aredcherry Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 This is a strange situation, one I am having a hard time understanding myself, much less verbalizing. I met a guy on a social networking site. His profile says he's married, but he said he wasn't. We communicated for 7 months, and he kept saying he'd like a relationship eventually, but of course that never happened, because I am 99.99% sure he is married. I got frustrated many times and walked away from the situation. He managed to talk me into listening to him again, but it was the same old b.s. He never wanted to carry it offline, but kept trying to make me believe that he would, eventually. I said the hell with this. I walked away for the last time, because he turned totally cold and I thought well, this is just part of his sick ass game and I am not letting him continue with his head games anymore. When I did, a few weeks later he shows up on another website I was using (how he tracked me down is beyond me) and threatened me. To be exact, he threatened to torture and rape me, called me his bitch ex-girlfriend, said I was a cunt & he was going to get me. I am terrified of this guy. I don't know how serious he is, but to say he is totally scary is an understatement. I am afraid to post anywhere anymore, open new accounts, interact with anyone. I am so confused and frightened I am having a hard time functioning. How serious should you take a threat like that?
dcgirl33 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 very serious and the cops internet crime division can easily track him down thru his IP address. call the cops.
qtkat31 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 My goodness, you've really caught yourself a winner haven't you! I would certainly take the threats seriously b/c you don't know what or who you're really dealing with in this situation! There are so many dangerous situations when dealing with these online sites, you never know what could happen! Are you using the same user names on these sites you are on? I would definitely cut all contact with this person, change whatever you need to change (emails; cancel accts; etc.) Please tell me this person doesn't have your personal information? (where you live?)....
Author aredcherry Posted September 18, 2008 Author Posted September 18, 2008 I never gave him my real name or where I live. Unfortunately, he has given some big damn hints that he knows both. How he found out is again, beyond me.
tinad5 Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Do you have all the email correspondences from him? I would print them all out and report it right away. Way too creepy to not take this seriously.
Lucky_One Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 Stop using all those old accounts. If you truly can't find new forums, then create a new persona for yourself - fake details, fake everything. If he has given hints about your real name and city, but not told you exactly what they are, the chance is good that he is just bluffing. He is messing with your head to make you believe something. If you emailed him from your acct, then he can open full headers and find the IP of your ISP and trace that using arin.whois, or some IP tracking program like that. It is pretty accurate at giving your general area, unless you are with AOL. I had a GF who was married, and she started an online flirtation with this guy in a chat room. He was nuts, and went nuttier when she tried to stop talking with him. He started emailing her husband all sorts of crazy stuff, and told her that he would find her and rape and kill her, too. She was petrified. Eventually she got a lawyer to send him a letter to cease, and she found out that he had been in all sort of trouble in PA, and her lawyer called his probation officer. He stopped the harassment immediately. Bc of her story, I don't really trust any guys online. There are some major freaks out here.
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