amythan Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Hi ! I do not want to screw this one - i really like the guy ! He have to interact due to work reasons, we do not work for the same company and we live in different countries. I knew him one year ago and i always feel we like each other. I cannot explain why but he is always happy to talk to me, playful, asking me when he is going to see me .. When i am in England we always meet and he is always the one asking. Today he said 'call me if you get bored during the w/e !' (i never called him on this personal phone). With this information, what do you think ? How can i know if he is just friendly or a bit interested ? What should i do ? By the way, i will see him in two weeks. I do not want to scare him either because if he is not interested i want to keep him as a friend. Thank you !
paddington bear Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Would you be happy with a long-distance relationship? Ask yourself that before proceeding. Sounds like he's interested, but you won't know until you see more of him. Did he give you his personal phone number and then you didn't use it?? Next time do! And flirt a little bit the next time you see him and tell him that you're looking forward to seeing him too. He has to know that you are interested in him before he would be brave enough to take things any further.
Author amythan Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 It is crazy. He always say he is looking forward to seeing me (and me too), saying he will take me to lunch ... we talk almost every day but he never show interest to go further ! Sometimes i feel like he just like me as friend or that he thinks this is not such a good idea ..
paddington bear Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 You: "Gosh I'm really hungry, how about that lunch you mentioned?"
Author amythan Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 Update: Shame on me ! I am laughing because i am such a fool .. I thought the guy likes me. The usual chat, laugh, when i am going to see you blah blah ... Once he told me when you come here we take you out for lunch, i asked who are "we" and he said "it means me". I decided to be more flirty (great idea ) so today i said i will be there next week and he said right away 'we will take you out', and i said 'just curious, "we" means the "royal we", right?" SHAME !!! He replays : 'myself and Jeff'. And Jeff is someone who i secretively date for months, broke my heart and who is avoiding me since then ! I am so over him but of course, i do not want to hang out with my crush and him. Btw the guy i like is Jeff's boss ... How can i fix this ? Is this means the guy has no interest in me and is trying to make the point inviting someone else ? I am feeling so stupid ..
Lucky_One Posted September 22, 2008 Posted September 22, 2008 I would avoid lunch, and I would now avoid dating. Does this guy know that you used to sleep with Jeff? Was Jeff married, and was that why it was a secret?
Author amythan Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 I think he knows Jeff and i were pretty close but i do not think he KNOWS that we were sleeping together for months ... Actually i think he thinks we are good friends. Jeff is not married, it was a secret because, even if we do not work for the same company, we have some ongoing business to take care of and we didn't want people gossiping on our back .. I just feel awkward going for dinner, drinks and so on with them .. i will feel observed and i do not want to hang out with someone who is avoiding me. The fact he invited someone else is a bad sign, right ?
Author amythan Posted September 22, 2008 Author Posted September 22, 2008 No, he is not but i do not know that much about his life. This w/e was the first time he asked me to call him out of work, i didn't because i didn't want to be pushy .. Perhaps i misunderstood this ...
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