lonelygurl Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 How do you actually say goodbye to someone and ask them to move out when you still love them. I posted before about how he no longer seems to really love me anymore and how my depression has been rough. I've made attempts to get things back but he seems uninterested. I feel my heart breaking all over again. I am now starting to regret us getting back together. I don't know how to tell him or what to say. I just know that our relationship is following the same pattern and pretty much the same time frame from our first time together. I'm really believing that he just doesn't know how to handle long term with all the ups and downs.
justaman99 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 This is a tough one and I'll offer a few things: 1. You're seeing the same pattern as before 2. Always trust a woman's instincts. You are a woman. 3. Talk to him and tell him to his face what your concerns are. Tell him he seems disinterested and look into his eyes and try and get a meaningful conversation from him. Gauge his interest. If he loves you, cares for you, he will look you in the eyes and listen and try and understand. If he's a boy, he'll look away, probably get angry or just brush off the whole thing as quickly as possible. You'll have your answer. Keep us posted. You're not being needy or demanding. You're being human. Don't take any dodgy bull**** or "I don't know" crap. It's time to look out for yourself. Yes I know you love him, but think about it for a second. What if he doesn't love you? -Just
Author lonelygurl Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 Thank you justaman99. I'm sure he still cares for me but it's not the same. He is bulling the same little BS games he did before. It just keeps adding up the same. I will just have to confront him and be prepared for the worst, which deep down I think I already know. Emotionally and finanically I'll be crushed, but the turmoil I experience with him everyday and the unsureness is getting bad.
justaman99 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Best to get through it now and build yourself up again as soon as possible. I wish you well in what you gotta do.
9Lives Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 yeah, if you love someone and they dont love yu back...it is not a relationship you want to stay in. He is there but not really there and he is not fully giving you his love. it is better to take it to the chin and move on. but it is very hard. dont think it will be easy...it is hard
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