winx717 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 I am sick of being frustrated by this guy. He is so hung up on himself. I try to get over the whole situation and move on, but something keeps me waiting around for him to come around. He was in a relationship, I don't even know for how long and it didn't work out. I don't know any details about anything because I hardly know him, but he can't even give me enough time to go out and chat! He says that he is "not ready to date" which is absolutley fine with me. But my question is how can you know if you want to date someone when you can't even talk to them often enough to see if you'd be interested? I feel like he thinks that I am just there ready to pounce on him and drag him into a long relationship of some sort, but it is NOT like that. I just want to hang out with him. I too just got out of a relationship of 6 years. I am not ready to settle with someone again, but this guy has just sparked my interest. I feel all of these beautiful feelings for him, that I have never felt before, and while I would never tell him that, I feel like it could maybe be women's intuition. Ugh!!! I just had to vent. Thanks for reading.
The Collector Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Boys suck because this guy isn't attracted to you? Ok then.
Author winx717 Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 WOW! That is what I needed to hear. Thank you. And sorry about the subject title... I was just trying to make it catchy to get readers. Sorry if it offended anyone.
The Collector Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Ok, I didn't mean to be harsh. But on one hand you say you are fine with just hanging out and that you don't want to trap him in a relationship - but on the other you say he stirs all these special feelings... maybe he can sense that and doesn't want to lead you on. I realise you are just venting. But maybe you are projecting a little as you've just got out of a long relationship. Remember that you don't know him very well and could have all kinds of things about him that you wouldn't like. Like a small penis, haha.
Author winx717 Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 LOL... well that would just be wrong! You weren't harsh, but truthful. And that's ok. I do feel things for him, but barely know him... so it is just strange to me. Anyway, no I don't want to rush, just get to know him on a friend level, but it seems that he thinks that would be considered dating. He is kind of one of those dorky guys and has said to a friend of mine that he doesn't "understand why i'm interested in a dork like him." But maybe I like dorks! I just don't base who or what a person is by how they dress, talk, etc. He says that he is a home body and loves to spend time with his parents which is pretty much all I do, too. So I don't know if he thinks that I am some prissy girl that thinks I am better than him or what. But that is soooo not the case.
ed-205 Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Just a few suggestions, I don't know how useful they will be... > Get to know his Parents! If they like you, they won't let him forget about you for a moment! > Help him build a little self confidence. If he's into Stamp Collecting, start asking him questions about stamps so he can show you how much he knows about them. > If you focus too much interest on *him*, you might make him feel uncomfortable. Try showing an interest in the things he is interested in, (which is probably not himself). > That's all I got... : \ Ooo, wait! One more... > Don't out-dress him! Try to wear the female equivalent of whatever he wears.
JooLee Posted September 23, 2008 Posted September 23, 2008 dorks can be cute. they can show you things you never knew
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