thirtythree Posted September 18, 2008 Posted September 18, 2008 I'm not perfect. Who is? But --- I've got it going on, successful career, wonderful kids, good-looking, well rounded.... Married once --- I was 22 - two kids by 27 --- he cheated. I got over it, if I was being honest with myself anyway; I loved him, but was not in love with him. Dated two guys after - once complete psycho (the rebound) and one wonderful (but wouldn't work because of religion, and my having kids...who am I kidding, he was a wimp!!!). Met and dated "the one" for three years. Looked and felt better than ever. Some "disagreements" came up...I/we dealt with them (better at first, then progressively worse. It was one of those relationships where you feel like you're in heaven 85% of the time and hell's hell 15% of the time. I was so in love that to me that 15% was completely worth it He asked me to marry him. I said yes. Slowly the 15% started to grow...against common-sense, but following my heart, we married - And to make a long story short...remember that 15%? Try 80%....I found out things about him that I couldn’t live with...confronted him...we went to counseling...tried hard over the year to mend things...finally got to a place where the trust and commitment was coming back...just to find out that he was completely unfaithful, and lying. So...I'm here because I have the most broken heart ever. I can't believe how something so real, so compatible, could disappear. We are in the process of divorcing. I know that I can never trust him after all is said and done, but how do I forget the love, the bond? How do I trust again? There's soooooo much more I can say -- I guess I hate loving someone, without being able to say it to him, knowing that it can't work. Thanks for reading, if you've made it this far ;
Amy22 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 I have been through 2 break ups where I had been with the person for along time. And everyone always said it takes time for you to get over it. I hated that because you want to feel better now. But they were right. Time does make it better. I know it sucks because you want to feel better now. It will probably take you longer to trust another guy because you have been betrayed. But know that all guys won't be unfaithful and lie. Try to keep your head up and stay busy. Post here I know it helped me a ton.
SarahRose Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 I'm so sorry you are going through this. Yes regardless of the circumstances it does take time to heal and get over a marriage. It will be hard to trust but there really are guys out there who don't behave like that. I left a marriage after 20 years and left a 4 year relationship. I can't even think about another guy right now.
Author thirtythree Posted September 19, 2008 Author Posted September 19, 2008 Thanks I know time is a great healer --- I guess this time around, I was completely invested and already burned once...makes you question what the bigger picture really is, you know?
Amy22 Posted September 19, 2008 Posted September 19, 2008 It does make you question the bigger picture. And what better things may come in life.
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