Cherbear Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 He's going to his friend Monique's birthday party on saturday night and he's going alone. He said he thinks it's rude to bring me b/c he doesn't know Monique that well. Does this sound like a reasonable excuse to you? He's taken me to his friends parties before and all of a sudden it's rude to take me? I am wondering if there's any other reason? Or is he trying to tell me something? Should I be upset about this?
Angel1111 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Yes, you should be upset. This is a ridiculous excuse. Anyone who invites someone to a party expects them to bring their significant other. I'm thinking he wants flirt time alone with 'Birthday Monique'. And as a side-thought, since when do men give a fig about any female's birthday unless he has an interest in her? I'd be asking some hard questions about this situation.
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 To be honest, I know I'd have a problem with this. Why would it be rude to bring your gf to a b-day party? How long have you guys been together for?
Lucky_One Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Well, you have only dated for about 7 weeks, and he broke up with you about two weeks ago. So obviously you made up sometime in the past 12 days. Has the make-up been recent, or 12 days ago? If it is very recent, he still may feel unsure about you. Regardless, he is making a poor excuse; it is fine to take a GF/BF to a friend's party, unless it is a very small "numbered" party (like a dinner party for 12, and the hostess only has 12 place settings).
SweetGuy99 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Lame excuse. Plain and simple. My guess: He anticipating running into someone else at the party, and prefers to be alone .... for whatever reason (fill in the blanks) ... or he's simply uncomfortable in publicly showing his involvement with your relationship--which should be a bright 'red flag' for you. Any guy who doesn't want to take his girlfriend to something as innocent and innocuous as a birthday party is hiding something. Unless he's really just that 'out of the loop' when it comes to dating etiquette. Advice: Confront him. Tell him it's a lame excuse--and everyone you know thinks the same. If he's just clueless, maybe he'll relent. If not, then something else might be going on.
KinAZ Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 If he doesn't know her very well, why is her party such a big deal? If there's a reason this party is such a big deal, then he should be able to ask to bring you along if he's uncertain. I see someone mentioned that you two just got back together? If this is true, the only way I would be able to excuse something like that would be if he made those plans before you two got back together, and it was some formal RSVP type of event. Food, tickets, or seats for 12 people and only 12 people have already been ordered. However, even in some of those cases he should still be able to ask about bringing you along. Ask him to call her so that it wouldn't be rude, and see what he has to say to that...
LoveDeluxe78 Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 He's going to his friend Monique's birthday party on saturday night and he's going alone. He said he thinks it's rude to bring me b/c he doesn't know Monique that well. Does this sound like a reasonable excuse to you? He's taken me to his friends parties before and all of a sudden it's rude to take me? I am wondering if there's any other reason? Or is he trying to tell me something? Should I be upset about this? Not to freak you out but a friend of mine was dating this guy who didn't invite her to his female friend' bday party whom he had just met in one of his classes. She was really upset and the whole time felt he was up to something! Well, lo and behold, he went because he wanted some alone time with the Birthday girl and pictures surfaced of them being a bit friendly with each other and a friend of mine who went to her party told me she saw him kissing her in the back area behind the club! So yeah, just a tad bit shady! Just sayin....
GPFan Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 Does this sound like a reasonable excuse to you? He's taken me to his friends parties before and all of a sudden it's rude to take me? I am wondering if there's any other reason? Or is he trying to tell me something? Should I be upset about this?His excuse is not reasonable at all. Rudeness would suggest that he is supposed to be available to the birthday girl or another guest. You have every right to be upset.
Author Cherbear Posted October 1, 2008 Author Posted October 1, 2008 Thanks everyone for posting. It turns out that there's nothing going on between him and the bday girl. He might wanna meet somebody else at the party, but not the bday girl. I confronted him and he says he feels a bit crowded b/c we had spent every weekend together ever since we started dating, which was about 2 months ago. I asked him why isn't he taking me to the bday party(which i dont even wanna go b/c i dont know anybody there) and he said "so now we have to do everything together?" He says he has a tendency to shun himself from the world when he's in a relationship. So now he's trying not to do that. So i guess if he's telling the truth, I understand. I should just go to my own parties without him too, right? What do you think I should do in this situation?
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