Jerry83 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Hey fellow loveshack-ers, Here is the thing, I've been seeing a girl for about a year now and things between us were really hitting off at one point, but then she told me she had a boyfriend of 4 years that she wasn't ready to dump yet..... Anyway, things started going off and on between us, she would try to end things between us, but the passion was strong and we always ended up together for some time and then, repeat. At any rate, a couple of months ago we ended it for good and remained quasi-friends after that, we still missed the hell out of each other but I tried keeping some distance despite my feelings, and slowly things began growing colder, phone calls would become further apart, you all know how it goes. I was very hurt because she choose someone else over me, but what could I have done, I still care for her deeply and love her and it might sound stupid but I still want her. A few days ago I called her, she wasn't feeling well and wasn't in the mood to talk, and in the middle of our conversation she tells me that for the last two months since she went back to him after breaking it up with him (now, he doesn't know about me) they have had nothing but fights, and she learned that he had another relationship going on for the last 4 months, she dumped him...this is all in a nutshell. it's all a first to me, I don't have much experience here and really don't know how to react, I want her still and hope there can be something between the two of us....how to go about it from here? what do you guys think?
BCCA Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 You're in a really tough spot. I understand that you have feelings, but this girl was cheating on her BF with you. She was having the best of both worlds while you were getting neglected. I'm one of those people that takes infidelity as a deal breaker. The situaton isn't personal to her ex, meaning that the chances are she would do the same thing to anyone else under the same circumstances; i.e. you. I can't tell you who to have feelings for, but just try and take some things into consideration before investing too much of your emotions. She keeps going back to the ex, and has no problem yanking you around like a yo-yo. What about what you need from a relationship? Your wants/needs? You cant just cast all that aside to satisfy her. My honest opinion is to get as far away from this as possible. I'm sorry, but I just cant see anything here that makes me think she cares a whole lot.
jerbear Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I was very hurt because she choose someone else over me, but what could I have done, I still care for her deeply and love her and it might sound stupid but I still want her. When she chose someone else over you. It is time to let her go and move on.
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