sedgwick Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 A man and a woman! It was THE first time in over two years that I've been attracted to anyone but Joe. I wasn't attracted enough to want to date them, but still. I had to go to the bike shop to get a new tire today, and while they were changing it in the back, I started a conversation with the guy behind the counter. He seemed cool and smart, so I made myself kind of flirt with him. Very subtly, but like when he mentioned that he was single, I said I was too. He didn't say it in any kind of obvious way -- we were talking about snowboarding, and I mentioned that an ex had tried to teach me to ski, and he said something about teaching his ex to snowboard, and somehow the fact that he was single came into the conversation. So I have a question for guys about this. If you're talking to a girl, do you mention that you're single if you don't think she's attractive? I'm not talking about wanting to go out with her, just in general. I have no freakin' clue how the male mind works, and my last relationship really drove that home, so I'd appreciate your opinions! I feel kind of good about today. I am by nooooooo means whatsoever ready to date anyone, but at least I had a glimmer of thinking people were attractive, and of being able to very innocently flirt with someone. I'm going to view that as progress.
0hpenelope Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 I have no advice to give in this situation, but I'm posting to let you know that I'm really happy for you.
nickelinadime Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Don't forget, not all male minds think alike. Personally, I wouldn't mention my status to anyone I didn't think was at least pretty.
Ingenue Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 Good for you sedgewick. I unfortunately also don't have advice as I haven't been out in the dating pool yet since my break-up and haven't really done the dating thing in a long time. I suppose all i can say is I've never really explicitly mentioned my single status. I would just behave as I normally do and if there was anything there, it would spark.
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 I don't think most people make a point of revealing they are single unless it's something they want you to know. If I am not interested in someone, i will either say nothing or lie and say I have a bf. Good for you.
nowhereman82 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 He specifically mention he was single? or just mention he taught the ex? If he said he was single before/after talking about the ex...then I would say that's a good indicator he was into you.
Author sedgwick Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 We were talking about how he teaches snowboarding, and I told him I'd tried to ski once and the lesson I learned is that you should never let someone you're dating teach you to ski. He said, "Yeah, I tried to teach my ex to snowboard," and then he kind of laughed and said, "I'm single now."
Ocean-Blue Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 This is awesome news, sedgwick!!! I'm glad you're checking other people out. It's a sure sign that you still have an itch that wants to be scratched.
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