neveragain2493 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 i have a best friend, whom we can call 'brett', for over 6 years now. lately, he has changed.. so let me break this down for you. - brett is picked on by the guys because they think he is gay. everyone does.. brett has a guy friend who he talks about all the time, and sulks if the friend does not talk to him. he acts as if they are in a relationship, and the things he says really does question his sexuality to me. - brett will talk about / spread gossip about / start an issue with someone that causes drama, but he will turn around and say 'i'm such a big Christian.. i love God.. i think i'm going to go write Scripture now..'. he'll say things like 'if you weren't a Christian, i wouldn't be friends with you..', and i think it's wrong to 'shove' your beliefs down someone else's throats. i think you should respect one's opinion, but brett always thinks he is right. - brett is very paranoid.. if someone simply does not say hello, he will start a huge issue from it. - brett will act stupid on purpose. he will ask VERY stupid questions only for attention. the other day, we did a current event on amphibians, and he randomly asks: 'so.... wait... the lizards can choose which gender they want to be..? whaaaat..?' brett was never like this until now. we are all tired of it. he acts very depressed / 'emo', and cries a lot about it. sometimes i think it's all for attention. i love him, but who i'm seeing is not my friend. you have to understand that brett does not believe he is doing anything wrong whatsoever, and anyone who tells him different is dead wrong. what do i do?
Meaplus3 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 i have a best friend, whom we can call 'brett', for over 6 years now. lately, he has changed.. so let me break this down for you. - brett is picked on by the guys because they think he is gay. everyone does.. brett has a guy friend who he talks about all the time, and sulks if the friend does not talk to him. he acts as if they are in a relationship, and the things he says really does question his sexuality to me. - brett will talk about / spread gossip about / start an issue with someone that causes drama, but he will turn around and say 'i'm such a big Christian.. i love God.. i think i'm going to go write Scripture now..'. he'll say things like 'if you weren't a Christian, i wouldn't be friends with you..', and i think it's wrong to 'shove' your beliefs down someone else's throats. i think you should respect one's opinion, but brett always thinks he is right. - brett is very paranoid.. if someone simply does not say hello, he will start a huge issue from it. - brett will act stupid on purpose. he will ask VERY stupid questions only for attention. the other day, we did a current event on amphibians, and he randomly asks: 'so.... wait... the lizards can choose which gender they want to be..? whaaaat..?' brett was never like this until now. we are all tired of it. he acts very depressed / 'emo', and cries a lot about it. sometimes i think it's all for attention. i love him, but who i'm seeing is not my friend. you have to understand that brett does not believe he is doing anything wrong whatsoever, and anyone who tells him different is dead wrong. what do i do? Share your feelings with Brett. Let him know about the things he is doing.. perhaps he's not really aware...of how his behavior has changed. If he truly is suffering from depression then he most likely needs to seek help. Good luck. AP:)
Author neveragain2493 Posted September 20, 2008 Author Posted September 20, 2008 we've tried this. he will either hang up the phone on us or walk away. sometimes he will even come to us and ask: 'what's wrong with me?' and when we try to tell him, he thinks there's nothing wrong with what he's doing.
Konfuzion Posted September 20, 2008 Posted September 20, 2008 From my bout with depression (8 years) I can tell you depressed people really need to hit rock bottom (in most cases) and decide for themselves to get some help. Because any help they do get wont matter if they are not ready for it.
superd Posted September 21, 2008 Posted September 21, 2008 I don't agree with konfuzion, from my experiences with people that are depressed as opposed to other forms of mental illnesses is that a depressive person will not let it get that low before seeking out help. One of the signs the person needs help is a sudden bout of obnoxiousness which is really a cry for help. Only when the person acts like a wise ass, do they need to put in their place. After that, the depression will clear up.
Author neveragain2493 Posted September 26, 2008 Author Posted September 26, 2008 this is a lot more than depression. update: today, i told him hey, and he just stared at me and just started talking to caleb [the boy he acts as if he's in a relationship with].. he wouldn't sit with us at lunch, and he didn't even say bye. so i sent him a text that said 'just because there is something wrong with you doesn't mean you've gotta take it out on your best friends who did NOTHING to you. caleb has his baseball friends, but we have always been there for you. but don't worry, we'll be sure to remember this.' and he said 'is that right, now? because i know you're all talking about me behind my back. yeah. you, carley, tyler, bethany, and victoria.' so i said 'here's an idea: stop believing stuff you hear and confront people before you acting this way with your friends. the only stuff we've said about you is what we've told you to your face, but i'm sure you can't say the same thing about talking behind our backs. because you have changed. but you always think YOU'RE right. just like now.' and all i got was 'whatever, i haven't changed. you're all out of my life anyways.' he pretends as if his friends and i are not there. i saw him leave a comment on his friend's page saying 'i'm glad to know who my REAL friends are, and that they'll always be there for me!' that irritated me. it has nothing to do with not being there for him. i thought seriously about telling the friend our side of the story, but i decided against it. it hurts that she is backing him up without considering that there is another side to the story. as long as she is supporting him, he will continue to think he, and only he, is right. there is one friend in particular, 'tyler', who brett is saying is the main problem who started all this. i told tyler that maybe he should talk to brett, since brett says he is the problem.
whichwayisup Posted September 26, 2008 Posted September 26, 2008 This guy is mentally ill - That's the bottomline. His depression has taken over and with that brings many mood swings, including paranoria. Don't feed into it. Don't react at all, if possible.
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