My story

[baby-boo]

I know alot of you will be hurting right now, and i want you to know that i fully FULLY understand your pain. ive been there, and it pulls you apart.

 

But this is my story. I hope you will read it, as i want to let you all know that good can come from bad things...

 

and that it really is true that NO MAN IS WORTH YOUR TEARS, AND THE ONE THAT IS, WONT MAKE YOU CRY.

 

My first ever love, Peter. I loved him unconditionally, i did everything for him and i gave him everything i had.

 

After the first few years of the relationship things went downhill. He started getting violent towards me, stopped wanting sex, showed little affection... but i didnt stop loving him.. the good times we occaisionally had kept me holding on.

 

Finally he finished me. Told me he didnt love me, and he hadnt for ages, but he didnt have the balls to tell me.

 

I was devastated. i love him so much, my world was torn apart. i couldnt eat and i couldnt sleep, everyday was a challenge and it felt like i was loosing....

 

But then after a month of depression he asked me back out. He said he would change. He wouldnt hurt me physically or mantally. I belived him.

 

But a week into the new relationship we had a bad argument. I knew i had to be strong.

 

I ended the relationship, it was the hardest thing ever. I had abandoned all my friends during the relationship but thankfully they were all there for me still, and gradually things seemed to get better.

 

I started seeing a new guy, who was loving and caring and everything i could ask for. BUT I STILL KEPT THINKING ABOUT PETER... even after everything he did to me part of me still clung to the memories.

 

Then one day me and peter ended up talkin over the intenet. After half an hour of civilised conversation i asked him to be honest with me, i wanted to know why things had went so badly in our relationship.

 

HE TOLD ME HE HAD BEEN CHEATING ON ME, from started to finish he had been sleeping with other girls. thats why he stopped wanting sex with me, through guilt. He told me he did love me but after doing it once and getting away with it he couldnt stop. He told me that he had cheated on me with dozens of girls, and he was sorry, but thats why it all broke down.

 

Hearing this crushed me, knowing our whole relationship was a joke, how could he have loved me and done that to me, i feel like such a fool.. He cheated on me and Hit me but i kept loving him.

 

Either way knowing this really helped, I dont have any fond memories left and i dont think about him like i used to. That arsehole has left me insecure and i find it hard to trust people.

 

But my new guy is very understanding, and he's always there for me. I never thought i could love anyone else after peter, but i love my new boyfriend with all my heart. He's patient with me and understands that i have some insecurities.

 

I hope u read my whole story, im sorry it was so long, but i really wanted to share it with you, please leave a message, thinkin of you all, you can get through the hard times if you just believe in yourself, its now you will find out who really is a true friend.

 

abbi x x x

[WiseOne1]

Yes you can get through the hard times, mostly you need to let fully go of the past. Ofcourse thats easier said than done.

 

You should be happy with your new BF, and that you no longer have to deal with the old BF, he doesnt deserver you and never deserved you.

Give you heart and emotions to someone who does love and deserve you, someone like your new bf.

 

So if peter wanted you back, would you leave the new guy for him?

[baby-boo]

GOD NO.

 

i have no respect for him atall anymore..

 

i thought me and peter could maybe stay as friends, but i dont even want that anymore.

 

im just glad to have him out of my life.

 

all the good times mean nothing after finding out he cheated on me countless times.

 

I probably look like the biggest fool on this site - i stayed with someone who hit me and cheated on me.

 

But im proud to say im a stronger person from it, and ive most definatly learned from my mistakes.

 

I love my new guy with all my heart, its a much happier healthier relationship.

[WiseOne1]

GOD NO.

 

i have no respect for him atall anymore..

 

i thought me and peter could maybe stay as friends, but i dont even want that anymore.

 

im just glad to have him out of my life.

 

all the good times mean nothing after finding out he cheated on me countless times.

 

I probably look like the biggest fool on this site - i stayed with someone who hit me and cheated on me.

 

But im proud to say im a stronger person from it, and ive most definatly learned from my mistakes.

 

I love my new guy with all my heart, its a much happier healthier relationship.

 

Thats great. And no you dont look like the biggest fool on the website, Im probably the biggest fool on the website.

 

Your doing just fine then, once you no longer will get back with the ex, your officially over the ex. You over him, its just that your still dealing with the emotionally aftermath of it.

 

Your more hurt at you spent months and years of your life with someone who wasnt who you thought them to be. You hurt that you could have been given your love to someone who loved you, instead of him.

[baby-boo]

Thats great. And no you dont look like the biggest fool on the website, Im probably the biggest fool on the website.

 

Your doing just fine then, once you no longer will get back with the ex, your officially over the ex. You over him, its just that your still dealing with the emotionally aftermath of it.

 

Your more hurt at you spent months and years of your life with someone who wasnt who you thought them to be. You hurt that you could have been given your love to someone who loved you, instead of him.

 

 

But you are the WiseOne1 lol, how can u be a fool at the same time?

 

lol

 

yeh thats exactly it, he's not the person i thought he was... it wasnt long ago we spoke on the internet about him cheating on me, so im looking forward to getting a chance to take all of his old pressies to the oxfam shop lol. Bye bye teddies!

[george35]

Hitting someone needs to be the deal breaker. No one has the right to do that. I’m glad you’re out of there.

I hope if it ever happens again you won’t wait to leave. Real men don’t hit women, period!

[baby-boo]

Hitting someone needs to be the deal breaker. No one has the right to do that. I’m glad you’re out of there.

I hope if it ever happens again you won’t wait to leave. Real men don’t hit women, period!

 

 

oh trust me, i'd be out without a second glance!

 

i feel like such a stronger person!

[WiseOne1]

But you are the WiseOne1 lol, how can u be a fool at the same time?

 

lol

 

yeh thats exactly it, he's not the person i thought he was... it wasnt long ago we spoke on the internet about him cheating on me, so im looking forward to getting a chance to take all of his old pressies to the oxfam shop lol. Bye bye teddies!

 

Lol thats true Im am the Wiseone and im rarely ever wrong about anything. Normally Im even able to predict when someone will come back, acouple of times i predicted the exact day.

 

But when it comes to my own problems im useless. I stayed with a girl that had feelings for her ex, and she then acted like she choose me over her ex, but when he left he had damaged our relationship and things were never the same.

 

I still stayed with her even though she did some crazy things, like letting friends come between us or ex's or not putting to much effort into the relationship, so soon she said she didnt feel the same way, she cried and cried many times about us staying friends

"we were best friends 5 years before we hooked up" and then she got a new bf and im nobodys fool, I could care less about the friendship thing, because she treated me wrong.

 

Anywayz, you need to get rid of everything, you've already made the best step, you've made the steps that alot of people here on LS havent made and have been going in circles for months.

 

1. You got a new BF.

2. You went NC.

 

You have put tremendous amount of focus into moving on and thats gonna pay off. You need to just realise fully and stop trying to guess rather who he is, or what happened, because the person you thought you knew never exisited.

 

And once you do that, you might even be able to be friends with him, I mean really friends, to the put that your even willin to give him relationship advice.

[baby-boo]

Lol thats true Im am the Wiseone and im rarely ever wrong about anything. Normally Im even able to predict when someone will come back, acouple of times i predicted the exact day.

 

But when it comes to my own problems im useless. I stayed with a girl that had feelings for her ex, and she then acted like she choose me over her ex, but when he left he had damaged our relationship and things were never the same.

 

I still stayed with her even though she did some crazy things, like letting friends come between us or ex's or not putting to much effort into the relationship, so soon she said she didnt feel the same way, she cried and cried many times about us staying friends

"we were best friends 5 years before we hooked up" and then she got a new bf and im nobodys fool, I could care less about the friendship thing, because she treated me wrong.

 

Anywayz, you need to get rid of everything, you've already made the best step, you've made the steps that alot of people here on LS havent made and have been going in circles for months.

 

1. You got a new BF.

2. You went NC.

 

You have put tremendous amount of focus into moving on and thats gonna pay off. You need to just realise fully and stop trying to guess rather who he is, or what happened, because the person you thought you knew never exisited.

 

And once you do that, you might even be able to be friends with him, I mean really friends, to the put that your even willin to give him relationship advice.

 

yeah. i never thought the whole NC thing would work, but its the best advice ive ever been given, in the end though im glad i contacted him,or i wouldnt have found out about him cheating, although it hurts it helps me let go.

 

Well, you definatly seem wiser from ur expiriences, sometimes its easy to deal with other peoples problems without being able to deal with our own... we all end up as loves bitch at somepoint.

 

and i have to admit im a bit gutted about gettin rid of the teddies, as theyr really nice... im a cuddly toy lover lol.

[WiseOne1]

yeah. i never thought the whole NC thing would work, but its the best advice ive ever been given, in the end though im glad i contacted him,or i wouldnt have found out about him cheating, although it hurts it helps me let go.

 

Well, you definatly seem wiser from ur expiriences, sometimes its easy to deal with other peoples problems without being able to deal with our own... we all end up as loves bitch at somepoint.

 

and i have to admit im a bit gutted about gettin rid of the teddies, as theyr really nice... im a cuddly toy lover lol.

 

Awwwww, I remember my first love ever, It was about 4 years ago. But i threw away our relationship shirt, that had me and her name on it, I thru away her valentines day gift and all her love letters it was about 400 notes.

 

I felt sooooo much better after that.

[baby-boo]

Awwwww, I remember my first love ever, It was about 4 years ago. But i threw away our relationship shirt, that had me and her name on it, I thru away her valentines day gift and all her love letters it was about 400 notes.

 

I felt sooooo much better after that.

 

 

bye bye teddies it is then !