EmperorR Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 What if shE was your only friend that you spent all your time with, all the friends you had at one point you stopped talking to them years ago . I think that's why nc is so hard for me not only is she my love she as my best and only friend and it's like I Have no one.
wayfaerer1 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I'm in the same boat brother - I didn't stop seeing my friends, but I rarely made time for them - spent just about all of my time with her and would always put her first over my friends (mainly because we had a long distance relationship every time she went back to college at the end of the summer). I know how you feel... I have some friends to lean on, but because my ex gf was pretty much my life, losing her is like losing a lung or something - I can hardly function, just enough to breathe but not much else. We'll pull through this though - I have faith in you and I have faith in myself. But believe me, right now, I'm just as devestated as you are. Not only has my heart been broken into little pieces, but I've also been betrayed.
BigAl Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Count me in... same thing. She was all I had. I guess it's time to get out and meet another.
Dolorian Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Ha, I can relate to you guys as well. Maybe that's why they dumped us, because we made them our priority and started to smother them. I don't know, maybe I'm only talking to myself here. 2 weeks after our break-up, I started to make new friends and I'm more who I usually am. Take things slow. Don't expect too much. Start to talk to people. Take care of yourselves.
ahhhchooo Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Most my friends went overseas or started relationships of their own. I had noone to talk to but her. Of course, she didn't make time for me. Totally alone... sucks. I started spending a lot more time with my family.
Author EmperorR Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 Count me in... same thing. She was all I had. I guess it's time to get out and meet another. I know my phone doesn't even ring, I just can't call up people from three years ago and be like hey member me I dumped spending time with you but now I'm available.
Trialbyfire Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 You guys ended up in codependent relationships, where you gave "you" up to "her" or "him". This is bad mojo. The next time someone tries to isolate you from your friends or you find yourself doing this, STOP! So, what's stopping you from making new friends, if you're not comfortable reconnecting with old friends? This is one way to help you get back onto your feet, bump up your confidence while creating a new social network that could potentially lead to more dating material.
Intergalactic Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 agreed with trialbyfire. getting into a relationship where you become dependent on that person is dangerous. you need to find a balance - have a life outside that person as well as with them. no one likes to be relied so heavily upon, and because you have no idea what the future will bring, cutting your friends out for one person is not a good idea. a relationship is supposed to be two personalities complimenting each other, not a dependency.
lofi_tokyo Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 There must be someone you can call? In my experiences, true friends, even if you've neglected them somewhat, will be there for you when you need. But... maybe I just believe too much in the good will of people.
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