's possible to still have a relationship without needing it to go anywhere. As for a one nighter of hot, drunken sex, no, still haven't done it.
jadedone Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Nothing wrong with meaningful one night relationships.
jerbear Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Anyone ever feel that (almost) every date is going to end up a ONS? Ever had that foreboding feeling? Nope on the first few. After that, sex, sex, and more sex. I did have some ONS and I did it on purpose. It might come back to haunt me later in life but who knows.
Lishy Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 I have never had a ONS - The closest I got to it was my fk bud, but he lasted a year so I guess that wasnt a ONS I just cant give up the honey that easy, I respect my lady garden too much hahahah Seriously though if you feel that way then just dont have sex with these guys. If (like me) you get feelings when sex become involved then then steer well clear or you will just mess with your head.
Star Gazer Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 I have never had a ONS - The closest I got to it was my fk bud, but he lasted a year so I guess that wasnt a ONS I just cant give up the honey that easy, I respect my lady garden too much hahahah Seriously though if you feel that way then just dont have sex with these guys. If (like me) you get feelings when sex become involved then then steer well clear or you will just mess with your head. You had sex with your ex-H on the 3rd date, and your last ex on the 2nd. Each easily could have wound up as a ONS in each instance.
Lishy Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 You had sex with your ex-H on the 3rd date, and your last ex on the 2nd. Each easily could have wound up as a ONS in each instance. I had sex with my ex H on the FIRST date! And you are right, they could have ended up as ONS's, but they didn't. I knew when I met them it would be more, just a gut feeling. I have had the opportunity to have ONS's (knowing it would be just sex) many many many times and have never done it. My sister is the same, it must have been how we were brought up.
carhill Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 xpaper, it's possible to still have a relationship without needing it to go anywhere. As for a one nighter of hot, drunken sex, no, still haven't done it. Concur. ONS don't interest me, at least in reality. I can't even fathom sharing myself sexually with someone I don't even know, but good on those who can. It must be a very unfettered feeling
Lishy Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 I have always sort of envied my friends who can go out, meet a hottie and know he is not relationship material yet take him home and have hot horny sex and then say cya and not think about it again other than in a nice way! I know I could not do that! Sometimes I really wish I could, even once!
Trialbyfire Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Concur. ONS don't interest me, at least in reality. I can't even fathom sharing myself sexually with someone I don't even know, but good on those who can. It must be a very unfettered feeling That's pretty much it. If people can separate the physical from attachment, more power to them. I can't, no matter how hard I try.
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