hellokitty55 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 3 weeks ago I met someone through a mutual friend. he knows i like him, i know he likes me. im confused about what we are exactly. we text eachother everyday, talk on the computer, we hangout about 3-4 days a week alone & with other people, he holds my hand, kisses, he acts like my boyfriend & we make plans to do things weeks from now... also he's not seeing any other girls..in the very beginning i was drunk and he saw me kiss another guy and his friend said, "he saw that..that didnt make him too happy" so does he want to be exclusive? are we dating? i thought dating meant boyfriend/girlfriend but some people say dating is just getting to know eachother which is what we're doing but will it lead to a relationship soon?? on his facebook it says he's looking for: friendship & dating i dont want to ask him if he wants a girlfriend or just something casual...so what does "dating" mean?
konfuzd Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 The only person who can answer that question is the guy. Just ask him. I would suggest not coming right out and saying, "so are we bf/gf or what?" I'd say something along the lines of, "I really like what we've got going on between us. I think there may be something good here, what do you think?". Take it from there, see his reaction and go with the flow. Good luck!
carhill Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 My tidbit....keep this in real life and stay off of FaceBook...... The foundation of a healthy relationship is good communication. Great time to practice this IMO, you're dating now. Where it goes is up to you! Oh, and no more drunk-kissing other guys, unless it's your brother :D
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 In my experience, the best way to go about it is to wait for him to bring up the relationship talk. It sounds like it's heading in the right direction. 3 Weeks is really soon to have any sort of talk about where the "relationship" is heading- he could see any sort of asking as pressure, even though it's well intended on your end. Guys operate differently than we do- and they also operate on different time lines when it comes to defining a relationship. The best way to handle it is to keep having fun and get to know each other. he's not seeing anyone else, neither are you. You are having fun, and I am sure he is enjoying that you are fun. You don't have to ask him where things are going- you can just give him encouragement that you enjoy spending time with him and are having a lot of fun. That keeps things relaxed and guys like that. 3 weeks is too soon to have any sort of "talk" about intentions. His actions are telling you that he likes you and wants to spend time with you. There is no sign of disinterest- and many signs of interest. I used to make the mistake of trying to define things in a relationship- and it often backfired on me. They'd see it as pressure and distance themselves. Now I wait for them to bring up being exclusive- That has worked 100% of the time for me in a situation like yours. Seriously- he likes you, it's obvious- so keep it light, relax and have fun.
carhill Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Oh, yeah, forget they are young....we old farts do things a bit differently, with one foot on the banana peel and the other in the coffin OP, modify my communication advice to expressing your feelings about how you enjoy his company and the things you do together.......sometimes you'll date for a couple years and....oops....all of a sudden find yourself married
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